|Considering how frequently birth control and condoms don't work and the large number of young women who used one or both and thought they were unable to become pregnant who later look to abortions as back-up birth control, I'd much rather equip a young woman with knowledge of when she is fertile and when she will become pregnant.
The broken safety net that pills provide, especially considering the adverse health risks sustained usage puts young women at the risk of contracting on top of its high failure rate, is not helping them.
Instead, a mucus-only model of NFP allows a woman to know minute-by-minute what her fertility is and to know for a fact that if she has sex today she is likely to become pregnant. I believe they are less likely to take that chance than they are when they think taking a pill will keep them from getting pregnant so they never learn about their fertility and instead rely on chemicals which all too often fail. Condoms have a higher rate of failure and of user error still. Knowledge is power. A woman who knows her body will respect it and will expect others to respect it, too.
According to Simeon Margolis, M.D., Ph.D. of Johns Hopkins, medicating a woman's fertility with estrogen "increases the danger of uterine cancer" and its "long-term use, for example, increases the risk of stroke. Estrogens also increase the risk of breast cancer..."
So you'd rather a young woman risk pregnancy, uterine cancer, breast cancer, and stroke by taking a pill every day to suppress her fertility because you think it is easier than learning how her body works and doing a two-minute check when she's already in the bathroom, which poses no adverse health risks but provides the benefits of awareness and prevention making her more likely to be healthy and in control of her body and her fertility?
This young woman already said she's not keeping up with her birth control, she had unprotected sex anyway, and she has no idea if she was or was not fertile at the time. Statistics show she isn't likely to become better about taking the pill, and even if she did it perfectly, it would just get her in the same range of effectiveness as a fertility awareness model. They also show if she's taught how her body works, she'll be in control of it and her fertility and be able to make informed decisions. Over 99% of people who become pregnant while practicing a fertility awareness model do so because they knowingly choose to get pregnant, and less than 1% who use the methods to avoid pregnancy and become pregnant did not intend to. The condom and the pill don't come close to that.
Anyway, remembering to take a pill at the same time every day, to avoid medical interactions which could reduce or eliminate its effectiveness, to abstain during times of illness which can reduce or eliminate its effectiveness, and to take on the physical risk of pregnancy, stroke, or cancer as well as possible infertility when she wants to have children seems like a lot to remember and put on a young women when she could just learn how her body works once and use nothing more than her fingers (or a thermometer and piece of paper for the very strict methods) instead. Seems like the much easier and friendlier way to me.
I do understand we disagree, so if you'd like to end the discussion, I'll be happy to let you have the last word. I don't want to use this young woman as an excuse to argue theoretics while she's sitting here living the actuality. We both want the best for her and are saying what we are out of care and concern for her health and future. Hopefully between us she was able to find some of the support she needed.