My mother is 76 years old. When going through the ER for other problems and admitted to the hospital we find out a week later she has lung cancer (small cell).
Surgery is not an option, she is too sick/fragile for chemo, and she has decided not to do radiation.
Hospice has been called. Mom has been home about a week now. She doesn't want to talk about the cancer or her dying.
I am beside myself. It is hard watching her become so sick.
Are there any good support groups on the web for someone like me?
My heart breaks for you. Having just discovered my Mom has an advanced stage of lung cancer, I feel your pain in my every bone. I am so sorry you have to deal with this nightmare that is lung cancer.
You are not alone.You are not a "someone like me".We are all people like you.We are all hurting and angry and just bloody screaming on the inside for help for understanding for guidance.
You have found support here.look no further
But if you do, the national lung association has a nice message board.
You will be in my prayers and your Mom is the hands of what ever higher being you "pray" too.
This is my first experience with cancer and I just don't know what to expect. I know mom seems to be sick but she doesn't "seem to be dying". I guess that will happen in time. I just wish I knew what to expect and how soon to expect it.
The Hospice people are really nice. I have only spoken to them in mom's presence so I hate to ask them tons of questions. Especially when the nurse asked mom how she felt about the cancer. Mom said she doesn't think about it. She can't change anything. So I guess mom isn't ready to come to terms with it yet.
Mom did apolizie to me. I ask what for. And she said for smoking. I didn't know what to say. I have begged for as long as I could remember for her to stop smoking. She finally did almost 2 years ago when she fractured her hip.
Mom can hardly talk. We are giving her morphine every 2 hours.
This is all happening so fast.
I had to put mom at Hospice for 5 days last week because dad got sick and was in the hospital (he's ok. the stress of mom dying was making everything worse for him) and I just couldn't take care of her alone. My brother came to town for 3 days to help but he had to get back to work.
After 5 days at Hospice you can tell she was going downhill. They gave the option to stay but I had promised mom that she could go home and had promised she could die at home. The social worker said bringing her home could cause her to die sooner because she would feel more comfortable at home or something like that.
But I didn't expect it so soon. We were told on March 13th that she had lung cancer and a few months to live. It has been just over a month and the news is still trying to sink in and she is almost gone.
I just can't get my head around all of this. It is happening way to fast. I am numb.
Not sure hoe old these post are but I am too going through this with my mother. Last July we were told she had lung and brain cancer. After radiation and chemo she had some good scans but then was having horrible back pain which we were told was her siatic. Only to finally request a MRi and found bone cancer. we were given a prognosis of 3 months. I dont know how to do this, she is my hero, but refuses toal to us about any wishes because she wont give in. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. God Bless all who are going through this.
My 42 year old husband was diagnosed in June 2010 with stage 4 small cell colon cancer that had already metas to the liver. We got a second opinion. Both doctors have given same prognosis, 6-12 months. We are told that doing 4 rounds of chemo will buy him 3 months. He is currently in his 2nd round. We have 2 boys, ages 3 and 11.
I really want to focus on quality of life right now. Any advice?