Hi Im 16 and Im just wondering,should i have sex with my boyfriend? Im a virgin and I know he really loves me and I really love him too. He's just been so patient and he has never pressured me to do anything I dont want to, I give him oral and vice versa and I wanna reward him for being so good to me but Im just really scared of getting pregnant cuz I know condoms break and i dont wanna go on the pill cuz i hear it messes up your insides if you wanna have kids later on...
Hi katthecurious and welcome to ehealth....Yours is an interesting question...You see I have never heard of giving sex as a "reward"....I only look at it as love...Look at it this way, what you have is something that can only be given to one person for the first time...This is special...Do you want to do this or is this simply a reward?...This will be up to you....Take care...
I was DEATHLY afraid my first time having sex about getting pregnant (so much so I made him walk 5 blocks at 3 in the morning while it was snowy out to go buy condoms) but it was very nice.
You see the only thing wrong is at our age the likelihood of staying together for a while is slim and I know that now I feel like I should still be with the guy. Almost a twinge of regret and that's really the thing you should be worried about. Just make sure you're ready to deal with that connection you will share with him. Remember he will ALWAYS be the guy you lost your virginity to
Surely if you're asking people whether you should lose your virginity, suggests to me you are not 100% sure or ready.
Like Caroline said, it's hardly a reward it's to show each other how much you love and resepct each other.
Before having sex, you should get some kind of contraception as the last thing you want is to become pregnant. I'm on the pill and have been since I was 15 (now 21) and I've never had problems with the pill. I came off it for a while for medical reasons and fell pregnant within 6 months of coming off it. That pregnancy unfortuneately ended in a miscarraige.
I also lost my virginity at age 16 and the truth is I absolutely regret it with all my heart. I thought I was in love and so did he but we aren't even on speaking terms anymore. Thank god I now have the most wonderful, understanding, perfect boyfriend in the world now!!! But I really wish I hadn't lost my virginity to that jerk. I definitely say wait till marriage or at least till you find the man you know for sure you're going to marry.
Please don't use sex as a reward to your boyfriend. Sex is a special act of love.
To me, I think you are to young. Speaking from experience, I am 27 & I lost my virginity 3 months ago. Now me & the guy have broken up. I thought he was "the one" but he turned out to be a jerk after it happened. NOw I'm working through my depression.
You are too young. I know it's hard with peer pressure & everything. Finish school, go to college, travel, enjoy life. You will find someone later in life.
i might be a guy but i very experienced for my age when it comes to things like this and specially for females since 90 of my friends and people in my life are females, but i can honestly tell you it could be the worst mistake of your life, like people already don't use sex as a reward for your bf if he truly loves you then waiting will be hard for him but he won't care and will wait for you to be ready to have sex, being in high school and all your probably feeling pressure by your friends, don't let them decide when you want to have sex no matter what they say don't do it. you could end up regretting it for the rest of your life, again im not trying to tell you when to have sex since i have no room to talk i became sexually active a lot younger then you but i do wish i saved myself for my gf who i'll probably end up marrying pretty soon, and i don't care it people think it sounds gay because im a guy.
Anyways don't have sex unless your ready don't do it because you feel an obligation or a need to because all your friends have had sex already.