Did he reply yet?

Sometimes it's just a giant coincidence, but I do agree that's he's overdue for a response.

Maybe he doesn't really know what to tell you, and maybe he's sorry about your adoption.
Though, I think he's proud of you to see that you've become independant (without him), so maybe he's trying to keep everything just like it is, i.e., not being too close. It could become ackward if over time you would have like "two dads", how would your rasing dad feel?
Maybe those are situations your real dad is trying to avoid by letting himself distant enough, so he's sure to not influence anything in your current life.

I guess it's a bit confusing to you but I do believe it's nice to sometimes keep myself distant "for the best", so maybe he's doing this too.

What do you think about this situation exactly?

thanks for the comment. But I feel if you say you wanna be a part and wanna talk more, then dont lie, actually do it! Its an open adoption for a reason, and I sent him something so that should have said oh hey dad lets talk.

I actually have 3 moms 3 dads. (biological, adoptive, step)

Don't be hurt...Accept it...He is doing what he has to do....Not that he doesn't love you, that he does....Any parent that has to part with a child and stays away, does this for another reason....He knows this in his heart....Now it is up to you to accept this...Let him get hold of you if he finds that he can handle this....Be secure in his love for you....Remember what he has told you...Grow and learn from this....

I think you are a pretty lucky young woman to be surrounded by so much love...

I sent you mine too...
Caroline

i m glad they were able to keep you in the family. so many people in your situation feel lost or empty b/c they dont know theyre biological parents, and they dont know the reason why.

when you seen your bio-dad, he probably meant what he said. i really cant explain why he wouldnt call you back.

please dont be hurt from that, just keep the lines of communication open, and move on with your life. it seems like you are already blessed.

i believe that it's possible that another relative intervened here. here's what i'm thinking.

another relative (perhaps one who is protective to you) had a conversation with your bio-dad about him being involved in your life.

since your bio-dad didn't raise you or have anything to do with you up until now, the other (protective) relative probably told him that they didn't think it was a good idea for him to create a relationship with you at this time.

it may be for reasons you do not (or could not) understand, like this relative may know that you are at an impressionable age, and that your bio-dad does drugs or something that maybe you wouldn't know...

what i would do if i was you is consider myself blessed. know that your bio-dad probably did mean what he said to you, but also know that God is out there protecting you. if HE intended for you to be with your bio-dad, He would make that happen. if not, then you're blessed by His grace and you won't be messed with any more.

i feel for you...i lost my mom at an early age (sort of the opposite situation you are in) and i really appreciate the value of a good parent. sounds like you have that in your adoptive parents though...so all is good (if not a bit confusing).

best wishes to you.
jasmine

Honey wait until you get all the facts..Something similar happened to my brother but he didn't answer his daughter because he became critically ill with pneumonia and passed away in
his apartment-I didn't know what was happening until much later....Not saying this is what has happened just saying there may be a good reason..Remember his words and the time you had..It sounds like you have a large family to fill the gap..Hopefully if he is alright then you will learn the reason behind his lapse in talking with you..