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i maturbate during sleeping and have no memory of it exept for my husband telling me i did it, what can i do to make it stop and why is it happining Question
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replied August 21st, 2009
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Many people do this. There is nothing wrong with you. Unless it is waking up your husband or you are hurting yourself, it's not really a problem. It's not like your husband never does it while he is awake, right?

If you really want to make it stop, have you tried having sex before you go to sleep? Does that stop it for the night?
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replied August 21st, 2009
sleep masturbation
i want it to stop, its waking my husband and everytime it happens we fight about it and if it happens we sleep in seperate room cause its disturbing for him to see, it makes him feel unwanted and starting to feel betrayed. We do have sex regularly and it even happens if we do it before going to bed. We had this situation almost 6 times in one month and its getting too much for my husband. And no he never masturbates
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replied February 2nd, 2012
Your husband should feel lucky. He should enjoy it. If it does not bother you, he can join you and help you out, otherwise shut up and sleep in the bath tube.
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replied February 24th, 2012
don't listen to healthway. it should bother your husband, he doesn't know whats going on and his feelings are justified. It happen to me years ago. the best thing is to talk to him and work it out. You could have been dreaming about him but that wouldn't make him feel any better. Talking will..
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replied July 10th, 2012
I am soneone's husband. If my SO is dong this, it is not her fault. I will not feel anything wrong. Why should my SO has to work out with me and make me feel better?

Since I love her, I will not feel bothered at all. What happened to her is natural. Why should she worry about her husband?

I will help her out by making her a happy woman.
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replied March 6th, 2014
I am having the same problem. It's going on for a year now. I don't know if I used to do it on my previous marriage, which lasted almost 18 years ... My fiance feels the same way, betrayed and "not enough man". We do have very fulfilling sex before bed and according to him it has happened already 5 times during the same night. He is totally against masturbation - awake or asleep - and although he is hanging in there and doesn't want to sleep in separate beds, this issue is becoming a very big problem. My family doctor says is stress ... but we all have stress in life, why am I "choosing" to do this on my sleep? Going to sleep it's becoming a nightmare for him and I feel deeply sad for hurting the person I love Sad
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replied August 21st, 2009
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I can see how he wouldn't want to be woken up, I think he is reading way too much into this. You aren't doing it consciously. Even if you were, masturbation is healthy and natural. It's not a substitute for him. You aren't having sex with another man or anything. You aren't masturbating rather than have sex with him, which would be a problem. You two have a healthy sex life and you love each other, right? So why is he threatened, to the point where he feels "betrayed"? That sounds like a symptom of a bigger problem.

There are some things you can try. First, wear heavier pajamas at night, so you can't rub yourself as well. Maybe even wear gloves. If nothing helps, I would suggest going to your doctor or even a sleep specialist. Maybe this is a symptom of a sleep disorder and it could be treated with medication.
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replied March 29th, 2012
thank you i will try this . can some one help me for 3 nights i court my wife masturbating 7 hours with no stop , i was wake and im show she was because sence she come to bed i was wake then she started doing for so many hours im horried it may be bad for her health i talk to her about and she say she cant remenber she was a sleep i sayd that its fine with me i could join in it turns me on she get mead saing that its not true i think shes doing every day and im concern onone nigth we hade sex for 3 hours them i wanted some more the she say its herating im tierd lets sleep i then turn around and couple min later she started again for 4 more hours is this normal pls help me ...
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replied July 3rd, 2012
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Your not having sex with him either. Being unconscious is just being in another place other than consciousness. There is a reason she is doing it, and not doing it with her husband, right next to him. If a woman feels tired during consciousness and then is rested during unconsciousness and then feels ready for sexual contact then the couple needs to work on scheduling times for sex. There could be millions of reasons why this woman needs to masterbate while sleeping. But if satisfied during consciousness, then the need during unconsciousness for sex should be lessened.
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replied March 6th, 2014
I am having the same problem. It's going on for a year now. I don't know if I used to do it on my previous marriage, which lasted almost 18 years ... My fiance feels the same way, betrayed and "not enough man". We do have very fulfilling sex before bed and according to him it has happened already 5 times during the same night. He is totally against masturbation - awake or asleep - and although he is hanging in there and doesn't want to sleep in separate beds, this issue is becoming a very big problem. My family doctor says is stress ... but we all have stress in life, why am I "choosing" to do this on my sleep? Going to sleep it's becoming a nightmare for him and I feel deeply sad for hurting the person I love Sad

All this is true, I am not choosing masturbation over him. Still he feels betrayed and says it's the same as me sleeping with another man because I am enjoying sex without him.
He won't agree for me to sleep with clothes ... he wants to sleep naked, hugging. I somehow thought it was his imagination ... couldn't believe it. But one night I woke up from a very hot dream I was having about him just to find myself with my hand/fingers down there and very wet. So I realized I am doing it ...
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replied August 21st, 2009
sleep masturbation
Thank, gonna try it. Will chat soon
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replied November 16th, 2009
It's a sleep disorder called Sexsomnia. It's related to sleepwalking. It's treatable, see a sleep specialist.
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replied February 1st, 2012
what treatment did you get?
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replied November 22nd, 2009
Sleep sex/masturbation
my husband recently got home from Iraq and ever since he has had a similar problem. But he it seems more severe. It started out as just him trying to cuddle in the middle of the night and has progressed to him jumping on top of me and trying to molest me while i sleep. I have started to become a very light sleeper because its kinda scary how it has progressed. And when i stop him he starts cussing me out and says horrible things to me and has no recollection in the morning. I recently caught him masturbating in his sleep then getting out of bed and changing clothes and he freaks out when he wakesup and isnt wearing what he went to bed in. It is getting worse. He is in therapy for PTSD but i know he isnt gonna bring this up to his doctor.
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replied November 23rd, 2009
My wife also masturbates in her sleep...vigorously, & loudly, usually on average of at least 10 times per night. It is just something that I have learned to deal with, by taking a sleeping pill, wearing ear plugs, sleeping on the far end of the bed, or if there is a full moon out...enjoying the show.
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replied December 30th, 2009
Sleep masturbating
I have been sleep-masturbating for about 4 years. My boyfriend and I fight about it constantly. He is hurt and turned on at the same time. I feel lost and confused. When I approached my doctor, the first thing she did was laugh at me, my "friends" all did the same. I feel alone and insane.
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replied October 25th, 2012
i hope this helps
there are many people who do this .i can understand your frustration about the fighting.but oyu are normal.and far from alone .my daughters father came to stay at my house and he was sleep masturbating.i got up and walked out the room .because honestly i never seen anything like that.after reading up on it .....its normal as sleep walking.but there is treatment .i cant believe that the doctor and your friends laughed.sorry.but i would suggest finding the doctor that will help....maybe a specialists.at least you know he/she has seen this sort of thing b4 and it can bring some ease to you .
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replied July 13th, 2010
I am in the same boat... really concerned, not sure if I actually believe that I do it.. but I must. we fight all the time about it, I have no recollection that I do it either..so embarrassing.
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replied July 14th, 2010
Nausea Due to Discovering my Boyfriend Masturbating in his Sleep
I just caught my boyfriend doing it tonight. I jumped on here to research it.

First he moved around a little bit, I told him I loved him, he mumbled something similar back... then about 30 mins later he starts air humping. I sleep with my hand on his chest, he then moved it to his crotch and started moving it around.

I thought he was awake so I was talking to him. No response. I took my hand away and he kept doing it himself. He then put his hand in his boxers, pulled out his penis and began masturbating. After a few minutes, he stopped. I moved his boxers back up to cover his penis, then I put the blanket back on top of him... not 10 minutes later he did it again. This time he masturbated until he ejaculated and then rolled over and went back to sleep.....

It disturbed me and I became nauseous because of it. Came out to the living room to sleep and research... how do you bring this up to someone? What if he's doing it because he's having dreams about someone else.... could he be cheating?
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replied October 21st, 2010
My roomate just asked me yesterday to not masturbate in the night, when she is in the room and asked me to move out, if I don´t stop it. I was suprised, because I didn´t know about it and I have no reason to masturbate. I felt so ashamed and afraid, that she is gona tell it someone and everybody gona know, I couldn´t even shake a hands with someone today. But I already had sleeping problems and I used to talk a lot in the night, so I immmediately went to the neurologist specializating for sleep and awakedness and they told me it is problem of REM (sleeping) period and it has nothing to do with normal daily sex or mental things, expect that it can be caused by stress and it gona take months to solve it.
In few weeks they gona monitor my sleep in sleep laboratory and than we will see ... I will write you about how they solved it.
- Dont worry about your boy/girlfriends or husbands, wifes cheating, they really dont want to cheat at yo or they are probably dreaming about having sex with you, they can not influence it, the only way is to go see the doctor and have good mental hygiene, becasue alcohol, kofein and this kind of stuff make your sleep less deper and it is one of the problems causing this.
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replied December 12th, 2010
My girlfriend does this and it is annoying as once she starts, i can't go back to sleep. She does it very subtly with soft moaning and moving. She will do it for a few minutes, then move suddenly usually turning over. Then, 5 or 10 minutes later, do it all over again. Maybe 4 or 5 times, and then it's over. It gets me turned on so I've tried joining in but she is dead asleep and has no response to my advances. Very frustrating. On the other hand, there have been times she wakes me in the early am and starts to rub me. Of course I usually respond and she is very wet. I never put the two together but guess thats it? I guess I may need to try the earplug thing. ST
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replied June 17th, 2011
RE: Thank you for the post and discusion...
For a number of years, shortly after falling asleep usually, my young wife very quietly masturbated. Generally she would have limited response - a few quivers, move and stop, but she might start up again. It did make it "hard" for me to get to sleep sometimes, but the bigger issue was that she wouldn't believe me when I reported her nocturnal adventures. Finally, I got her to believe me one night when she went all the way to orgasm and left a wet spot on her nightshirt. I think knowing that she did this made her a tad uncomfortable because when she visited family she sometimes slept in the same bed with a sister or her mom and was mortified that she might embarrass herself. Her adventures stopped shortly after we had children. I find it interesting that this is not so rare. Thanks for posting.
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replied March 6th, 2014
I have already 3 kids from my previous marriage ... maybe I should go for a 4th child ... Wink
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replied December 14th, 2010
hester: Your husband might make the story about your masturbation - his own fantasy about your masturbation during sleeping.

Install a spy cam to see whether he lied.
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replied February 24th, 2011
molested in my sleep
My partner recently has started to molest me in his sleep. I can't call it anything other than molestation, because for it to be anything else would require my consent. When he violently shoves his hands in my crotch, or tears my legs apart while I'm asleep (and he is sleeping too apparently, and doesn't remember the next morning) this has nothing to do with healthy sex. I see it as an unconscious rape fantasy which he acts out in his sleep. He had a history of using porn, which in itself is a form of rape: you don't go getting off on someone who is no position to say no, has no identity to you, no name, no past, no future, unless you're a wannabe rapist in the first place! (especially when you take into account that 92 % of sex workers interviewed in 5 countries declared that they were doing their job out of despicable poverty,drug addiction or actually being forced (at gunpoint), and would quit right away if only there was a social program to help them!!!)
I don't feel safe in the same bed anymore, maybe not even in the same house. The only way I can sleep is taking an elephant's dose of sleeping pills. Obviously this is only a short term solution, so I seriously don't know what to do.IfI had the means I would jump on a plane and escape.
You people who masturbate in your sleep and don't even remember need to see a therapist.
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replied February 25th, 2011
For one thing, watching porn is in no way a form of rape. My boyfriend watches porn daily and is in no way controlling in bed. If he were wanting to act out rape he would probably have done so by now. Not to mention sex workers is more so prostitutes than porn stars.
Anyways.. I don't masturbate in my sleep, however I often am told that in the morning I started to rub my boyfriends penis and sometimes will even start to jerk him off. He also has told me that I will rub up against him, or if his hands are on me I will push them towards my vagina, and that I am wet. The first couple times this happened he was confused and thought I was awake, he said that he fingered me for a while, and it didn't wake me up. I know he is telling me the truth because my previous boyfriend said similar things to me. I do have a lot of sexual frustrations, and I feel that could be responsible for this.
My main concern is that last night for the first time, I woke up to him masturbating in his sleep, we have been together for a long time and I have never seen this, and he said that it has never happened before. Previously he lived with a girl for a long time so she obviously would have noticed if this was happening. I am worried that maybe my actions have lead to him having sexual issues while he is sleeping.
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replied February 25th, 2011
you are kidding yourself
Dear naive girl, rabbit73, jerking off to porn is definitely a form of rape!! If he is not violent towards you it is because he doesn't need to, he already acts that violence out elsewhere.
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replied February 25th, 2011
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LOL! That is by far the most ridiculous thing I have ever heard. For one thing, porn stars are well aware of what the films they make are being used for. If they don't want people masturbating to them, then they shouldn't be in the films.. so obviously them signing the consent forms to be in these films is them consenting to people using them for masturbation purposes. I don't know anyone, guy or girl.. has never watched porn. Does that make every person in the world a rapist? I can assure you every time I have ever watched pornography there was no violence or rape that I felt. And him acting out his violence in another way also makes no sense.. what do you think he is doing? Forcing masturbation upon himself? Strangling himself while he does it? No.. there is no violence in masturbating to pornographic films, it is purely for people's pleasure.
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replied March 2nd, 2011
nousernameallowed: you are so smallminded and high-strung. It is not because some people are forced to work as a prostitute because of money/drug problems, that everyone who is in that business is.
It is one of the easiest ways to make big money, if you can set your pride aside or if it just plainly turns you on to get naked publicly.
They do have a way to say no: don't make that movie or don't get on that webcam and give a show to a 1000 people.
If the results you presented are in any way true, you should ask yourself what countries, if they actually interviewed girls from every corner of the business and such.
I do watch porn regularly, and I love my girlfriend. I have never shown any form of violence towards her, nor to anybody else.

I do feel sorry that your husband is forcing himself upon you in his sleep. The fact that he does this might originate out of a mental disorder, which doesn't mean he is a bad person.
My girlfriend masturbates in her sleep and is not aware of it. She has no recollection of it at all, but she does keep me awake for several hours a night.
We have not yet found a solution to this, but we do talk about it, and whenever she wakes me up, I just give her a push so she wakes up for just a minute and then she will stop for a while.
If you cannot find a way to cope with it, you should find a specialist.

Don't blame your problems on the world, but search what causes them.
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replied November 9th, 2011
me and my girlfriend both sleep masterbate..... when we catch the other at it it always turns to great sex. dont know what all the fuss is about.
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