I just finished reading through an earlier post -- "I want to be sterile"
I, too, want to become sterile. I am 26 years old and have been rejected by two doctors after asking about my options. They gave me the standard "sterilization is permanent and you might change your mind later" lecture. Some of the people who answered "I want to be sterile" also tapped into this time-worn idea that ALL women are capable of being good mothers and that each woman will, eventually, want to give birth to their own children.
I would like to respond preemptively to anyone wanting to give me such advice by listing the reasons I (and many like me) never want children. Children are a lifelong commitment I'm not willing to make. They require a huge amount of time, effort, worrying and money, among other resources. Pregnancy itself takes a physical toll on the body. It is a painful experience, no matter how relatively easy it may go. I do not want to experience morning sickness, the stretching and widening of certain parts of my body, labor contractions or having my midsection cut open in a caesarian section. The very thought of becoming pregnant makes me nauseous and terrified. I would resort to clothes hangars or falling down stairs if I found out I was pregnant and had no other way to get an abortion. In my worst nightmare, if someone were to impregnante me and force me to carry it to term, I would have no recourse than to put it up for adoption, where it would probably languish in foster homes to become a jaded, maybe even criminal, adult. If I was forced to keep it, I would end up being the criminal adult, because I'm just not equipped to deal with a tiny human that relies on me for all things. And in the highly unlikely scenario that I get my tubes tied or whatever, then later decide I really do want children ... whatever happened to adoption?
I apologize for the long rant, but I wanted to esatblish how serious I am. That said, please give me advice about the best options for sterilization and how to go about getting what I need.
The reason your doctor may not want to do it, is because afterall it is surgery. The complications with the female sterlization surgery can be serious.
If your doctor is unwilling to do it, even after you've explained to him why you want the procedure done. It may be best to switch doctors, or find a doctor who will do the sterlization. The best way to find a doctor that will do one, is through Planned Parenthood. You'll get more information about your opitions, but they may refer you to a doctor/surgeon that can help you.
Is surgery the only option for sterilization? I know one's tubes can be cut or tied, but there's this "essure" procedure that seems to be noninvasive, but I don't know how reliable it is. It's pretty new, I think. Aren't there any ways to do this with drugs? And are there things I can do to encourage infertility without damaging the rest of my body? Like living near power lines, standing in front of microwaves, eating certain foods ... I don't know.
OK, I understand that microwaves will not solve my problem, but like kyriatic said, doctors are going to be hesitant to perform surgery on me, so if there are nonsurgical ways to meet my goal, I want to know about them. I just want to know all my options.
I've seen ads asking young women to sell their eggs. Is there any way to sell ALL of my eggs and thus become infertile? I've heard this is a very painful procedure, though. Why? What's involved when eggs are harvested?
You take the same medications that a woman hoping to get pregnant takes things that increase your fertility for awhile. What this does is that it helps your body your body release mature egg cells. Then using an ultrasound machine to guide the doctor, a needle-like object goes through your vagina and collects the eggs from your fallopian tubes/uterus. Not your ovaries. You can't simply say, "Suck all of them out". Only the mature eggs, about 12-15 per cycle on average can be collected. And then after this 'cycle' you will actually be MORE fertile since you had to take the infertility treatments. They put you under 'light sedation' through an IV drip. Recovery time is about 24 hours.
So, egg harvesting wouldn't make you infertile. And they can't collect all your eggs, since the female body usually has 500 at birth. You have to be a certain age, and go through genetic and psychological screening as well.
To my knowledge, tubal ligation and Essure are the only ways to make you sterile. But as Maddie34 and I said before. Talk to Planned Parenthood, they can discuss your opitions with you to see what would be in your best interests.
I'm 32 and just had essure and novasure completed. I did have to
write a letter for my medical records explaining why I sought sterilization. I have a masters degree and work with children. I enjoy my work and love babies. However I know going through a pregnancy would not be healthy for me or a fetus. My eating disorders still plague me and I take prescriptions that are not safe during pregnancy. I've tried to go with less meds and I was worse emotionally. I am being responsible not getting pregnant. Plus I realize how much money and effort children really are. I don't think I would be doing it for the right reasons. I believe I can mentor children or adopt possibly. I really want to try and get something published because I know it is difficult and it should be our choice. I've known a long time and lost relationships because I wouldn't have a baby now I can't
Its so nice to find like minded women! I asked my doctor about sterilization earlier today and I was immediately told that I wouldn't be considered for it.
I'm 23 and yes that is young to be making a decision as big as sterilization but I love my career and I know it would go to the dogs if I was to have a child. I've seen it happen with the only nurses I work with.
What really annoyed me was how my doctor spoke to me after I had mentioned sterilization. I'm so sick of being considered less of a women for not wanting children and if I hear the "oh but you will change your mind" speech one more time I swear I am going to break that persons jaw lol!
I think kids are great and I love my friends children to bits but its just not for me! I would like to have my eggs harvested to help couples who really want kids. It's just being taken seriously seems to be a never ending battle.