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I had made a post in one of the threads here and since then, I have become, well, miserable of what my labia looks like which is very sad since I was quite comfortable with it.

My labia minora is small and for the longest time, I had no problems with it whatsoever but after trying to do some research to see if there were many like me, I became extremely depressed and very self-conscious with what I've found. Not only does it seem like larger lips are more common but men seem to be utterly disgusted and turned off by smaller lips. I've heard of women being dumped by men because they were small down there to men who wish that their girlfriends were larger. If I was a lesbian, I wouldn't care what men think but since I'm straight, I find it very hurtful that men don't want anything to do with women who have small lips and I'm sure I'm not the only one who feels this way. I know I'm not "underdeveloped" because I have asked a doctor about this but it still doesn't help when others refer to people like me as looking like "a little girl".

What I would like to know is what can I do to make them bigger? The last thing I would want is for a man to dump me because I don't have huge lips that hang out past my labia majora and I definitely don't want to be alone for the rest of my life because of that. I just find it so strange how women who have larger lips think they have it harder when in fact, they have it a lot easier then women with smaller(or for some women, none at all) lips.

I'd appreciate any advice you can give me.
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replied April 12th, 2009
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Girl you are beautiful the way you are...i take it you read the comment about looking like a "little girl" from another thread on this forum about bigger inner lips? that was just from someone insecure about their own body so they felt the need to attack women with no inner lips...i laughed when i read it bc I am one who does not have inner lips and i've never been insecure about it..it does not look childish, ask my boyfriend if I look like a child..he would dissagree...he said its so sexy the way it is...if you find a man that doesn't want you bc of that then he is NOT worth it..hold your head up high you're beautiful the way you are and don't let anyone tell you any differently..we're all different but just know that you are not the only one out there that doesn't have those huge inner lips
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replied February 18th, 2012
There's nothing wrong with any of you with smaller inner labia. From someone who has had both small labia and big labia on them, I would rather have the small one back anyday. Big labias are VERY uncomfortable. And men I've encountered have hated the big one on me. Never had complaints with the small one. The women who pick on other women with small labias are ridiculous. I bet when they make fun of women with small labias, they're probably scheduling labiaplasty while they run their mouth. So don't worry! If anything you're lucky. But if you would rather have a large one, think very hard about it.
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replied April 12th, 2009
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Thank you, worrywart01. Yes, I did read that comment in the other thread but that wasn't the main reason why I made a post here.

I think it's great that websites are showing women who may feel like they are the only ones who have larger lips that they are not alone but they are also putting us down or bashing us in the process. Even on that site I've come across people(mainly men) who compare us to little girls or young children whereas someone with larger lips is classified as a "real woman". Since when does a body part like that make a person a woman or not? I've got breasts, an hourglass figure, all of the working parts that a woman should have down there as well as estrogen flowing through me but I guess none of that makes me a woman. Rolling Eyes

I just find it so strange that women with larger lips would be insulted if they were told that they don't look right, gross, old, etc. but for some messed up reason, they think it's okay to do that to us. That just doesn't make sense.
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replied April 12th, 2009
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Agreed..like i said earlier..its all due to insecurities..you never know, one of those women who are "proud" of having bigger lips yet go around bashing as you say women with smaller lips are probably just jealous and or insecure...do you have any idea how many women have surgery to get those parts removed?it is good to be proud of who you are and confident bc its sexy however, you also don't need to go putting others down as you said in the process...there are PLENTY of women out there just like u and I...and there are just as many men attracted to smaller labia as there are that are attracted to bigger labia...but I do get your point..it doesn't signify you're any less of a woman..thats like saying a woman with size A breast is less of a woman than one with size C...no..men like both, they're just different and one shouldn't be judged as better than the other..I have never felt insecure about my parts down there and I'd like someone to tell me I look like I child..please...I could care less what they think,like i said, if they are going around insulting women like you and I, its just because they're insecure about themselves and trying to make themselves feel better
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replied April 13th, 2009
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" I've heard of women being dumped by men because they were small down there to men who wish that their girlfriends were larger. "

It's a joke right? This sounds like the worst excuse/reason to dump a girl. what's next? dump her because her hair is 12 3/4 inch instead of 13 inch long? And I'm probably not going to date a girl who's nose is longer than 1 16/64 inch long, also if she does not have at least 6 holes in her ears and her ears are bigger than 2 1/2 inch long. So I mean yeah, tape measurement is my best friend on the first date. Just kidding, now let's get to the topic.

My ex had a small lips, my current has bigger lips. No difference what's so ever. Please just take this for granted that guys don't care about it. What you've heard is just a cheap excuse to dump someone, some people just want to hurt one another because of breaking, so they make cheap reasons to make their partners feel bad.

You are perfectly fine with whatever you have down there, I'm damn sure that your next guy is going to like you for the way you are. Good Luck!
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replied April 13th, 2009
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When a woman is in hot sexual passion, the size of her lips or Labia Minora mean nothing...It is at that time that she comes into her sexual want....If he is the lucky man and she has climbed that hill of lust, she will then be to him all that a woman can be...She will take her hands and grasp each of her lips of her treasure of love...There she will spread her flowers of passion and show him her soul....It is one of the hottests things that a woman can do and two lovers can experience....

Size, color or shape make no difference...It is what he finds inside and she releases that is their brass ring of sexual happiness...

This is a special post to Red_Rose....I send you my love for a wonderful and happy life as I have had... rainbow

Much love,
Caroline

P.S. Red_Rose...They look the same when they are older as they do when they are younger...They shave well and are just as juicy as when you are young...The secret: A lot of use and confidence... Very Happy Wink
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replied April 13th, 2009
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Thanks worrywort01, Smartdummy and unnamedny. Smile

I heard about that surgery before and I've read about how so many women felt better once they had it done. I do agree with you that they are just insecure when they put people like us down but it does still hurt because I've never put them down before so why do they feel the need to do that to us? I think it's sad when people do that.

unnamedny wrote:
So I mean yeah, tape measurement is my best friend on the first date. Just kidding, now let's get to the topic.


LOL! It would be interesting to see the look on the other person's face if someone actually brought a tape measure on a first date! As for the person getting dumped, it didn't sound like a joke to me. From the post they made, it sounded very real and everyone told her that the best thing for her was getting rid of that creep. I was just shocked that anyone would actually dump a person because a body part didn't look a certain way.
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replied April 14th, 2009
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you know to me it wouldn't matter what my bf looked like down there..i mean, so long as everything is normal and CLEAN haha..outside of that it wouldn't matter...sex for me comes after falling in love..once i'm emotionally involved and they are as well, then and only then will I become physical..with that said, I would NEVER dump the man I was in love w/just bc his penis wasn't stunningly beautiful..they're all different..i've only been in love once so i've only been with one man so..i cant really say this from experience..im just saying that if you have a one night stand or "hook up" with a guy friend, then youre setting yourself up for heartache..and yea they probably will judge you on how you look bc they dont care..they got what they wanted and they're done...so i guess what i'm trying to say is whoever got dumped bc the guy didn't like how she looked was probably just being used to begin with and that was just a mean cold hearted excuse
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replied May 3rd, 2009
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hello im 13 years old and im really scared because ive done alot of research about my labia that hangs out doet of my mates have it and i feel really inscoure im scared when im older boys will hate me forr it
what do i do im so scareddd Sad
pleasee helpp me any 1 xxxx
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replied February 6th, 2012
13? At that age i didnt even know what labia was. Where is the world heading to so fast? Start worrying about your grades not your labias. You should ahve a long way to go before you can worry about it. I just started googling it and came across this post and I am only 26. So dont start worrying yet!!!!!
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replied June 15th, 2009
trust me you have nothing to worry about . i am only a few years older and i was insecure about it at first .Truth is ..no one is perfect and they are not there to look pretty .Basically the only thing that is worrying you is your confidence . if u are confident about yourself a guy will like you for who you are .not how your body looks :)xx
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replied June 19th, 2009
Hi I dont have any inner labia at all. But i didnt know that this was unusual until i watched some of my boyfriends porn movies and i saw all the ladies have inner lips that kind of hang out...I was like *Eww what the heck are those things?!!*
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replied June 19th, 2009
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i have a large one, but i asked my boyfriend do women with large clitoris have more fun. i always had in my head if it's small the it wont rub against anything and the women wont experience great pleasure. but he said i was wrong and it didnt matter. even though i should be asking a women, but he is a superstar when it comes to love making.
so as long as your having fun (sex) it doesnt matter.
i seen a movie where this women was wearing cotton hot pants with no underwear and you can see the shape of her clit b/c her shorts was so tight.
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replied July 15th, 2009
i have small lips also i have have found many guys who like it.you are who you are you cant change that and if the guy doesnt want you becuz of your lips their a waste of your time and shallow.everyone is different and beautiful.and who ever said guys are smart
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replied August 17th, 2009
wow ididnt know small inner lips were such an insecurity i figured women with larger ones had the problem, i myself have larger one thatr i beleive streched a lil from having children but it annoys me to have the little bit of lip hang out ever so slightly rubbinh on whatever clothing or even sometimes gettin pinched a lil bit. lol like hold on let me tuck this in quik Wink never the less jsu be satisfied with the smaller inner labia you were born with and any on e that thinks any different ly can just go away
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replied September 25th, 2009
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as a male, i personally prefer girls with small inner labias. it just seems like such a cute neat package and actually helps in the heat of passion to not have to fumble around down there Wink
so don't worry at all about it and consider yourself lucky
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replied October 14th, 2009
The larger ones are more sensative in my experience but women with smaller one dont know the difference and still have fun. I dated one woman who had the samllest labia minora I have ever seen and she was the most erotic woman I had ever been with. So I think it is what it is and just have fun if he dont like it there is another one out there who will. Like us men are all perfect. (ha) Though some think they are...
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replied January 3rd, 2010
trust me don't worry about it. ive always been extremely insecure about my labia minora because i thought it was weird and unnatural that it hung out and ive even thought of reducing the size by surgery... after reading your post it just made me realize that there is no answer as to what is "sexier". i dont think the size matters whatsoever. its funny that there are posts of women over-worrying about their "large" labia minoras as well as their "small" labia minoras so there is no real answer. its a waste that both sides think their labia minoras are "ugly" because it just leads to two perfectly fine women being insecure about their looks. and insecurity is the real ugliness
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replied January 3rd, 2010
don,t u worry mine are like urs seem to be very tiny when u look at me im just a straight line everythings hidden frm sight lol and yano i love it how it is theres no such thing as normal everyones different thats the beauty of the human species the variaty so,s to speak Very Happy i can tell you i know a lot of men who seem to like the small lip type thats what i have found you need to brush away your insecurities i have had guys describe my bits as cute so think ov yourself as that hmm x
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replied January 25th, 2010
I'm a male, so let me post another view... I think a woman's (or girl's) body is fascinating down there. Everything we guys have is hanging out, while a female body has a lot of hidden delights about it. There is a fascinating lot to be explored. At first sight, assuming she isn't shaven, there's a thicket of hair, then for the guy who sets out to explore, there's the gateway to the "happy valley". Once he parts that, there's the lovely complexity waiting inside. Small inner labia might stay concealed longer, inviting him to explore deeper before they reveal themselves, but then he can explore and enjoy, on his way to those ultimate prizes. And when the time comes to penetrate, there's no problem of them getting drawn inside, as there may be with really big ones. That hurts, I'm told. Actually, I envy guys whose ladies have tiny labia waiting inside to be revealed. I've never known one like that, but I would love to.
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replied January 25th, 2010
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Unless you're gay or at least bisexual, nobody that you show your labia to will care at all, and even if you are your lovers aren't likely to be critical of your labia minor. It's almost insulting how unconcerned men are about what you look like south of the border considering how much girls worry about this. Trust me, this is so not anything you should ever worry about and certainly nothing you need surgery for. You are a unique woman, don't ruin that by straining about how different you look.
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