Sometimes as the disease progresses this is normal.. As a nurse who did clinicals in a nursing home with these patients we typically call it the "sundowners" bc strange stuff starts occuring with these patients at/or around sun-down..It is very very very difficult but just continue to have patience with her, or call in some help..Pm me if you ever need to talk..

I hesitate to write this because it is not something I would advise lightly, but there comes a point in the progression of Alzheimers where it is difficult to impossible for the patient to be cared for at home. You sound like you have been a very loving and caring daughter-in-law and taken good care of this lady, but you need to ask yourself if the task is getting a bit too difficult for the family to cope with. This disease places an extraordinary strain on the family and especially on the primary carer, so I think you should search your heart and talk to your husband about where to go from here. Would you be able to cope with some extra help, or has the time come to place her in permanent care? Only you and your family can answer this question and there is no shame in admitting that the situation is too much to cope with now. Do you have children and if so how is it affecting them? I apologise if this answer offends you in any way, but I felt that this needed to be broached. All that said, I think that your mother in law has been most fortunate to have a daughter in law like you.

Thank you for both replies. I am just about at wits end...she has been here for 3 years and our lives have changed so much..i feel so old and i am only 42. I hate to say this but i think I want her to go to a facility. My husband sees it also but not as much as me. I am the one always being attacked by her verbally and I can't just let it in one ear and out the other....

I have step kids but they are grown and on their own so its just me and hubby and gramma....

I think she would be better off at a Alzheimers care facility. I just have to a talk with my husband and see where that goes...I just feel very depressed about it all.