im almost 19 and my ex left me when i was pregnant with our son (now 7 months. We got back together, but i recently fled because he became abusive towards me infront of my child and i wasnt having that for him. I recently found out i am again pregnant to him-approx 15 weeks. My ex is fighting tooth and nail to get access to my son, just to spite me. Believe me, you will be better off without him, make him agree to meet you on your terms around your life IF you choose to see him at all. Good luck.

im 19 and have a 5 month old boy.
i was fortunate where my boyfriend stayed with me, supported me and is still with me now.
but in your situation right now, its great if he wants to be apart of your life and the baby's, but put your foot down. and say if he wants to be a part of this life that is going to enter the world, he has to man up. not drop out last minute and leave you hanging.
give him one more chance, and if he lets you down just say you are tired of his endless lies and will not tolerate it any longer. give him a wake up call, dont let him get away with this.
if he wants to be a part of this, he has to prove to you he does and is not going to be a little kid.
you have one child on the way, you do not need to deal with a young mans childish ways too.

good luck hun.

Thanks alot for the replys. They've really helped.

ive just come across your post now and ive bien through exactly the same thing your going through now, i was 19 when i fell pregnant and i have a beautiful 8mnth old son. he wanted me to get rid of him and i refused. he got back in contact when i had my son but he used to always let me down and not turn up when he said he would,even though he is older then me 21 he acts like a little boy and i told him not to cal me unless he grows up. i have such good friends and im so much happier now. theres no way im going to let him do the same to my son and constantly let him down u need to just get on with it and unless he changes dont botha. its hard at first doing it by urself im not gona lie but it gets easier and you get into a routine. you need 2 meet someone who is going to treat u like a princess and be a good role model for your son good luck

Your about to be a mother....thats babies life is going to be 100% dependant on you so you have to do what you think is right. Tell him up front if he lies to you one more time your done with him and then move on with your life. Get the ball rolling for child support, but also understand if you get cs he does have a legal right to be a part of that babies life so make SURE you set it up where he has suppervised vists at the social services department or some other place. The reason I say this is because if he fails to keep his appts. he could lose all rights to see his child. Go talk to your legal aide and see what they say about everything your concerned about and KNOW your rights also. Don't be led on by him and what you want to hope for in him. I wish you the best of luck.

i was 20 & pregnant, i didnt want it, but my b/f did. he told me he's going to be the best dad a man could be. but he was a horrible father.
when my son was 5 he would run to the window everything he heard a car's horn b/c his dad told him he's coming over & never showed.
he wasn't ready to be a father, he cheated on me while i was pregnant, and when my son was 9 months old he said he's ready to be a dad now. the majority of young guys aren't serious about this stuff.
you have to get him out your mind and concentrate on your baby. he's young he's going to cause disappointment and hurt. so create a loving environment for you & your baby.

hey hun, you can do it! Be strong!
I'm a single mum, I got pregnant when I was 17 and the father hasnt spoken to me since i was 6-7months pregnant.
Shes a year and a half now.
But seriously, being a single mum isn't so bad, you get all the credit for raising an amazing child, and don't have a father to clean up after and butt in about parenting. You get them all to yourself!

So how is everything going? Remember you can reach out anytime you need to.