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Q: talking to mom
asked by: vicky-hunnii on May 25th, 2008
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eloo need some more advise n tipz x
still aint came on so meanz missed dis month x Confused scared
do i really need 2 go 2 the doctorz what wuld they do if i was pregg ?
nd evrytym im around my mum i go all quiet
my best mate knows about it as i needed 2 tlk ta sme1 shez behind me all the way
how could i tell my mum any ideas lol im findin it hard as my mumz lke one ov my best mates and can tell her anything but just dont know how to put it x

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tyyy so much xxxx
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preggie meggie
replied on May 25th, 2008
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That was really hard to read! I just told my mom as it was nothing...she was okay. The best thing is to just do it.
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AyaMiyaki
replied on May 25th, 2008
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Could you please type in English like a normal person instead of whatever weird English slang jibberish language you've adopted? We've told you before that we can't understand you!

Take a pregnancy test if you've missed your period.
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vicky-hunnii
replied on May 25th, 2008
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but it like really hard cause i dont have a clue what she is going to say !
how old was you when you told your mum ?
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vicky-hunnii
replied on May 25th, 2008
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it's called slang what people use on msn god srriii thn use to typin like it
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AyaMiyaki
replied on May 25th, 2008
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When it's time to grow up and go into the work force, you're going to have to know how to type using real words. And here on ehealth, if you're asking for help and advice, it usually helps if we can actually understand your question. Have enough respect for us to at least TRY to talk normally so we can in turn try to help you.

Make sense?
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vicky-hunnii
replied on May 25th, 2008
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no sorry it dont make sense !!!!!!!!!!


fine il re type it ! god



heloo need some more advise n tipz x
still aint came on so means i have missed a month x
do i really need to go to the doctorz what would they do if i was pregg ?
and everytime im around my mum i go all quiet
my best mate knows about it because i needed 2 tlk ta sme1 shez behind me all the way
how could i tell my mum any ideas lol im findin it hard as my mum's like one of my best mates and can tell her anything but just dont know how to put it x
???????

thank you so much xxxx
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AyaMiyaki
replied on May 25th, 2008
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It doesn't make sense to you that we can't help you if we can't understand you? Here's an example.

Arethma cumlati boondika reet.

There's an answer for your question. Good luck understanding it. And here's a question for you.

Punreet woquaci einty?

Good luck answering it.

It is RESPECTFUL to type in a way that others can understand so they don't have to struggle to figure out what you're asking from them. If you can't understand that, I feel very sorry for you. If you can't break yourself away from typing in "MSN slang" or whatever you call it long enough to make yourself understood to people whose advice you're seeking, I can't imagine what you'll do when you break out of your teenaged bubble and enter the real world.

I'm sorry you're so inconvenienced by having to reword your post so we can actually understand it. If it's such a huge deal for you to speak properly in your PRIMARY LANGUAGE, I don't know what you're going to do if you actually have a baby on the way and have to grow up and take on some responsibility.
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vicky-hunnii
replied on May 25th, 2008
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i can speak normaly its just shorter to speak like it everyone does on msn so sorry
and not being funny or anything but you dont know me so how can you tell me to take responsibilty's its speaking slang you cant say that because im speaking slang i asked for advise not to be picked on how i speak on the fourm sorry ya but i wrote it out again and im being nice to u so it would'ent hurt to have some respect back !
i aint done nothing to you
im under enough stress as it is with out this
you would'ent understand what im going through
so sorry for any bother i have put you through ! Smile Smile
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kerryn
replied on May 25th, 2008
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Because you have missed your period, you need to take a test. You can get one of these at a chemist, or some sexual health clinics for youths do them free. When i went to the dr, i thought i was just sick, turns out i was pregnant, but all she did was give me advice and pamphlets on my options, she also took swabs and ordered blood tests for me. She then booked me in for the following week to see what i had decided (i knew what i was going to do before i left).
As for telling your mum, its going to be hard, im 18, was 17 at the time, but i didnt live at home and it was still hard, i was terrified that she would be disapointed, and she was. But she is still my mum, and ive recently had to move back home because my partner and i split up >Sad friggen men. I just walked in to her room and said mum, ive got some news. Im pregnant. And then i burst into tears, i was absolutely terrified. She told me she was disapointed, but that she would be there to help me the whole way, and she has been. shes now more excited than me, what with 4 weeks till she becomes a grandma for the first time! Your mum will be disapointed, maybe angry, but she will eventually come around and be excited. what are you going to do if you are pregnant? Plan your next steps before you tell her, it will help ease the blow because you will get 80 billion questions. Then again, you might tell her and she say I know, it has happened...my sister in law told me i waqs pregnant 3 weeks before i went and got tested. The longer you wait before you get tested, the worse off your baby will be and the harder it will be to tell your mum. This is the time when you need to be on prenatals/folic acid, and this is a crucial part of babys development. You made adult choices, now act like an adult.
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AyaMiyaki
replied on May 25th, 2008
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vicky-hunnii wrote:
i can speak normaly its just shorter to speak like it everyone does on msn so sorry


And our point was that the way your British friends speak on MSN looks like a lot of jibberish to most of us. I mean honestly, "mreee"? You drop the 'o' in more and add three e's on the end? WHY? At first I thought you were trying to say "me" and accidently put an r in there. What's the point of dropping the 'o' but adding three e's? Does that make it look cool? Is it honestly faster to type mreee than more? Mreee has more letters than more, you know.

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and not being funny or anything but you dont know me so how can you tell me to take responsibilty's its speaking slang you cant say that because im speaking slang i asked for advise not to be picked on how i speak on the fourm


Obviously you misunderstood my post. I didn't say that speaking properly was taking responsiblity. What I said was, if NOT typing in slang is such a big deal (your exact words were "fine il re type it ! god") what are you going to do when you're asked to do something bigger than that? Like, oh I don't know, spellcheck your child's grammar assignment? Type something for your employer? Fill out a medical form? Are you going to give attitude that you can't use your strange form of English then, too?

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sorry ya but i wrote it out again


Yeah, you were really gracious about doing it again. "fine il re type it ! god", remember?

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and im being nice to u so it would'ent hurt to have some respect back !


That's what this entire thing was about, you know. Showing US enough respect to make your posts legible. You said you didn't understand why we wanted that and then gave us attitude for doing it, like you were doing some grand thing instead of asking us for the favor of answering your question. We don't owe you anything. None of us are paid. We come here and answer questions because we care, and you show attitude when we NICELY ask you to speak proper English? You want to fuss at ME about respect?

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i aint done nothing to you
im under enough stress as it is with out this
you would'ent understand what im going through
so sorry for any bother i have put you through ! Smile Smile


Right, because you're the first teenager to ever think she was pregnant.

Look, I answered your question way up there. Go ahead and scroll up and read it. My point was, we can't understand your posts when you type like that, and if you want to ask other people questions whom you don't speak to on a chat program, you might want to type it out in a real language that people can understand... especially when they've made it clear they can't understand you. Type like a normal person and we'll be happy to answer every single question you have, sugar.
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aochriss
replied on May 25th, 2008
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First of all, I agree with every post AyaMiyaki has made in this thread.
Secondly, you are lucky she took the time to help you make your posts legible. Most people, myself included, gave up after the first sentence because we had no idea what you were asking.

Finally, this is a medical website, and most of the time the issues dealt with here are very serious. The most fundamental and important factor in receiving help is getting your problem understood by as many people as possible, so at least a few of the many who read and understand your question will respond to you with valuable answers.
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krystineM
replied on May 26th, 2008
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Here are some things you should and need to do,
take a pregnancy test, your a month late now right, a pregnancy test would be very accurate.
After that, you need to go to the doctors, they will do a urine test first, and if that is not accurate ask for a blood test.
Then you need to get on prenatal vitamins for the baby.
And you need to tell your mom.
Are you going to keep the baby? Does the father know your pregnant too?
A way you could tell your mother, is sit down calmly with her, and for support you could bring your best friend, and explain that you've taken a test and your pregnant, she is most likely going to be mad/upset, but dont fight back with her if she gets angry, just hear her out, and be calm. Tell her your plans if you are keeping the baby, make sure you have all your plans ready because she will ask you that.
The sooner she knows the more time she has to accept whatever your choice is.
I hope that helped a little.
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AyaMiyaki
replied on May 26th, 2008
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krystineM wrote:
And just so people dont harp next time, just type legibly so people dont spend all your time harping about how they cant understand your post, instead of answering your question.


Her question was answered, so you can stop right there.

And this wasn't the first post where she was point-blank told that she wasn't understood. Climb down off your pedestal, little girl.
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krystineM
replied on May 26th, 2008
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i just think ita amazing how you take so much time addressing her way of asking a question instead of just getting to the question shes asking.
im not on a pedestal, i just think its funny that you made a big deal over a little thing. her spelling.
so calm down there.
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AyaMiyaki
replied on May 26th, 2008
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Her question was answered in my very first post on this thread. Are you denying that? You're either denying it or ignoring it to try to make a point. It wouldn't be the first time for you, darling.

And I replied back because she came back with an attitude when she was told (for the second time) that her post wasn't legible. I'm trying to HELP the girl by explaining to her that if she wants people to help her, she needs to respect them enough to not make them work hard to understand her. If she were a foreigner it'd be one thing, but this is her primary language and she acts like it's a huge deal to just type normally instead of in some weird made-up language that she's been TOLD nobody can understand. How are we supposed to help her if she can't be understood? Why should we WANT to help her if she doesn't care enough about us to rephrase her question without giving attitude?

And honestly, taking swipes at me for correcting her is you climbing up on a pedestal. Stop trying to be a hero and worry about your own problems. In fact, next time why don't you keep quiet about ME doing something that YOU did YOURSELF in her first thread?

krystineM wrote:
please, proper english..if you talk and write properly you'll be much more successful and people will be able to address your question better..if they understood half the words your saying.


http://pregnancy.ehealthforum.com/health/a m-i-t141881-a1.html

Or did you forget about that?
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krystineM
replied on May 26th, 2008
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ha, i knew you were going to throw that at me.
but you see, i made that comment, and left things at that, did not go on a tangent about how it looks if someone else speaks or types unproper.
anyways, i was much better off having you on my ignore list, good day DARLING.
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Zanny
replied on May 26th, 2008
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krystineM wrote:
if someone speaks or types unproper
... the word's 'improperly', DARLING Wink
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krystineM
replied on May 26th, 2008
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thanks. i could really care less at this point.
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replied on May 26th, 2008
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Regardless of how Laura decided to address the issue, the original poster still needs to understand that she needs to type in plain English in order to be understood Krystine. Its just that simple. Dont try to start any unnessary drama that doesnt need to be started.
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