Im here because im 3 months pregnant, and just become a single mum.
When i first found out i was expecting, the father told me he wanted the baby, hed been hopeing it'd happen, and he'd support us etc, and that we'd be a proper family.
He then changed and became hostile towards me,started shouting at me over the smallest thing , squareing up to me,staying out all night with his phone off and telling me he could do better then me,genuinely he began to treat me like i was nothing.
3 mths down the line, he has decided to walk away, and i have lost everything.
I am not working now as he told me he wanted me to be a stay-at-home mum,and i have been very sick, and he has left me with a back log of rent to pay on our flat, which ive only just found out about.
Ive lost all my confidence in myself and i need to get my act together somehow.
No doubt ive been very silly and nieve, but i trusted in him and id hoped we'd be a family and our child would have stability.
Anyway, im just feeling scared and alone, and guilty i am responsible for creating this little life when i dont know what the future will hold now, or where to turn, and i guess i feel like ive let the baby down by getting in this situation.
I was doing a degree, which ive had to stop to get a refund to get out of the debt hes left me in, and im now staying with my mother untill i get myself sorted out, and im finding it hard.
I dont want to sit around feeling sorry for myself as its not about me now, but is it normal to feel like a failure and feel this guilt?
Any tips on how to stay positive would be really appreciated, i know i am not the first or the last to go through this, but im unsure of the best way to cope, i just know i have to somehow.
I want to be a great mum and i will do what ever it takes, but at the same time im scared
hi that sounds justlike my ex 13 years ago ! and he hasnt been back since .I amstill a single mum of 2 boys now age 15 and 13 ,and u will be a good mum please always remember its u that will bring up your child ,put food on the table and clothes onits back,udont need a man who just decides he doesnt want to be a dad ,both my boys are so good my oldest at 15 is a school prefect and is also doing his duke of endingbrough award and my 13 year old has been signed up by the local football team and wone goal keeper of the season award and I have brought them upon my own so u can too not all single mums are as bad as the goverment make us out to be I finally got myself back to work which is a accheavent as again hadnt worked for 13 years so life is ok for me finally and yours will be too .