aside from the fact that you're not 18 years old (i wouldn't approve of someone having sex until they are 18 years old), there isn't ONE THING WRONG WITH YOU!

YOU ARE PERFECT! trust me. you are good to go! i'm not sure what is bothering you. many guys ejaculate in 1 minute during sex which is NOT GOOD! a woman wants her man to last longer. 12-18 minutes is probably PERFECT. long enough to allow her to have plenty of fun without being too long (her getting dry, becoming painful, etc).

don't be frustrated or embarrassed about what you are doing. you are awesome!

i'm 26, i've been with a few men and i know what's good and bad.

jasmine

cause like on porn they last like about 30mins. I know I'm really dumb trying to compare myself to something as fake as that, but thats how I sort got used to it. And I really want to get rid of this feeling

you're not dumb for comparing yourself to porn. you're just human. i have a real problem with porn. the reason is because it's all staged. it's planned out, and it is designed to cater to the "fantasies" of (mostly men).

it's not realistic! the sexual methods are horrible! when a couple make love, they should do whatever comes naturally to them. this is intimate time, the most special, and important time in a relationship (well some of the most special and important times).

please don't use porn as a guide to do anything. there's a whole generation of guys who are 2nd guessing themselves when they're doing everything right because some man on porn didn't do it that way.

the flip side of this is that i had a b/f who thought he was a porn star when we started dating (he hadn't done anything before getting with me). it took a LOT of working with him to break him of the ridiculous expectations and awful techniques he learned from watching porn.

i'm not a prude. watching a couple make love is fine. it's hot, it's sexual, and sensual and awesome. porn is of no use other than for a man to watch for a quick "turn on". that's it.

if you want to watch porn, wait until you're my age and you understand yourself and your woman sexually. then when you have that background, you are much more able to discern what's appropriate.

when i was your age, i honestly thought that watching porn was a "victimless" crime. i saw it as fun and interesting, (probably because it was taboo) but a lot of it still turned me off. now i really understand who the victims of porn are. YOU are a victim. so is your girlfriend.

you may think i've flipped out telling you this, but certainly if you read through my comments you'll understand that my perspective is reasonable.

please don't use porn as a measuring stick for anything. i wrote this last statement like i did for a reason.
jasmine

Uhm i think you misunderstood me. I understand your point completely and I totally agree.

I just compare my ejaculation to porn. I already passed through that phase where I used porn as a reference to my sexual life, and trust me, it went HORRIBLY wrong...but that was with my old girlfriend.

I am more carefull on what I do and when to do it and feelings she has during our sexual activities. I DON'T just move in like a bulldozer and shove my dick in every hole she has lol

I masterbate less ever since I got with her. Porn just became boring and I look forward to our moments. cause they mean something. Not just 2 pieces of meat flopping all over the place on my 19" screen monitor lol

that doesent sound bad at all
but if your really worried about controling your ejaculation you can strengthen the control of your penis

this is a very simple and effective exercise that can give you better control when ejaculating

when your going to the bathroom daily try and start and stop the flow of your urine as many times as you can during the extent of your visit. it man hurt a little or feel weird but it is for the better
at first you will be able to get about 10-18 good starts and stops
after a while you should be able to start and stop it at will and this will strengthen your penis and carry over into the bedroom

are you serious?

when I am urinating it can effect the way I ejaculate if I do that exercise? o.O