Try arranged marrages they help allot speccially in my culture becuase you learn to love rather than try to love and it goes into peeses

HEY!

LOL I wish someone could arrange for me to be married..

Have you tried online dating? Even if you do the online dating thing atleast you will come home and be able to chat with someone online or on the phone even if its not 'long term' That way you will have the oppourtunity to figure out what you want

I have actually given up on looking and hope maybe someone will find me someday.. LOL

Lonely111,
Loneliness is sometimes a self-perpetuating condition, that is to say, we are lonely, we stay alone and we don't stop being alone. But loneliness is many times considered like inertia meaning that if our social life is at rest it may tend to stay at rest, but if it is in motion it will stay in motion.

Just what the heck am I trying to say, you need to put aside that you are currently (note I said currently) alone and join clubs or groups or even the local gym to get out there and meet people. If you can meet folks through shared interests then this a great first step in getting some communication going and take it from there. No one is going to hand a partner over to you, you have to be out there so that a partner can gravitate to you and vice-versa.

Good luck and remember you are not alone if you have a friend, and when you communicate in this forum you have friends (me being one of them!)

Wendy

I have had similar feelings, tried enough things...didn't work, including (in particular) online dating. The New Year's loneliness is something I experience each year, even when I had a girlfriend. There's just something about New Year's eve, the crowdedness, the fireworks, the cheering and forced happiness that make me want to throw up...

But I think there should be comfort in that one can still be happy and have a meaningful life without a mate. There's always these "research results" in the newspapers that tell that people with mate are happier. I think they do that because they get paid by dating sites (=big business)...and they forget to tell how many people are miserable in their relationship. Really I think it's the outside world that is always telling "get a mate, get a mate" and spending lots of attention to sex because it sells. I think we would be happier without the media. Of course we all have that internal desire too and as long as I'm not over 50 I intend to keep looking for love, but only every now and then.

Floris

i moved from philly to jacksonville, florida two years ago not knowing anyone. it's just me and my son.
i have a b/f, but that's about it.

i think you have to put yourself out there. for example a long time ago i met really nice guys on a dating hotline.
you should also subscribe to myspace. these two things ive mentioned you can meets friends from.
put yourself out there.

you have married people that feel alone, you have couples that feel alone. my b/f travels and he's always away, so i feel alone alot.

when your not looking for someone that's when your going to find someone.

Hey Lonely111,

I hope you are less lonely now than you were at the start of the year. I feel the same way as you do (did?) - I have tried everything to improve my chances of meeting someone who I can share my life with, but it's proved so difficult in my 30s.

I have no magic advice, I just wanted to say that I empathise

veebs x