she is driving me crazy!

Today [saturday] was a great day.
My step mom took me out to get my hair cut and to go shopping for some maternity clothes and after that i went back to my dad's house and had dinner with them [step mom, dad and brothers and sisters]
it was a great day, i played with my little sister for a little, watched some movies with the family and joked around.

THEN!
just as im here reading e-mails, reading posts on here, i get an e-mail from my mom. I never think my mom says anything too negative or rude when we e-mail each other, but this time, it blew me away.

She asked how my doctors appointment was first, [ok that sounds ok]
told me she got a pair of pj's for me, [sounds good still]
then says "i heard from craig[brother] that you are going to the hair dresser's with marilyn, [step mom] are you getting it cut or coloured?
Maybe you could get you eyebrows waxed.
Seeing that she doesn't think you take care of yourself very well.
Apparently I didn't teach you that according to her."

I was so blown away by what she wrote! Its like, just because someone offered to take me out, and pamper me its a crime! Or because she thinks i dont take care of myself, which i take very good care of myself.
But my step mom noticed that my hair was getting long, [and i had alot of dead ends] and thought that i would maybe like to get my hair cut a little and then we could go shopping. But there has to be some reason for it, other than doing it out of kindness or thinking i would enjoy it!
Im not going to get into detail about what i wrote back, i just let her realize how stupid she sounded, and had asked if she only made that comment because it wasnt her that took me out to get my hair done and shopping.
And also said that just because she doesnt like my step mom, doesnt mean everyone else is going to feel the way she does.

It just blows me away. This is why i distance myself from her.
First she doesnt want to hear about my dr's appts., and when i do talk to her about them she changes the subject fast, or sounds like she doesnt want to talk about them, so i dont mention it to her because i'd rather she ask me how they are going and how the pregnancy is going than get myself upset with her responses, then she makes a fuss about a nice thing my step mother does for me.

my mother has problems. but shes to blind to see them, and to full of herself to realize how she sounds.