My boyfriend and I have been together over 5years since I was 16. We now have a 3 yr old daughter. After the baby was born, he really hasn't been wanting to work. He tells me he's looking for jobs but later I find out he's really hanging out with his best friend. We live with my mother and she needs help with the rent. I can't work being that I stay home taking care of my daughter. I started to suffer from depression anxiety about two years ago and he's just making it worse. He's been leaving the house really early to go hang out and comes back very late. When he comes home all he does is play his video games. Before at least he used to be nice to me but now he's really rude and calls me names. I love him and I don't know what to do.please HELP!!!!!!!
well. i am no to really advise but the obvious is to put your foot down, and give him a lesson to learn from. for example, if he is now being mean etc then kick him out. Tell him he needs to find a job and that you guys cant live forever with your mom. & he needs to straighten his act up. let him go, but as a test, dont tell him that though. and if he really loves your daughter & you and wants a better life, then he will come back and do what he is suppose to do, if not, hes garbage, believe me, i have one too. Good luck sweety.. i know it sucks.. & its so hard but when there is a child involved you must put your daughter PRIORITY before it gets worst, AND I AM in the situation now ;(
In my opinion i would be upset with his behavior and depending how old he is i would make sure he does his job searching at home and to prove to me by not staying out late . and for him to at least consider working anywhere even fast food to help with rent. that should be his only excuse why he is coming home late. explain to him that he needs to man up for himself and for his child and you want to be proud of him and that you know he has so much potential in him and that you know he can do great things for himself and your child . explain to him that he can have his friends over instead of him going out . that way you are apart of the group.tell him you need to see changes right away or else you will have to move on which you do not want and explain to him that you need to be happy and he needs to make changes to make you happy. i hope this helps!!!