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Hi,
Im a straight girl, i love men, simple!

However I decided to give porn a go whilst masterbating, straight porn was ok, but then i came across lesbian porn and watched a video of that. I found iwas alot more turned on by this than the straight porn and now whilst masterbating find myself searching for lesbian.

I am in a relationship and our sex is good, well great infact i love him very much. I just do not understand why it is women on women that turn me on when im alone!

Is anyone like this? please help Smile
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First Helper kristigraham
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Users who thank jlove12 for this post: Reborn83 

replied June 11th, 2009
Especially eHealthy
This is normal. Research on female arousal showed that most women are turned on by watching lesbian sex as well. The same is not true for straight men which are normally not turned on by gay porn.

Female arousal is a mysterious and wonderful thing. Don't worry.
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Users who thank UnknownABC for this post: Brightful  Brightful 

replied November 15th, 2011
granted that is true but it gets us no closer to actually knowing the why
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replied October 15th, 2013
Let me just start off by saying this is going to sound extremely crazy but here goes nothing....

I have had the same boyfriend for almost four years now and I love him more than anything, I am also pretty confident that I want to be with him forever. But we unfortunately have a long distance relationship so sometimes it makes our sex life tough. We get to see each other once every two weeks or so but it's still never as good as seeing him every day, so naturally I have to take care of things by myself sometimes. I was masterbating to porn the other night and a part with lesbians came up and I was aroused. I have been scared ever since that because I was aroused by this it might mean I am turning into bisexual or a lesbian and I can't get it off of my mind. I have never in my life questioned my sexuality, I have always loved boys and only ever dated and had sex with boys and I am more than ecstatic with my current relationship. So should I be worried? Can you even decide that you are a lesbian or bisexual over night? I was pretty convinced that that happened from the puberty age but I just can't stop thinking about it. Should I be worried?

Someone let me know what they think :/
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replied October 15th, 2013
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No, there is no reason to be worried. Getting turned on by lesbian porn is normal for most woman that watch porn. Your thoughts and fantasies does not make you lesbian or bisexual.
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Users who thank kristigraham for this post: Anxiety_Ridden 

replied October 16th, 2013
Anxiety_Ridden
Without going too in depth how old are you? and do you have any siblings(male or female)? The reason i ask is because i can tell you how "normal" is it for your age group to feel aroused by lesbian porn. I know some people just like the facts!!!

Hope hearing from you soon Smile
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replied October 16th, 2013
Happygummybear, I am 20 and I have one younger brother who is 18! And thank you KristiGraham you really put my mind at ease. It has been consuming it for the last three days. Thinking for some reason I had to throw in the towel and dedicate myself to girls now just because I enjoy that. Thank goodness! Because I love boys and especially my boyfriend haha!
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replied June 11th, 2009
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i believe that a woman is turned on because her sexual parts are so beautiful...She never saw what she looked like before...Now seeing herself in all her glory, it stimulates her...And it should...It is a part of our sexual make up....I, like you, can be stimulated watching Porn and the active body of a beautiful female performing on another woman...It is only being a woman that we each know our own capacity for sexual joy and enjoy this...Sometimes for some women, this is a new awakening that we take to bed with our lover....Not to worry...You are just fine...

Caroline
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replied November 15th, 2011
beauty and sexual attraction are not the same thing, seeing the beauty of the female form does not equate to being stimulated by the female form
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replied June 5th, 2012
A women's body is both beautiful and erotic to men. Unfortunately everything a young girl sees in the media is beautiful sexy women in seductive poses, while men's bodiesd are considered ugly and almost completely covered up by their long baggy cloths. Women are starting to view other women through memen's eyes.

Attitudes of erotic beaty depend on your gender and sexual orientation as well as period in history. The ancient Greeks considered the male form the most beautiful and only considered women as human incubators and house keepers while they had relations with other men.Their sculptors sculpted naked male olympic athelets, while women were represented with long robes to cover their bodies.
Even in the Renaisance, the greatest art work was Michelangello's David. Most people don't know that he also used male models to represent female figures in the Sistine Chappel.
Unfortunately the media has objectified the female form as the object of beauty. This objectification hurts both sexes because women are treated as little more than sex symbols and the male form considered strictly utilitatrian - like a tractor.
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replied June 15th, 2009
thanks Smile
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replied June 17th, 2009
Yes.Even i experience the same thing.In a video i observe and enjoy watching the female more than male/his parts.View of big boobs turns me on than anything else.And i even feel a lot like feeling the boobs of female(thats it..nothing more)Even i used to wonder if i'm a lesbian...
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replied June 18th, 2009
thanks! coz as much as i appreciated the top two posts, i still noticed there was noone actually saying they do it lol! but yeah i agree. .i also find that lesbian porn is alot more "real" the male on female seem so fake and horrid. I to find womens bodies amazing and prob would like to try it out but for now im happy with my boy Razz
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replied July 30th, 2012
I am the same way. I still love my boyfriend and enjoy our sex life, but at the same time, let's be honest, penises are a little ugly to look at. haha.
also, i tend to find that I like watching porn of things I wouldn't necessarily want to do in real life. I think that is why i enjoy watching it, it really is a fantasy not my reality.
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replied June 22nd, 2009
I was feeling the same way as you! My boyfriend and I usually watch porn together, and that's what turned him on the most. I caught myself getting really turned on to that too. I was feeling kinda weird about being aroused by other women, but I'm reassured now. This was very helpful, thanks! Smile
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replied November 1st, 2009
im the same way! im glad im not alone!
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replied November 1st, 2009
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Hey jlove12
It's not your deep admiration for the female form. Women are naked and completely visible in straight porn but you're finding a deep appreciation for women-only pornography. For a person engaged in heterosexual sex, an interest in same-sex pornography linked with arousal is a bisexual interest. It doesn't mean you are bisexual or that your relationship is in jeopardy, just that you find women sexually attractive.
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replied November 15th, 2011
a woman who is sexually attracted to men also finding another woman sexually attractive is the definition of bisexual
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replied April 27th, 2010
thanks from another straight girl
Thank you for this. I feel the same way -- I''m a straight (and single) woman but have found when I''m masturbating that if I want things to go quick, it works best to imagine women! I also look at and notice women way more when I''m out. I''ve been freaking out about what that means, but I love the sentiments of the first person who commented here: "Female arousal is a mysterious and wonderful thing. Don''t worry." Amen to that!
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replied May 18th, 2010
I totally agree! My story is almost exactly the same as yours jlove! There is just something so hot about a women touching another women! Glad to know I am not the only one hey!
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replied May 25th, 2010
Especially eHealthy
Clandestine, does it make you feel better about yourself to call other people names? Who are you talking to anyway? This is a woman's health forum so I have no idea why you are trolling around here. Real men are hanging out on the Men's Health forum.

I hope you sort out your problems soon!
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replied May 26th, 2010
I feel the same as you in the original post, I have a boyfriend and have had 11 male sexual partners and none women, yet when i'm alone and horny I find myself watching lesbian porn, a big ass and big boobs turn me on and i like watching the women pleasuring eachother, i think i like it so much because i know how good it feels, i sometimes fantasize wha it would be like to have sex with another women and i have fantasized about going down on women too>
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replied November 15th, 2011
when you say "i sometimes fantasize what it would be like to have sex with another woman" to me that means you have never been with a woman, so saying that you know how good it feels is not true and what you think you know feels good comes from heterosexual encounters, if you are being turned on it is because brain recalls the memories of those heterosexual encounters. you being turned on by two women is a different subject entirely.
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replied May 26th, 2010
im totally the same. i rarely orgasm alone thinking about straight stuff. i like thinking of girls during masturbation.
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replied May 26th, 2010
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hi guys,

but then why don't we want to DO IT? I'm the same way, women and breasts are STUNNING, anything sexual is arousing and women are the epitome of 'sexy' and sensual, i can orgasm to men's penis' too, but my thing is, yea I know I want to be with a man and love a man and only see myself with a man for protection and care, i dont think a female can 'protect' me. I just cant imagine being with a woman, but i'm wondering, if we like watching women in porn, then are we just too afraid (b/c our society doesnt like it) to go ahead and actually try it with a girl? The thought of tryig it witha girl makes me anxious and scared, and yet i so get turned on by the porn....what is going on here?
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replied May 26th, 2010
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hi guys,

but then why don't we want to DO IT with a girl? I'm the same way, women and breasts are STUNNING, anything sexual is arousing and women are the epitome of 'sexy' and sensual, i can orgasm to men's penis' too, but my thing is, yea I know I want to be with a man and love a man and only see myself with a man for protection and care, i dont think a female can 'protect' me. I just cant imagine being with a woman, but i'm wondering, if we like watching women in porn, then are we just too afraid (b/c our society doesnt like it) to go ahead and actually try it with a girl? The thought of tryig it witha girl makes me anxious and scared, and yet i so get turned on by the porn....what is going on here?
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replied June 2nd, 2010
I think not because we are scared but because when it comes down to the nitty gritty you suddenly get turned off i find looking at a womens body turns me on and woman on woman turns me on 2 im straight and married plus pregnant so was worried by this for a while but although i enjoy watching the soft porn ie touching teasing I dont like watching the real hardcore dirty stuff because I know I wouldnt want to go that far I need my man to make me feel like a woman. Only a man can really make me feel satisfied.... and the thought of going down on a woman does not appeal to me at all...... I find a lot of things arousing but nothing floats my boat quite like a good old fashioned scxxw
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replied June 14th, 2010
I am the same!
I have a loving boyfriend who really turns me on.
I've always been attracted to men and get the butterflies in my stomach around them. Ever since I was a bit younger and I would masturbate i'd always think that boobs were sexy. When I masturbate now I watch straight and lesbian porn. For some reason, I don't really like watching men hardcore screwing girls in the anus and such. I like seeing the woman pleasured more. I felt really weird about this too at first, almost repulsed after I would come (not because there is anything wrong with being a lesbian).
But now I realize that we like to see women being pleasured because we can relate to it. Also, woman are beautiful. They represent sex thanks to our society and the media. When I'm watching the lesbian porn, I don't think "oh I want to be with her," I kinda think "ughh she's hot I wish I HAD her body, b**tch" :]
It's very strange. The thought of going down on a woman grosses me out, but I think that sexual exploration is a great thing. No reason for worry.
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replied November 15th, 2011
When I'm watching the lesbian porn, I don't think "oh I want to be with her," I kinda think "ughh she's hot I wish I HAD her body, b**tch" :]- so now i need to know what it is about jealousy that turns you on sexually. also, i get that you wouldn't want to watch hardcore screwing you want to see the woman pleasured, why then would you look for a woman pleasuring a woman the right way instead of a man pleasuring a woman the right way?
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replied June 26th, 2010
I agree with HustleRose and Princess Jasmine. I'm straight and have always had crushes on guys since I was like 5 years old, always in love with men and only date and have sex with men. I don't watch porn but did find the female form arousing when I was younger and saw naked images but thought nothing of it-sometimes I think it can be more arousing but I'm guessing that's because of the fact it reminds me of my own sexiness? I do think society has trained us to think that way as they don't portray the male form in the same light-in other countries they display a lot more naked men. I would never want to do anything with another women or ever be in a relationship God forbid-the thought makes me sick-when I think maybe I should think about trying it in real life it has no appeal-its only the sexy presented images and especially boobs. Maybe its womens way of getting back at men for cheating on them with lots of hot women-maybe its an empowerment thing or maybe its our subconscious desire to always please men because they find that kinda stuff sexy or maybe we just get bored. But then most of the time anything about women in that aspect makes me sick and I find it gross and can't believe I every thought otherwise. I don't get it but I also have HOCD and a bunch of other OCD's. Also, when major events happen to me I no longer even entertain the notion. So I'm not sure if any part of me really finds it arousing or if its just my OCD or both and the OCD amplifies it. It just makes me feel gross and depressed. Only thinking about being with a man makes me feel happy on all levels but then my depression and OCD and fears about being hurt by men or never truly being loved by one again just terrifies and numbs me. I just wish I was one of those women who found women disgusting all the time.
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replied March 14th, 2012
I think it's OCD. Or at least mine is. There's a theory that everyone is a little bit bis exual (or at least most people) but the majority of people don't really think about it. For example, a "normal" woman might think, "hey, she's hot, I'm kinda turned on" and then...that would be it... An OCD person's thoughts might go more like, "Hey, she's hot, I'm kinda turned on. Oh no, I just had the thought that a woman was attractive. What does that say about me? I thought I was straight but since I am now thinking about sex with a woman, that means I might be a lesbian. But then why have I always considered myself to be straight? Uh oh, now I don't know if maybe I just think I'm straight because I've never been with a woman. Hey, maybe I'll watch some lesbian porn. Oh no, I'm turned on by that too. But I really like sex with men. But if I'm thinking about women, that must mean I like them. Oh no, now what am I going to do???"

It took me a long time to learn that thoughts mean absolutely nothing. (And some experimenting to realize that being aroused by the occasional woman or being turned on by lesbian pornography is just...something that happens but doesn't necessarily carry over to actually engaging in sex with another woman).

I've been wanting to post about this somewhere because, after having searched for answers before about this, I remembered there being a lot of women/girls out there going through the same thing. And, it seems to cause quite a bit of distress (I know it did for me). So, if it helps, in my experience, thoughts are just thoughts.
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Users who thank protectingyourprivacy for this post: kristigraham  MayaBee 

replied April 17th, 2012
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Hi,

I have experienced these thoughts at various occasions in my life and they have all coincided with my OCD which occurs when I am feeling vulnerable or facing change. They have suddenly started up again. I found myself looking at a girl's bum at work and thinking it looked really good and maybe felt a little turned on but not even sure now. All of a sudden these obsessive thoughts returned. I am in a loving relationship with the man of my dreams but now feel like avoiding him for fear that he will dump me if I tell him what is wrong. This happened to me when I was 17 when I suddenly looked at my teacher and thought she was v beautiful.. I was sick with thoughts for months.

I developed a severe bout of anxiety when I was 22 and I was on anti-depressants for 6 months which helped. I even underwent CBT sessions. I keep convincing myself that I am a lesbian and that I must find a cute girl and kiss her to find out but the thought of doing this makes my stomach turn (no offence intended to lesbians). I appreciate that women are incredibly beautiful but I love guys.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this. I hope the thoughts will go away soon.
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replied April 26th, 2012
MY DILEMMA
so all in all your straight right?well im kinda going through the same thing, i have a crush (or maybe even love)on a boy, i've never come across crushing on a girl before, but i do think that girl across the corner is beautiful and all, and now im in this dilemma and distress, im confused about my sexual orientation. for eg: whenever i go to a class, guys grab my attention, im like "ho thank god there ARE guys, but at the same time i also want some girl company.in other words , i notice guys first or alt east i tend to.i get the butterfly feelings towards guys, but i also think Britney spears is hot. but then tom cruise makes my stomach (and even heart)feel butterflies.but breasts do turn me on.
another thing is when i fantasize (not sexually), i fantasize being with a guy, being emotionally attached with a MAN.if ever im being held i want it be a man.The thought of being in a relationship with a girl makes me feel depressed and all. the feeling of being with a boy makes me feel fulfilled. all i need is a reply saying "YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY STRAIGHT" this is totally normal
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replied June 26th, 2010
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crystalblue women do the same things to men so i don't want to hear tis revers sexism bs
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