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Q: 1st pregnancy and new to ehealth forums

asked by: Xalleah08 on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

I am 19 years old and expecting a baby girl on september 22nd (or sometime around there). I always have a lot of questions and am always reading the books and/or on the web looking up answers. I find it terrifying not knowing what's going on. Since I'm always reading, I find that I know the answers to a lot of questions that people ask. I actually joined ehealth becasue there were aunts in the house that were biting me. But I find that reading posts about other people's pregnancy questions and worries is comforting becasue then I know that I am not the only one who direly wants to know what on earth is happening to them. Often when I am having stresses or worries in relation to the pregnancy, it is at night, when I am trying to sleep, but sadly can't for many reasons. (my sleeping schedule has all but disapeared) and since it is very hard to get my husband to listen to me in the middle of the night (he works morning shift), I find comfort in at least being able to sympathize with others with similar problems. And so here I am. It's 5 in the morning and due to my awkward sleeping schedule it is practically as if it were 3 in the afternoon. (If anyone knows how to fix my sleeping pattern again some advice would be awesome). Forgive me for the extremly long post. So anyway it would be great to get to know all of you and I look forward to seeing you around these forums!
-Xalleah08

Replies(16)

killbill

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

nice post. i started here the same way. up in the middle of the night and looking for answers. welcome!

chrissy721

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Active User, very eHealthy

lol....i thought you said that your Aunts ( like your mom or dad's sisters) were biting you....haha...good luck with your pregnancy...I just had my first and I'll tell you that it's the best thing ever!

krystineM

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

welcome Xalleah08!
Im due in august 22nd and having a boy this is my first pregnancy too.
Our babies would be a month apart exactaly if they are born on the due dates! isnt that cool!
a way to help with your sleeping...if your finding it hard to sleep at night time, have small naps in the afternoon so your not so tired, or try drinking a glass of milk before you go to bed and just being relaxed, maybe have a nice shower or a massage.
happy pregnancy!
.krystine

Xalleah08

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

Thanks!
Showers usually don't work for me, but baths do. I used to take those regularly but now it's less convienent since the bathtub is upstairs and we have a shower down stairs in what's considered our part of the house. I have permission to use the bathtub, I just don't feel comfertable goign upstairs to often since that's our roomates area.
I drink lots of milk and it never makes me sleepy.
It's not that I can't sleep when I'm tired, unless it's a night when my back is killing me or something, which I've always had problems with anyway. My schedule got turned around due to moving and then the new roomate is best friends with my husband and for the first week hang aournd in our room playing videogames, which I didn't mind, except for the fact that I couldn't sleep for more than 20 minutes at a time and my husband can't take a hint for his life. (I feel extremly bad for kicking people out, and I don't like doing it)
The baby likes to be active at night too, but I know I can sleep through that besides a little tossing and turning, which I am used to anyway.
I wish there was a way that I could just burn off all my energy by 9pm.
But how do I manage to do tht when I fall asleep at 6am and wake up at 2pm?
maybe if i stay up later and later it will evenually move back to at least 7pm? I could deal with goign to bed at 7pm. . . maybe.

Bridget

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Especially eHealthy

Xalleah08 wrote:

But how do I manage to do tht when I fall asleep at 6am and wake up at 2pm?

you need to wake up early no matter how tired you are.. make yourself stay up all day and then go to bed at a reasonable hour. your sleep habits aren't going to magically change, you need to change them.

krystineM

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

you should talk to your husband too.
you have to sleep, you cant be staying up all night...well you can but its not that good, because then your tired all day.
i know you dont want to be rude, but if you talk to your husband and tell him your exausted, and NEED sleep now, im sure he'll understand.
And maybe while your sleeping they could move the video games up to your roomates part of the house upstairs, so your in your room sleeping at a decent hour.
My fiancee used to play video games at night time, and at the beginning of my pregnancy i was extremely tired, [now not so much] but when i would go lay down, i would ask him to turn the volume down on the computer because he plays video games on the computer and if he minds if i turn off the tv.
He had no problem with it, he understood that i needed some sleep.
Your sleep patterns are going to change a lot more once a baby comes, waking up in the night to feed, be changed, rocked to sleep, and you'll still have to wake up at a good time to do the same routines again, you cant be sleeping when that all happens. Its better to work things out now so your adjusted.

Xalleah08

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

I know. The video game problem is solved already. I've just got to readjust.

krystineM

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

thats good.

Xalleah08

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

It is.
I complain alot. I probably shouldn't becasue most of what happens is my own fault. I just like to complain. I hope that I don't bother anyone too much. My husband is enjoying the fact that I've found other people to rant to. The fact is, life is going pretty good for me and I don't have much reason to complain. I like attention. (Is it soo bad?) I also frequently have terrible problems with spelling. I don't mind if people point this stuff out to me. But could they point it out in a nice way? Please? I don't know how else to say this stuff and I am trying not to sound like the immature 19 year old that I am trying to hard to grow out of being. I would just like to work with everyone here instead of being at odds with them. I know that I say stupid stuff sometimes and I make a lot of excuses and this tends to get on a lot of peoples nerves. I just want people to understand that I tend to take things really personally, and that's no ones fault but mine and i know it. I will try to grow up and live with things. :sigh: Am I just being weird by saying this stuff?

krystineM

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

Doest bother me, lol everyone complains once in a while, its human nature Smile

Lol my fiancee si the same way, he's glad i can talk about my concerns to others instead of always go to him. I mean he does help, and i trust him, but i like hearing more than one answer. Im a little bad at spelling too, but hey, its not a research assignment we're handing in, just questions and answers, and as long as its legible it shouldn't matter. Smile

i dont think your being weird. Just open and honest, which isnt bad at all.
No ones perfect, we all have flaws which is what makes us unique in our own ways and makes us people.

Xalleah08

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

It bothers me that sometimes I can't be content and happy. My husband gets really annoyed when things are bothering me in the middle of the night and I wake him up. I also have problems communicating if not in whiting and I an very self-consious. I have gotten a lot better with these problems, but it seems that I get depressed very easily lately. Probably mood swings. I tend to have abandonment issues, which I need to get over. My husband went outside the other day and I thought he took off with his friend without telling me. I had just had a braxton hicks contraction and was a little freaked out already. I got pretty upset. I felt pretty stupid when I found out he was just outside the door. I have never been very social but always get easily depressed when there is no one around. So when I found this site it made me feel a lot better even though people weren't physically there. I don't get it. To an extent I've always been clingy and moody. But not this often, and not this bad.

krystineM

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Extremely eHealthy

i have communication problems too, my fiancee gets upset when he knows somethings wrong, but i put off telling him. its a problem im working on and have struggled with for a really really really long time.
being depressed, down, blue is probably due to pregnancy, you get ALOT of mood swings and different emotions. I suffer from depression [the girls in my family suffer from it..genetic unfortunately] sometimes i cry or dont feel happy, it happens more than im pregnant, than when i was not pregnant.
when your pregnant you may feel different things, feel like you need more attention, more hugs, cuddles, a lot of different things, its just pregnancy. its normal Smile

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killbill

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

i couldn't sleep when i was pregnant. your metabolism doesn't slow down at night because the baby is always growing and developing so it's harder to stay asleep like you normally do when you aren't pregnant. that, on top of all the discomfort and worries you often have when you're preggers can keep you up at night. not to mention the heartburn. i used to get up at night and eat too! id wake up at 4 am and be starving for cold pizza or something like that. i'd advise against doing that though, i still haven't lost the baby weight!

Xalleah08

replied on June 2nd, 2008

Experienced User

Well I've only gained 2lbs. but pizza makes me feel sick anyway right now.

Mabel

replied on June 3rd, 2008

Moderator

There is a spellcheck button near the Submit and Preview button. It isn't necessary to let spelling errors get out of hand. You know Wink

, in case you were curious or anything.

Users who thank Mabel for this post: Xalleah08

Xalleah08

replied on June 3rd, 2008

Experienced User

oh, okay, thank you!

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