My mom is dying of lung cancer. Well into second stage, just about her third. Just started needing pain pills and Hospice is came out today to admit her (care at home) and the Hospice nurse to change her medications will be out tomorrow.
Now the greeving starts. I know that I will probably try and stay strong. It is my attitude with her other daughter I am worried about. I don't want to say or do something I will be sorry for.
I'm so sorry to hear about your mother,I know what you're going through, I lost my mom to complications from diabetes 9 yrs. ago at theyoung age of 46.
As far as the other daughter,is it a half sister,full sister,I definately take it that you two don't see eye to eye on things. I do have a good friend that had the same problem when her mom was dying of brain cancer,her and her sister-in-law didn't get along (The sis-in-law was very mean to the mom)however I have to give my friend alot of credit because she just kept to herself and didn't say anything,just to keep the peace,because she knew that her mom could still hear everything that was going on.She also knew that her mom wanted her passing to be peaceful,and nobody fighting and arguing,and she respected her mothers final wishes.Now I can honestly say that they no longer speak at all,which is fine now and I can understand why my friend was so angry.There was one person that showed up at my moms funeral that I felt shouldn't have been there,she was always mean to my mom,and talked bad about her to other people.But I kept my mouth shut and kept the peace,for my mom. I think that you should try as much as possible to keep the peace for the sake of your mother.If you want to talk feel free to PM me if you want to talk.
I am also sorry to hear about your mom. I know that greeving is a very personal and individual thing. No one goes through it the exact same way. I am finally coming to terms with this now and realizing that, trying to spend as much time and showing my mom as much love while I still have her. I am personally greatful that mom and I have always been close and never really had a fight. Once I remember one over an old boyfriend. Big deal, right? It is a wonderful thing to know that you treat someone with respect and love while they are in this world and not the other.
Hi Carrie, Iwould just like to say that I love this website it has been so helpful to me,I would like you to take a look at the story of mine under loss of your mother,how to cope,it's kind of lengthy but I want my story to be seen,so maybe people can see,that sometimes there are reasons that God takes our loved ones,reasons that we don't see or understand until later on.I just want to say thank you to you and everyone on this website who takes the time to listen, tries to understand, and the courage to offer words of advice or encouragement.You are all such a blessing to me as I am like I said an only child,and I've lost my mother (my best friend).So thank you and God Bless you. Your friend, Yolonda
P.S. I love your name on the site, CarolDiane, my moms name was Carol,it's a very special name!!!!
im only 15 and although my mom or dad hasnt passed away 9 other close relatives have so i know more than most about grieving. i find it very hard to get back to normal but i think its best that i confront my grief early on so that it doesn't bother me so much later on. especially when my uncle die di found it comforting to talk about all the good times we had with him and it did seem to take some of the sadness out of it. i hope this helps but i know everyone grieves in different ways so i think you'll probably have to figure out some way to let your sadness out on your own.