If I were you, I would see a doctor to verify pregnancy. Morning sickness usually starts 6 weeks into the pregnancy and since you are only about 1 month pregnant, you may not notice any symptoms yet. Watch out for sore nipples and breasts as this could be a sign of being pregnant.
Don't feel pressured into doing something you are against. You could give the baby up for adoption if you choose, or if you feel like abortion is the right decision for you, do not feel guilty about it. It is your body and no one can tell you what to do with it. There will be lunatics who try to tell you what to do, but know that the decision is yours and you do not have to justify yourself.
I recommend that you receive councelling to help you with your choice if at all possible. You are understandably scared and should not rush yourself too much. Good luck, and I will pray for you.

Please make sure that the next time you have sex, you are protected. If you did not want to spend the rest of your life with this man, why did you agree to have sex with him without making sure you couldn't become pregnant? It is sad that because so many woman do not take precautions, they then have to resort to abortion as a method of birth control. A small precentage of women use protection, and still a pregnancy occurs, but the majority do not.

Sex wasn't intended and it happened. And worse is he came right away (sorry if i sound bad) so the minute he did, he was like omg I came inside, and i rushed up washed myself as much as i could, but I guess that didn't help. I did not expect him to even do what he did, I really didn't. Well what is done is done, and I can't be pregnant. My parents will kill me, literally, or my dad will probably have a heartattack or something (God forbid), I know i sound crazy, but I come from a very strict Islamic background, and my diong was wrong and I feel really really ashamed. There is no way I can give birth, and that is why im opting for abortion. Im not even using it as a method of birth control. I just didn't expect my first time to last like 5 minutes and resulting in me being pregnant.

i was in the same posesion as you my dad is a muslim and my mam isnt i dont live with my dad i live with my mam but i got preg and found out after 5 mounths i was preg, i didnt know what my dad would think but i got my mam to tell him and he SUPRISINGLY is alrite like what can you do hes not going to dis own you or anything but on the other hand you have to think about you and what you think is best.

One rule to remember....unprotected sex, first time, last time, ANY time, can make a baby. There is no time frame. Sperm can swim faster than a hot rod, it doesn't matter how fast or slow the man is. NEVER have sex without protection unless you want to become a parent.

Your mom & dad probably would not have been so critical if the father had been someone you planned to marry, but it's hard to speculate what they will say. If you absolutely do not think you are ready to be a mother at this time, then you've made the right decision. You sound like the kind of girl who may have learned a valuable lesson from all this, and I hope you did, because years from now, when you are married and settled, you might think back, and feel a twinge of sadness that a little life had to be lost because of a careless moment. Good luck honey, and be safe from now on.

Well I live with my dad and my mom and I do follow my religion.. so my dad will not be happy.. neither will the rest of my family..

I know i have learnt my mistake and believe me, the next time i do have sex will be after marriage.. Thank you raven for your words... I know I will be held responsible for this guilt for years to come.. but I guess that is something that I have to live with. I can't be changed.

Tomorrow is my appointment and I just want this over with. I can't hold this in my heart anymore. Even when I pray I sit and literally beg for forgiveness from god. I just feel so dumb and ashamed and so stupid. I never thought me, I used to literally hate on my friends back in the day, and Karma has played its game on me. Tomorrow I will be 4 weeks and 5 days and I hope that is ok for a surgical. I can't get a medical done because I will be leaving the country next week and won't be able to come back for a follow up until after a month, so I am hoping the surgical will work. One of my friends told me that the sound of the vacuum will haunt you for years to come, cuz she said thats how her friends felt. I just hope some time from now God does forgive me for my mistake and I know that I will repent it for as long as I am alive.

I apologize for rambling, I guess i just need a place to vent, express, cry, any other emotions that come along with this feeling inside of you.. :-/

Don't worry honey, you will be forgiven. God forgives all his children. You make a mistake, it happens, and it's unfortunate, but the best thing about a mistake is that you can learn from it. God bless and take care.

hey there
what happens if u do hav a choice but are not sure which is the best one? my hubby doesnt want another baby rite now , bad timein, but we can keep it but then our plans change , we already hav 2 children! cant make up my mind, i dont want to go through an abortion, was disgusted at the pics,either way i wil feel guilty and get the blame, although hubby is mad at himself,lol
belive it or not i knew we were goin to hav another baby, i guessin girl, feels rite , already got name, shay- means gift, after all when u get given a baby its a gift from god, why would anyone want to destroy it? ok so i made up my mind but my hubby not 100% happy, now what?, should i feel guilty and do what makes him happy? i know i wont forgive myself if i go through it!
i hav a guilty concience! dont know what to do ?

do what you think is rite.. u are the one carrying the baby.. so u get to make the decision.. i know abortion is wrong but under the circumstances i am giong thru its a necessity... a very big necessity.. my life is a big mess... so yeah... i think you should keep the baby because u have a hubby to support you no matter what, its not like he will leave you. for me. I have no one to support me.. my family will disown me.. the guy that did make me preggo i dont want him. it was a huge mistake.. it was my first time and this is the punishment i get from god. so i am wililng to repent as much as i can.

wel im getin the answer that i thought i would get and when i hear it i know i should keep this precious gift! thanks for the advice , good luck to u, my window is open to chat! tough world we'r livin in, wish we all had family to talk to and support us , just aweful to be alone when u really need sumone the most!

i pray for everyone that they may be forgiven, only U God Almighty will understand,please Father help us and answer our prayers, Amen

Best of luck to you and your pregnancy. It is a gift from God. I feel that way too but i wish my situation wasnt so messed up. Thank you for your kind words, I really appreciate it. I can't even go to my family. I have a coworker I go to which makes me feel a tad bit better. I can't even go to the guy because he keeps talkin about being with me when i dont want to and i just think he is saying that because he knows I am preggo. I do pray to my Almighty and pray that he does forgive me for what I am doing and have done. God loves his followers and to make learn things he puts us through tests, and I am guessign this is one of my tests in life.

i understand ur situation cos iv already been there done that , thats why im really really feelin guilty cos i should know beta,and hav leartn my lesson. i promised myself iv get married and i did, so thats good , but i neva planned for another abortion! so i think GOD may forgive u the first time (hey we'r all dumb when we'r young) but what about the second time? i hav no excuse cos i can keep this baby! it feels bad the first time, the second time u know u shouldnt even think about it , u know that sayin, FOOL ME ONCE, SHAME ON U, FOOL ME TWICE, SHAME ON ME!!!
i do believe GOD puts us through tests, this is definetly one of them, cos its no joke~!
wel i know u should neva stop prayin and askin for help, even if u dont get the anwers u want, trust me their is a reason for everything, so weird but it really does happen, im glad alota things happened to me.
if i didnt hav an abortion i wouldnt be overseas with 2 gorgeous kids makin money for our future, on the other hand i could hav kept the baby and id be stuck in my country with that stup*d idi*t would cant afford a pair of socks, he was a l@ser, i know that was an even bigger mistake,LOL. i understand that that abortion was in my best interest, i was now free and could move on with my new life an improved life,LOL
im sorry bout the baby but not sorry bout my decision!
hope my stup*d story helped u understand that it wil be ok as long as u dont do it again,LOL
chat later doll
byexx

just a quick piece of advice- i don't know your reasoning behind the surgical abortion- but i chose the abortion pill and it really helped me afterwards to cope with it- it just feels more natural(like a miscarriage), less invasive, and it happens in the privacy of your own home. it just kept me more relaxed and i was able to forgive myself faster.
best of luck honey- many of us have been there- i went through nearly the same situation as you- i know it's a tough time and your mind is probably flipping back and forth through all the pros and cons- but you will be able to heal after. i'll keep you in my prayers.