Single mum advice

Hi everyone,
Im here because im 3 months pregnant, and just become a single mum.

When i first found out i was expecting, the father told me he wanted the baby, hed been hopeing it'd happen, and he'd support us etc, and that we'd be a proper family.

He then changed and became hostile towards me,started shouting at me over the smallest thing , squareing up to me,staying out all night with his phone off and telling me he could do better then me,genuinely he began to treat me like i was nothing.


3 mths down the line, he has decided to walk away, and i have lost everything.


I am not working now as he told me he wanted me to be a stay-at-home mum,and i have been very sick, and he has left me with a back log of rent to pay on our flat, which ive only just found out about.

Ive lost all my confidence in myself and i need to get my act together somehow.

No doubt ive been very silly and nieve, but i trusted in him and id hoped we'd be a family and our child would have stability.

Anyway, im just feeling scared and alone, and guilty i am responsible for creating this little life when i dont know what the future will hold now, or where to turn, and i guess i feel like ive let the baby down by getting in this situation.

I was doing a degree, which ive had to stop to get a refund to get out of the debt hes left me in, and im now staying with my mother untill i get myself sorted out, and im finding it hard.

I dont want to sit around feeling sorry for myself as its not about me now, but is it normal to feel like a failure and feel this guilt?

Any tips on how to stay positive would be really appreciated, i know i am not the first or the last to go through this, but im unsure of the best way to cope, i just know i have to somehow.

I want to be a great mum and i will do what ever it takes, but at the same time im scared

How has everyone else got through it?

xcatex