I'm 20 and have been masturbating for 7 years and no have a really steady relationship with my boyfriend and although we have never had sex we have fooled around. anyway i have never had an orgasm.. ever. But i have squirted a few times alone and once with him. Its actually semi frustrating because friends always talk about how amazing orgasms are and then my boyfriend wants to see me get off and it seems like no matter what.. i cant. Any ideas/advice on how to make the "o" happen and why i can squirt but not orgasm?
shawty32, It is quite normal for a woman to not have an orgasm during intercourse. By learning some techniques this can normally be remedied.
It is however not normal to not be able to satisfy yourself. Being able to orgasm during masturbation is normally a prerequisite to learning how to orgasm with your partner. It is thus important that you learn to orgasm during sex play and masturbation.
So a few ideas. If you find one that you think may interest you, please ask more about it:
Some women orgasm but do not recognize that that is what is happening. After 7 years of masturbating without an orgasm, why do you still masturbate? What do you get out of it and when/how do you decide that you had enough and stop?
A woman's sexual response is centered around her clitoris, not her vagina. Stimulating over, around, across, up and down the clitoris is thus the most important part of masturbation.
Squirting normally means that you are manipulating the so called g-spot and bladder sphincter muscle from inside the front of your vagina (anterior wall) with a toy or finger. This does not directly stimulate your clitoris. Most women will not orgasm from this, even though it is pleasurable.
Do you fantasize while being stimulated?
Do you allow the tension to build in your genitals. Not relax but keep it building and building and building, concentrating on making it feeling better and better without relaxing.
Many young women give up too soon. They get scared of their sexual response cycle, thinking something is wrong. They should rather keep on stimulating themselves.
Dis you ever try a toy (dildo or vibrator) or water from a faucet or hand shower on your clitoris to make you orgasm?