I've been dating a guy for the past seven months or so and we haven't really had too many major problems as far as fighting, or cheating or anything like that. I just don't know if I should get out now before it's too late and I don't know if I'm feeling like this because my last relationship of five years ended badly.
We have been talking about getting an apartment together for the last few months and at first I was enthusiastic (we both live with our parents right now) but now I'm not so sure anymore. I just lost my job and will be collecting unemployment and I have a lot of money saved so money isn't an issue for me and my bills that I have to pay. He just had surgery and was out of work for the past month; he'll be going back next week. But it's like he expects me to pay for all of the expenses associated with moving. I told him it had to be 50-50 or I wasn't going to consider it. Also any time we go out to eat or anything like that, I end up paying. He pays on occasion but not often. And when he does, he'll say something like, "I'm so broke because I paid when we went out to the bar last night." Then I would say that we shouldn't go out!
One of the reasons why he's broke is because he got a pay cut with his job, but also is paying a lot of child support for his two kids with a previous marriage. He's seven years older then me and I have never been married and have no kids. He hardly ever sees his kids because they live an hour away and can never afford the gas money to see them (I would use my car to drop his kids off since he doesn't have a car, but I ended that quickly). I told him that I wanted a child of my own, in five or so years but he was unenthusiastic about that. When talking about it, he said that we could have a kid, but it seems to me like he would only because I want one, not because he wants to have one with me.
He also has a lot of fines to pay off because he has felony charges against him from things he did a long time before we met. His credit is non-existent and if I were to ever consider being with him forever and marrying him, that would reflect onto me as well, of course. We have to move into a place that won't check our credit, otherwise we'd never be able to move out!
Our sex life used to be great. Obviously for the first few weeks after his surgery it was non-existent, which is understandable. But now that we can again, I have to ask him a lot more then he asks me. So basically, all of this baggage that he has (the kids, the low paying job, the previous felonies) makes me wonder if it's worth it to keep this guy. He is very sweet, we do have some things in common, and as broke as we both are now we do manage to have fun some times. I told him a little while back that I was having doubts, but there has never been a doubt in his mind that we wouldn't be together. So I don't know. If you took the time to read my post, I'd appreciate some advice. Thanks.
