I just finished reading through an earlier post -- "I want to be sterile"
I, too, want to become sterile. I am 26 years old and have been rejected by two doctors after asking about my options. They gave me the standard "sterilization is permanent and you might change your mind later" lecture. Some of the people who answered "I want to be sterile" also tapped into this time-worn idea that ALL women are capable of being good mothers and that each woman will, eventually, want to give birth to their own children.
I would like to respond preemptively to anyone wanting to give me such advice by listing the reasons I (and many like me) never want children. Children are a lifelong commitment I'm not willing to make. They require a huge amount of time, effort, worrying and money, among other resources. Pregnancy itself takes a physical toll on the body. It is a painful experience, no matter how relatively easy it may go. I do not want to experience morning sickness, the stretching and widening of certain parts of my body, labor contractions or having my midsection cut open in a caesarian section. The very thought of becoming pregnant makes me nauseous and terrified. I would resort to clothes hangars or falling down stairs if I found out I was pregnant and had no other way to get an abortion. In my worst nightmare, if someone were to impregnante me and force me to carry it to term, I would have no recourse than to put it up for adoption, where it would probably languish in foster homes to become a jaded, maybe even criminal, adult. If I was forced to keep it, I would end up being the criminal adult, because I'm just not equipped to deal with a tiny human that relies on me for all things. And in the highly unlikely scenario that I get my tubes tied or whatever, then later decide I really do want children ... whatever happened to adoption?
I apologize for the long rant, but I wanted to esatblish how serious I am. That said, please give me advice about the best options for sterilization and how to go about getting what I need.
Thank you