I am currently dealing with a similar situation. My story goes a little further with assult charges and failing to comply thereafter. However, the advice I had been given which may help you is, you should go to court prepared with anything you can tell your lawyer ot duty counsel about why is would be unfit as a father. Abuse (towards you or anyone else), if he is a flight risk, if he threatens, his previous drug use, unpredictable tempers and so on. You will also have to explain why it is not possible to have joint custody. Prime example, you did have joint custody but there is too much animosity to have civilized communication to attempt to co-parent. and if you did accept the joint custody agreement, you could request that have joint custody with the final decision making regarding the child is yours. Hope this kinda helps