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October 3rd, 2011
Im 18 and 2 months ago my grandad who i was extremely close to and who lived with us died of lung cancer i also found out 2 days ago my mum had a tumor on her lung i found out 1 day ago that it was terminal and today she died. Its all moving too fast, a few days ago we were sitting in the livingroom laughing and joking and everything was fine and now all of a sudden my world is falling apart and people are talking about death certificates and funeral arrangements, she was only 42 and didn't look or act older than 30 i just can't get my head around it. i also broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years last month which is just making me feel even more alone. im drowning and i need help but i don't know who to turn to as it was always my mum in the past, she was my best friend and my rock. i don't want to put anymore pressure on my dad or my younger brother is there any help i can get on the nhs? also my dad smokes and doesn't seem to be going to quit he has tried in the past but always started again does anyone have any advice on how i can help him stop?

I urge any smokers to stop now, my parents only knew for a week before she died and she was completely fine apart from a slight cough right untill the last two days, you might think you have time but thats what my mum thought, she told me that when her dad died she decided to stop but thought she had time to do it when she was ready now two months on she's dead. do it for your family especially if you have children because trust me its horrible watching your parent die and knowing that they will never be at your wedding or meet their grandkids ad knowing your mum/dad will now likely grow old alone and depressed.

If anyone has any advice on how to get through this and how i can help my dad and brother it would really help.

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SummersMummy
replied December 7th, 2011
Youre not alone.
Oh sweetie. I'm almost in the same boat as you. My Grandad and mum are both dying of cancer, only found out 3 weeks ago both at the same time. I'm 20 and my little girl is 21months old. Macmillan are brilliant for advice and someone to talk to. It's a free number aswell. It's also important to visit your GP, they can help assess how you're coping and help you in the right direction. It's important to talk about how you're feeling, don't bottle it up hun. My thoughts are with you, I'm already in pieces and mine are still alive. You're strong sweetie, remember that. x
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Maura9151
replied January 6th, 2012
Im 12 and my mom died wen i wyz 8. I guess i wuz still too young 2 understand emotions because i just starting to really grieve and get depressed this year. Plz help me. Idk wat 2 do. I hate my stupid stepmom. She is extremely verbally abusuve wen she is drunk which, in my case, us 4/7 days a week. She stays up late drinking with my dad which doesnt allow me 2 sleep, and on top of that i have insomnia and the lack of sleep plus grief equals depression. I act happy aroubd peeple so i didnt become a social outcast although every single moment i talk about anything all i think about is why my mom isnt here, and all the stupid boys at skool make those stupid my mom jokes which rly hurts. I have had 2 leave the classroom like 10 times. I cant deal with this. My grades are dropping and i cant focus.
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Maura9151
replied January 6th, 2012
Im 12 and my mom died wen i wyz 8. I guess i wuz still too young 2 understand emotions because i just starting to really grieve and get depressed this year. Plz help me. Idk wat 2 do. I hate my stupid stepmom. She is extremely verbally abusuve wen she is drunk which, in my case, us 4/7 days a week. She stays up late drinking with my dad which doesnt allow me 2 sleep, and on top of that i have insomnia and the lack of sleep plus grief equals depression. I act happy aroubd peeple so i didnt become a social outcast although every single moment i talk about anything all i think about is why my mom isnt here, and all the stupid boys at skool make those stupid my mom jokes which rly hurts. I have had 2 leave the classroom like 10 times. I cant deal with this. My grades are dropping and i cant focus.
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