My mother is 76 years old. When going
through the ER for other problems and
admitted to the hospital we find out a
week later she has lung cancer (small
cell).
Surgery is not an option, she is too
sick/fragile for chemo, and she has
decided not to do radiation.
Hospice has been called. Mom has been
home about a week now. She doesn't want
to talk about the cancer or her dying.
I am beside myself. It is hard watching
her become so sick.
Are there any good support groups on the
web for someone like me?
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shamrocks
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Posted: 03-25-08 22:04pm
My heart breaks for you. Having just
discovered my Mom has an advanced stage of
lung cancer, I feel your pain in my every
bone. I am so sorry you have to deal with
this nightmare that is lung cancer.
You are not alone.You are not a "someone
like me".We are all people like you.We are
all hurting and angry and just bloody
screaming on the inside for help for
understanding for guidance.
You have found support here.look no
further
But if you do, the national lung
association has a nice message board.
You will be in my prayers and your Mom is
the hands of what ever higher being you
"pray" too.
Have faith.
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momsbabygirl
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Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 3
Posted: 03-26-08 17:14pm
Thanks so much for your reply.
This is my first experience with cancer
and I just don't know what to expect. I
know mom seems to be sick but she doesn't
"seem to be dying". I guess that will
happen in time. I just wish I knew what
to expect and how soon to expect it.
The Hospice people are really nice. I
have only spoken to them in mom's presence
so I hate to ask them tons of questions.
Especially when the nurse asked mom how
she felt about the cancer. Mom said she
doesn't think about it. She can't change
anything. So I guess mom isn't ready to
come to terms with it yet.
Mom did apolizie to me. I ask what for.
And she said for smoking. I didn't know
what to say. I have begged for as long as
I could remember for her to stop smoking.
She finally did almost 2 years ago when
she fractured her hip.
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Posted: 04-17-08 08:08am
Have you spoken with her doctor or the
hospice people about support groups for
caregivers?
How is your mom and how are you holding
up?
My heart goes out to you, the both of
you...hang in there..
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Tmddyan
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Posted: 04-17-08 13:11pm
my prayers go to both of you.
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momsbabygirl
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Joined: 25 Mar 2008 Posts: 3
mom Posted: 04-26-08 16:38pm
I doubt that mom will be with us much
longer.
Mom can hardly talk. We are giving her
morphine every 2 hours.
This is all happening so fast.
I had to put mom at Hospice for 5 days
last week because dad got sick and was in
the hospital (he's ok. the stress of mom
dying was making everything worse for him)
and I just couldn't take care of her
alone. My brother came to town for 3 days
to help but he had to get back to work.
After 5 days at Hospice you can tell she
was going downhill. They gave the option
to stay but I had promised mom that she
could go home and had promised she could
die at home. The social worker said
bringing her home could cause her to die
sooner because she would feel more
comfortable at home or something like
that.
But I didn't expect it so soon. We were
told on March 13th that she had lung
cancer and a few months to live. It has
been just over a month and the news is
still trying to sink in and she is almost
gone.
I just can't get my head around all of
this. It is happening way to fast. I am
numb.
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^Serenity^
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Sorry..:( Posted: 04-27-08 09:04am
momsbabygirl
I am very sorry to hear this.
I will keep you and your mom in my
prayers.
We are all here for you, anytime you need
to talk. PM if you need to also.
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