I have no been able to talk to anyone about this yet and it is weighing on me. I am not sure where else to go, I just need to vent feelings I suppose.
I ended a 2.5 year relationship the day before yesterday. He did not take it well. Trying to convince me to give it a second chance all day yesterday. When I got off work, he called and said his car had been stolen with a lot of cash (which I knew was true), plus his cell phone (he was calling me from a neighbor's). WHAT!? So the compassionate person I am, I headed on over there. When I got there, he was distraught saying he had the money but then lost it and it was in his jeans that were "missing" that he had just changed out of. He was accusing his neighbors of stealing it.. just not making sense at all. Everything he was saying about this money thing was just confusing. He wouldn't calm down and I could tell he had been either drinking or taking some prescribed Xanax. After he got physically violent with me, I left. The police called me about 30 minutes later saying he had been in an accident, was being caught in lies and was scared, etc. I told them exactly what he told me: his car had been stolen at Walgreen's and he had not seen it since. The police are saying they have witnesses that he was in an accident and left the scene. He is telling me that they came to his apt and questioned him but had no evidence to arrest. Right now, I have no idea what is going on. At the moment, he is taking to lawyer. I care for him deeply and am scared to death as to what truly happened. He said he has done nothing wrong. Is he lying to me so I am not forced to lie to the police? I have no idea. Besides all of this, I feel compelled to be there for him right now. He is probably losing his job, has had his brother and father both pass away.. really doesn't have family. And he has became such a good man the past several months (until last night).. but I am young and needed to find happiness independently and just don't want a comittment right now. (The story of our relationship is another story for another day)
Gosh, this was long. I don't know what to expect, I just needed to get all of this out!!!!!!!
I'm not sure whether this is a legal question or a psychological one. Clearly, in any of your dealings with the police you must tell the truth. Are you asking whether it is OK to continue with your decision to terminate the relationship? The answer is yours to provide of course - you had decided, you have provided support, you want to move on. All that is clear. Do you have an obligation to assist someone who has been important in your life? The answer again is - it is up to you. As long as the help does not mean that you will resume the relationship out of pity or concern. Friends can support friends - this is no problem. The bigger issue is trying to help your friend get professional help. He sounds very conflicted. You should not attempt to be a 'professional' in this situation. If he is willing to get professional help you will have done something very positive for him.
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