Hi! I've seen a few topics on here concerning dry humping furniture/pillows/etc.
I'm 20 yrs old and typically masterbate by dry humping the bed or couch, which I've doing since I was about 5. I'm worried that maybe that's the reason that I have long labia minora (1.5 - 2 inches, which I read is long but not abnormal).
Should I stop doing this and go buy a vibrator? I can't reach orgasm by just using my fingers.
Sgp, masturbation does not stretch your labia. You have the labia that was programmed into your genes when you formed in your mothers womb, just like your length, skin tone, lip and eye color and everything else about you have been predetermined by your genes.
Your labia sound quite normal and just like some men will find shorter labia more attractive, some men will find you more attractive. It is just the way things are. Ultimately your genitals are there to make babies and for fun. Your labia size have no effect on either of those or your ability to please your partner.
You will likely have substantial difficulty in reaching orgasm with a partner due to the way you have masturbated for so long. At some stage you will have to figure out how to masturbate to orgasm in other ways and positions. This is not going to be easy as you are experiencing incredible orgasms when you hump objects and your body is now so used to just this one way of stimulation.
I have reach orgasm with a partner, but for some reason, I just can't do it myself! it's so frustrating!
but I do think my body has definitely gotten used to reaching orgasm this way, and I think more than anything, I'm just self-conscious about my labia! I'm seriously considering labiapladty. Not necessarily bc I'm afraid for a man to see me down there or something, but more bc I just don't like the way it looks and feels. it can be uncomfortable at times!
But I am worried about labiaplasty. Ive heard that in most cases there's no problems, but in others, women experience pain and discomfort for long after they've healed. Plus, the surgery just sounds horrible! I'm not sure what I want to do. If I have it done, I'll definitely have to learn to orgasm by a different method!
WOW, it is pretty unusual to find a 'humper' that can orgasm during partner sex. If you do not mind me asking, what position worked for you and do you use any special technique?
If your labia get pulled into your vagina or are causing other problems during sex, labiaplasty is definitely an option (and as far as I am concerned it should be the only reason). A plastic surgeon can probably give you a better indication on the risks and why some women have problems. The other risk is of course that natural child birth can just wreck it again.