F-26 single mom, working on MAsters degree now and working fulltime. My bf of 51/2 yrs ahd a healthy supprotive and understanding relationship. We both got alogn well with each others family and I broke it off April 2007. Apparently he was cheating on me adn was confused with which of the women to choose and still have me as his main lady. I wasn't having that. He mentioned in March 07 that he needs some space and he wasn't ready fro marriage prob not until the next 5 yrs yadi yadi yadi ya when all along he said he wanted a family and married by the time he is 30. He is 29. I said it was over 2x before but I figured we could work it out and it was just a phase. Prior to the breakup statement he was very obsessive and said I was stressing. All the time we were dating. I heard he said he got tired of me etc and is now with a girl who is a mother of 3, had issues with her children's father and works in the same hotel as he does. I learnt she said he was sexy when she gave him a massage one time. Now I always complimented my bf but he would act all shy and said no I have all the looks. Could it be he was just with me because I was intelligent, independent and strong?

Point- We held it together for sometime in march, made love a couple to times. The last tiem prior to me getting pregnant, I told him I want to work it out but he never said anything so I took my cue meaning he didn't want it and was confused so I decided not to call etc. I started talking and going out with another guy and we had intercourse 2x and that was it. March 29 being the last time. My ex visited April 3 the same day the sor tof new guy wasat my house and he was abusive verbally etc. Guess he figured he could walk back in. I am not for nonsense. He wanted to knwo what the guy was doing in my room etc. The saem day my ex bf abused me and we had unprotected intercourse and a baby came about. I todl him I was pregnant but he believed it was the other guys baby. He tried to contact me nwo and again but I cannot take on the inconsistency etc. He wants me to bring the daughter by his mom to make sure it's his child and I figure from all the things he did and tried to trash me I don't want anything to do with him. He complains to everyone he meets because he doesn't want to be responsible.; If he comes a a mature guy and speak to me I would consider him being part of the child's life but I do not want my chidl to be around him or his new gf because I think he is unstable. I learnt he is smoking pot now, and his new gf texts and curses me. Well she stopped now. What should I do? This was very long but over a yr now I'm tryign to let go.