No, medically you are not a virgin.

I'd still consider you a virgin by my own definition, but medically speaking, any sort of penetration of the vagina by the penis is a loss of virginity.

But it really doesn't matter medically since something like that would never come up. Doctors will ask if you're sexually active, but that would include any sort of sexual activity too.

i'm not as sure as maddie is.

i think it would depend on whether or not your hymen is still intact.

i believe that an intact hymen is the true measure of a virgin, not whether or not there has been any sort of entry into the vagina. while in 90% of cases those are mutually exclusive events, meaning that if a penis enters a vagina, chances are there is not an intact hymen, there really wasn't enough information about how far the penis entered the vagina to make the determination. for all we know, it could have just barely touched the entrance, which caused enough pain to get you to make him stop.

so, in my mind, if you still have an intact hymen, you are still a virgin. if you do not have an intact hymen, you aren't.

the problem i have is "why does this matter"? if you didn't have a problem with him attempting to put his penis inside you, then why do you have regrets about it now? why is it important to you to still be a virgin? what makes you think that the next time you get "excited" that you won't succumb at that time again?

i think you need to do some "soul searching" and really figure out what you want to do and why you want that.

there's nothing wrong with being a virgin and remaining one. i am not a virgin, but that's another story altogether.
jasmine

Your hymen has nothing to do with being a virgin. Most women break their hymen putting in a tampon or even during sports if they even have one to begin with

But I agree that it really doesn't matter.

well maddie, i have to say that i do agree with your statement. i think the thing that threw me off was "medically speaking, what would make someone a virgin?". i do stand by my statement that medically speaking the intact hymen constitutes a virgin, but are we really talking "medically" here or are we just talking about whether or not this particular woman considers herself a virgin?!

hasks, i think in order to answer your question, we'll have to ask another question. do YOU think you're still a virgin? i am beginning to think that under the circumstances, maybe being a virgin is more a state of mind than a physicality (who'd have thunk that!).

in my case, it was pretty evident that when i went from being a virgin to not being a virgin, there was no mistaking the end result was that i was clearly no longer a virgin. in your case however hasks, i'm really not sure, so i think that this is a bit of interpretive "it's up to you" sort of thing.

let us know what you decide based on the inputs we're providing, ok?
jasmine

I just looked it up on an online medical dictionary when I answered since I had no idea what it meant to be a virgin in a medical context. I'm certainly not a doctor and I'm open to other defintions since these certainly aren't my personal definitions

Main Entry: 1vir·gin
Pronunciation: vr-jn
Function: noun
: one who has not had sexual intercourse

Main Entry: sexual intercourse
Function: noun
1 : heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis : COITUS
2 : intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis

To me, both definitions are supported by how my gyno explained things to me after I had apparently filled out my answer sheet incorrectly. Who knew sexual intercourse invovled oral sex?

Even though this article doesn't address it directly, it does explain that your hymen and state of virginity are not related.

He wants you to stay a virgin til you're married? Well, that's ok, if it's what you want as well.
That said, why did his penis even go near your vagina if you don't want to lose your virginity yet??

Thank you everyone for your inputs. You guys are all so right, i think when it comes down to it, it's more of a mental thing.

Lion79: We just got carried away and I guess he came to his senses.

But anyways, thank you all!!

hasks...getting "carried away" is pretty much how all of us lost our virginity! ha! it really IS. SO...if it's not your intent to lose your virginity, make sure you don't put yourselves in a situation where you can get "carried away".

i really wanted to do it my first time. i was with a boy who i loved and he loved me and we had a GREAT first time. however i didn't really "plan" when my first time was going to happen. we sort of got "carried away". one thing led to another and the next thing you know, i was telling him i wanted him to do it...and i DID want him to.

it was nice (a bit painful to me), but he was so cool about it, and we took our time and we laughed a couple of times, and we just had a great first time. what i hope for you is that whenever the time is right for you (and not a moment before), you do it, and you don't have any regrets...like me.

if you want to wait until you're married, then that's admirable. good for you. just get my point about getting carried away. it happens so quickly and easily...and the next thing you know, it's bye-bye virginity.

jasmine

He inserted the penis into you, then you are not a virgin anymore. But it is a good if you want to refrain from intercourse until you are married. Be careful with the getting carried away, you will be tempted over and over. Many end up pregnant that way. Also you should visit a gyn if you haven't done so because with that one penetration from your partner you already have exposed yourself to std viruses like HPV or chlamydia. Good luck!