shy about verbalizing sexual needs Posted: 05-10-08 13:22pm
I am in a very committed and loving
relationship with my Russian Fiancée for
over one year. We met online, had intense
discussions via phone and comp for 5
months before meeting in person. When we
first met, she was curious about sexual
desires and we cybered a few times. She
was always very positive and told me that
we were very compatible sexually. In
person when we met, she waited the first
evening after a romantic meeting and
dinner. Our chemistry was incredible, and
the second day I couldn%u2019t keep her
off me. I was always a gentleman and was
considerate in making sure she was ok with
any progression of lovemaking. Since our
meeting, she makes positive innuendos as
to our sexuality together, but if I start
to become aroused in our conversation, she
drops the subject as if she is shy or does
not want it to go further. I know she
desires to be with me and I am certain she
is faithful. My question and bewilderment
is; given our level of intimacy and trust
together, and the fact we had a mutually
compatible sexual experience, why would
she seemingly have no interest in
expressing her sexual feelings or wanting
to culminate them with me via phone comp,
especially since I know she enjoyed it at
the beginning of our relationship? I am
very puzzled. Any ideas from a Russian
woman%u2019s perspective? By the way, she
is 23 and very intelligent and
sophisticated.
Thanks for any ideas you may have.
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nathaniel_1
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Re:She is too shy about verbalizing sexual needs and desires? Posted: 05-11-08 14:26pm
My advice - Learn about the culture. Never
talk about sex before you become intimate.
It's not the done thing.
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Willa Weintraub
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Posted: 05-13-08 10:41am
Well IMO they became intimate online and
she had no problem with it. Also she had
no problem talking to him about it or
making advancments towards him.
I'm sorry, I can't really help you out.
She is a bit confusing.
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Maddie34
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Posted: 05-13-08 12:54pm
I think typing it and saying it are
completely different.
I can't have phone sex and I have a really
hard time talking about intimate things in
detail; however over doing the same things
over the internet or even doing the action
is not a problem.
I can make innuendos, I can make
suggestive comments but the second the
humor is gone and I get aroused and I know
he's aroused, I lock up over the phone so
I change the subject. In person I'm fine
as long as I don't have to narrate what
I'm doing.
If I knew why I did it then I'd tell you
but its something I'm trying to not let
happen.
