Single forever, and no friends

Hi single,

Seek professional help. If what you say is true, there has to be a reason other than what you have given as to why you are treated that way.

Good Luck,

Faded Rose

thanks for the shallow vague and rude reply...seek help yourself...you need it for thinking you can give such ridiculously mean replies...to people...

professional help? what is that supposed to mean? thats not very helpful...in my case there is no reason except who knows what..ive been to counselors before and several mistreated me too and began badmouthing me to the entire counseling center...there is no reason...its either jealousy or something happening on some weird abnormal level and nothing i can do about it.

The very fact that you are pretty confuses me. I am a guy and I only have guy friends and I understand them darn well. Shallow ones just wants sex. More mature ones will want sex and good company. People will tell you all sort of things about confidence, self-esteem and all that sh##. And they are true. But at the end of they day, women are thing of beauty. And this beauty is physical and mental. If you beautiful you are attracting men. Some like me are too afraid/shy/proud/confused to ask women. Well, this is against the norm, but if you start a conversation with a "nice" guy, may be you will make your life and life of that person much more beautiful.

yes true...its all true however...no man wants me...and im so beautiful...nice guys dont only psychos want me to torture for fun...im 33 and trust me...ive been on tons of dates---NO guy wants me....im a virgin...theres nothing i can do except wait until im fat/ugly...but even then no guy will want me anyway...i assume im cursed... all men do is abuse and put me down...

there is no point to being beautiful..and hot and sexy...men dont want hot/sexy women...well maybe others but not me... men are just jealous of me...i give up..theres nothing i can do...it however shocks me that men do not desire me since i am so sexually stunning and appealing...men are not scared of me-- they have the balls to insult and mistreat me...they just treat me like crap basically...all men do this to me...they are sick/crazy i guess...they love fat/ugly women, the uglier the female the more they'll treat her like she's 'hot' and me like trash...i acnt get any prettier...i cant get any nicer...i cant get better...im like a 10++ in every way possible...im down to earth humble nice..beautiful gorgeous sweet kind...you'd think im every guy's dream girl..monogamous kind loyal caring....super pretty girl next door...apparently guys have NO interest in that...none trust me...im living in the wrong day and age...maybe in the 80's men wanted hot beautiful girls...not the freaks and weirdos of today...unfortunately i'll be single all my life BECAUSE im beautiful...its just not fair...but theres nothign i can do about it...

I am throughoutly confused. Really confused. You are awesome, but nobody wants you. That makes no sense. I can come up with a few possibilities:
-You are too good to be asked out. Meaning, nice guys think they will be simply rejected by you, so they donot bother. Believe me, I am a normal nice guy and I will not ask out 10+ woman, because she will not be interested in me. If this is the case just talk to them.
-The kind of picture I get of you from reading all this is a really frustrated and angry person. 3 months ago I was like that and I wanted to die. For some reason that did not happen. But the point is I found that nobody was talking to me. Then things changed and I, for some reasons, got happier and then I started attracting people like magnet. The thing is, if you are sad and angry from inside you will repel people and that will make you more sad and it will repel more and ...On the other hand if you are happy then people want to talk to you and that will make you life beautiful. So you are either into spiral of negativity or into spiral of happiness. Sometime we donot have choice. But sometimes we do. I am not here to judge you or advice you without being into your shoes. But you have to find a way to get into spiral of happiness. For a start, do something you like. I like working out and physical activity. That gave me happiness because I like them and confidence because I am darn good at them. That might be how I got me into that spiral of happiness. You will have to find something that makes you feel good about yourself. That makes you feel you are better than others. That makes you happy. That makes you forget your problems completely for that time. But only you can do it.
All my friends are guys. One thing I am proud of is that I made some really good friends. I am a nice person and most of my friends are good soul. But they donot act all nice. They donot attract women. They are decent looking but they donot attract women. I know why. They are not fake. For some reason women are attracted to fake men. Men who know what women are looking for. Some men are just made to be liked by women. Since they know the trigger they play with women. That is how men get bad reputation. Believe me, I know some of the most selfless souls and they were all men. I might sound sexist, but one reason I never respected women is because they were selfish. This was not directed to you, but in general. And this was off the topic. The point I want to make is donot judge a person from what you see and never from what he tells you. Because the best people will never tell you that they are the best. I donot know if you will meet a nice guy. I found that most guys are nice. Girls, for some reason, are biologically predisposed to pick the wrong ones. Only if you could understand guys, life would so much easier.
My friend you have too much of negative feeling in you. Get rid of that. I know it is not like you want it and you can get rid of it whenever you want. I was there and so I know how angry I used to get when somebody told me to “cheer up” or “be happy” or ‘relax’. In my case I find my trigger to get into the spiral of happiness. Generally people who post here generally have no or very less friend. If you have friends, you should not be here. They should have helped you with it. If you are alone in this battle, only you have to do it. You have to find a trigger and try to be happy; just by yourself.
Well this was a long reply. I hope I did not bore you.
Just find a trigger. Bye.

Hello Girl922,

I am very sorry to hear that life has been unfair to you and been very hard. I am a guy, 20, tall and handsome and I get the same in reverse were men despise me with a passion even though I have said nothing and get searing stares like I am stealing all the women in the room when I am trying to buy something in the supermarket. People judge me on appearances and treat me like dirt because they are insecure and lack self esteem and I am make them feel worthless.

I am actually considering moving country because of constant jealousy, mistreatment at college and work and perhaps it's your surrounding and the people in that area where you live that are the scum of the earth.

I am a man and I can tell you that there are a lot of scumbags that only see women as meat, objects and something to screw can't actually have meaningful relationships. Luckily for me, at least, women are sensitive and do try to be nice to me when they are intimidated or shy. You don't need these low life's and you deserve better.

I don't think you are an angry or aggressive person by nature but the situation your in puts you up against a wall and you can't do anything about it.

I believe that you don't need psychological help but need a change in your life. Try getting transfer at work to a different country or different state if living in the USA and hopefully you might find some people that are actually interested in you for you. Big cities are usually good places to start, wide range of different people, different attitudes and mindsets.

I hope this helps, good luck and don't lose hope because you sound like a hottie lol

Alot of men are insecure and when they FEEL that they don't measure up to you, they want to reduce you to make themselves feel better. Don't get mad, you need to start dating men at your level, they will not be intimated by you. Also your virginity status at your age is kind of hard because MOST men your age or older want sex. Maybe you should try christian men, they might be more understanding? Maybe?

Totally agree with pinklady12 about the insecurity in men and needing to bring you down to their level. They are the sick ones not you.

Christian men would be more understanding and sympathetic towards you being a virgin. Don't worry, society has put too emphasis on losing your virginity at a young age and the majority of girls don't even enjoy their first time anyway and just do it to fit in and peer pressure.

Look for more sophisticated men that actually appreciate a mature relationship and be happy in yourself even though you feel hard done by.

Just wanted an update at how you are doing? Did any of the million advises here help?