Well, here's the story. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 1/2 years now. We have lived together for about 3 years. Most of this time I have had my OWN room. I have my own stuff, my own bed, and this, of course, is where I sleep every night.
We started to sleep in separate rooms because he snored so loud that I had a hard time sleeping. That wasn't so bad, but it became unbearable when he started to kick and twitch. He went to a doc about it, was told he may have Restless Leg Syndrome, but he didn't want to spend the time or money on fixing it. Therefore, I chose to sleep in my room more often.
Then, almost 2 1/2 years ago, I started a 2nd shift job. He works 1st shift. This totally threw everything off. I'm just going to bed when his alarm starts to go off for him to get up. I tried sleeping in the same room with him off and on, but he'd expect me to say up with him until 4:45 am when he'd leave for work! I was so dead tired and I couldn't do it anymore. Besides, it wasn't fair to me.
I guess this is my current problem: I've noticed lately that he's become "sensitive" to the fact that we don't sleep in the same room. He has had two guy friends recently ask him why we are arranged this way, and he seems to be embarrassed by it. It hurts my feelings because he starts to act like we are freaks or something and nags me to try to sleep with him.
There are several times a week when I do go lie down with him and I just watch tv until he drifts off, then I go to my room. He always seems to get hurt when he notices I'm leaving and tries to make me feel guilty about it. I'm just tired of having to sacrifice my sleep for his selfishness and because he's embarrassed because of his buddies asking questions and thinking that we're strange or something. I have had friends ask about it before. At first I always get a shocked response, or a laughing fit, but when I explain why things are the way they are, my friends understand.
Anyway, he's been acting sensitive about this lately and really making me feel guilty (for NO reason!). It's really irritating. He's been so moody with me lately, no telling why really, but I did notice that all of this "sleeping in the same room" thing started to come up around the same time.
Is there any of you ladies who have dealt with or still are dealing with this kind of situation? I'm not really sure what to do. I can't sleep in the same room with him because I just CAN'T sleep! But I also feel this rift between us because this is one simi- important thing that we don't share. Any suggestions? I'd love any kind of comment. I'm just not sure who to ask about this situation.
Thanks