My son has Aspergers, ADHD and is Bi-polar. We recently moved to a town just a few miles away from the old one. He doesnt want to go to another school and i dont want him to either. I dont think he will make it at another school. He will be going into the 11th grade. We both have cried over this all summer. He doesnt take to changes very well. He tells me he will quit. Frankly ive thought about letting him. Ive thought about lying and say we live with my sister. Id have to have her go with me with 2 proofs of residency but im scared ill get her into trouble. I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Anyone have any suggestions? plz help
My thoughts are with you. I know how difficult it is having Asperger's and going to school -- especially with Bipolar. (I am 16; have Asperger's, and I am currently diagnosed with a Generalised Anxiety Disorder and Depression. I was in the 11th grade, but now I will have to repeat because of my medical issues, and I will be doing it through the home-schooling/TAFE option in Australia.)
If he really doesn't want to go to school, chances are even if he goes to school, he will not get a good mark. Kids with Asperger's really do not thrive in an environment they do not want to be in.
Maybe if you have a home-schooling option in your area or country, where he can be educated in a better environment, might help him. Or if they have special schools for kids with Autism Specturum Disorders in your area, that might help -- being with like minded kids helps immensely.
I really hope you find a good solution to this problem.
Thanks for replying. My son hasn't been diagnosed but im pretty sure he has depression and anxiety. I was diagnosed with it three years ago.
I think you probly know better than anyone what he is feeling like. Thanks so much.
If your son is doing well in the school he is in I would do everything you could to make sure he can stay there, especially if he's just two years from graduation and it's not too far away. I don't know where you are from but my son is 7 and he also has Aspergers and GAD and we called together a School Intervention Team meeting and discussed his case when we first got the diagnosis, and we put together a plan to help him succeed and monitor his progress. Like I said, it really all depends on where you are from if your from the US you can look up your district office you should have something like an "Exceptional Student" Education type office, they do evaluations and so on and you can explain his special needs and plead a case for keeping him in the school he's in. Ask the school principal where your son goes to school, there are more programs and options then you think if you can go digging. Good Luck!
Hey, thanks for the reply. My son is doing very well in school and for the past 2 years he made a few pretty good friends. He is in regular classes but for the classes he has trouble in (math for one) he has 2 teachers that helps him out with them. He loves these teacher. He calls them his other mom and dad.I love them to because i know they love Blake (my son)
I will do whatever i can to keep him there. I am aquainted with the school districts assistant super intendent and ive thought about talking to her but ive been advised by family that i shouldnt because if she cant do anything then there is no going back. Id have to put him into another school.
I will definatly look into some of the stuff that you have mentioned. Thanks alot
I have aspergers and I went through hell in school and dropped out at 15. It's a shame because if I wasn't in the enviroment that I was in I could have done quite well.
Maybe you could take him out of school so that he only goes back for his exams?