Still depressed over abortion Posted: 04-12-05 20:12pm
I am still depressed over an abortion I
had 2 years ago. My ex and I were sooo in
love and planned a child, I was so happy
and so was he. Then he got super
controlling, abusive, hit me,threatened to
kill me if I ever leave him, etc..It was
bad! My parents forced me to get an ab or
they'd disown me...Im an only child with
no other family in this world :cry: my
friends also agreed ab. And although me
and him at this point were broken up from
his abuse, we both still wanted the baby.
Then, he just neglected me, and stopped
calling I was so confused, and lost, and
my family dragged me to the ab center. I
never got over it. A month later I found
out he already had a child! A newborn by
his mistress(his first child), yet I
thought I was having his first! The
cheating health questions never even told
me that his fling(3 night stand)got
pregnant and had his baby!I never even
knew he was cheating..We were together
24-7!He even denied having a baby for a
while! His mother confirmed it for me!
Til this day he tries to get back with me
through different sources. And whats
crazy is, I never stopped loving him!! Am
I crazy? And I know he feels the
same..But id never ever go back to
him...Just wanna get over him, and the
abortion already!! Ps-he called me
yesterday..Hes now in jail for 3 years!
My life is like a drama tv show, but I
swear its true! Please help!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you :( I just dont know how to get
over it, and the guilt, and all the sorrow
ive been thru.
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 04-23-05 00:25am
For one, recognize that regardless of your
feeling for him, he is not worth it, he
doesn't deserve you. Obviously he has
serious issues with comittment and
faithfullness, and you don't deserve
that.
As for the mood problems related to the
abortion, the best way to handle this is
through counseling.
Because it is regarding an abortion, and
because this issue is so embroiled in
religion, I would advice against a
religios and/or church-based counselor.
Most counties have some form of access to
counseling either for free or on a sliding
scale. Try to call your county welfare
office for a referral. You can also call
the clinic where you had the abortion;
they will have a list of counselors that
will help out specifically with situations
just like yours, and in many cases, they
have volunteered to see people for
counseling without charging.
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bkdaniels
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Mar 2005 Posts: 48 Location: Little Rock, Arkansas
Still Depressed Over An Abortion....can Anyone Help Me? Posted: 04-23-05 09:00am
Hey still depressed, how are you doing?
Your gynecologist might be able to refer
you to such a professional. You could
also, of course, explore these issues with
the minister, priest or rabbi of her
choice.
Ob/gyn christiane northrup, m.D., author
of women's bodies, women's wisdom, reports
that many women have abortions they don't
want because the men in their lives insist
on it. But being (or feeling) forced to
end a pregnancy against one's will can add
another layer of pain.
Www.Health.Ivillage.Com/gy
no/gynobc/0,,4r37,00.Html
best wishes,
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fifijones
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Apr 2005 Posts: 6 Location: lake jackson Tx
Help Posted: 04-28-05 02:49am
Im not so sure I would turn to a religious
leader for that kind of help. Personally
I would be too scared that they would
judge me or look down on me (i've had some
do that before).
The absolutely best place to check would
be your local women's center. They tend
to provide counciling for abuse or rape
victims, but also help with victims of
this subject matter. There are usually
some in all areas no matter where you
live.
