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Q: STRESSED ex inlaws NEW young mom
asked by: StacyHoll on September 26th, 2008
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My baby is 2 weeks old (today) She is absolutly beautiful! Smile I am so happy that she's here Smile

During my pregnancy my ex tried to kill himself and had problems with drinking. He finally left me when I was 4 months pregnant and stopped talking to me completely when I was 6 months pregnant. when he dumped me he told me to have an abortion.

When I asked my ex for help his mom would make up excuses as to why he couldn't help. She even got all of our debt pushed on to me because he's in a addiction place.

During the pregnancy his mom would call and tell me I was stupid and to have an abortion or give her up for adoption etc etc. A couple of times I got so upset that I started bleeding and almost lost the baby. I was in the hospital twice because of this.

Finally my mom called his mom and told her to leave me alone and not to call me anymore. (his mom stoped calling..)

Now, I had her and I called because I didn't think it would be right to hold her from her grandparents and shes so beautiful. So, when I called them they didn't answer. his sister in law said that they didn't want to come to see her because they didn't want to get hurt. (I wouldn't let them see her again).. they thought.

My exs sister in laws dad delivered the baby, and shes being the hardest on me. Shes really pushing me alot she is buying the baby lots of nice things. I told her I quit smoking and she said its too bad it was late after I had the baby..

She wanted me to let the baby meet her grandparents she said that weekend they didn't get my message they were away (with the babies dad) However, they knew I had her because they said they didn't want to meet her. My babies dad didn't even call to congradulate us. He just said that he was not ready to talk to me.

I feel really sick. I want to enjoy the time that I have with my baby for the year off I cuddle her and take pictures I dress her up.. I always have this knot in my stomach
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care_free
replied on September 26th, 2008
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Congrats!!! What did you name her? How much did she weigh?

I am a single mom too. My ex dumped me while I was pregnant and we didn't talk at all the last 3 months of the pregnancy. I sympathize with you. My mom called him when my little girl was about to be born and he was living with his new girlfriend(a stripper, might I add). Now Reyna is 4 months old. She doesn't see her dad often. His parents have seen her only a few times and went nearly 3 months without seeing her. They never even call to check on her and they live 5 minutes away!!! She has me 24/7 and that's really all she needs. I love her to death! Still, I understand about the knot in your stomach. Message me if you want to talk.
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StacyHoll
replied on October 1st, 2008
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Hello1 Her name is Brooke! She was 7'6 Smile That happened to me too with us not talking.. HE still hasn't called to check in to see how she was... Shes two and a 1/2 weeks... HIs parents called me tod ay to meet her, but I didn't call them back, because I know if they become a part of her life they will talk horrible about me to her. I am not getting any support from him or them even when I called them in the hospital to meet her they said no, and now they want to. I just think... WHAT a joke. err...
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leeslight
replied on February 24th, 2009
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Congratulations...

You do whats best for you and your baby, you don't need to be stressed nor that baby. Your a mum now and you only know whats best.
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ServiceU
replied on May 27th, 2009
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i would forget about the dad all together. i dont believe his mother would say that to you. how would you expect him to be a man when his own mother doesnt have morals.
if this was my son i would make sure he does the right thing.

i definately would file for child support. that's something that he cannot get a way with. don't be like me i settled for $80 a month. which is only $20 a week. and my son is 13 years old now.
those people upset you too much, so let them go. if they want to see the child then fine, but i wouldnt force it.
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BridgetWolf
replied on June 10th, 2009
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Your baby is a new person on her own. She may share some traits of her father, but she will be raised by you and she will love you. She deserves a wonderful life and I have ABSOLUTELY no doubts you are amazing for it. Just in how you talk, you are responsible and considerate and you have alot of responsibility and love to give. Get all the support you can and look ahead for a new future. Find the source of the knot in your stomach, moreso deeper than you think it is, and know, that you can do it. That you ARE doing it. And nothing is going to stop you. You know you make the best decisions possible, be the mother you'd want your daughter to be. I have so much faith in you, and please keep us all up to date.
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shubh
replied on August 11th, 2009
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I don’t think you would ever be successful in living with your ex husband or with any of his relative. If he is not ready to accept the child, try to become self dependent. You can start some online business that needs very low amount of start up amount. To save the stresses, suit the case in the family court.
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