To me personally the "hotness" of a woman is important, meaning how hot does she feels about herself, treating me like " I'm the man",
in bed:
passionate bj's, talking dirty (I love the way you taste,f..k me hard, I'm gonna come all over your c..k, come on my tits...)
lubing up her finger and putting in my butt,
High heels and fish net stockings,
putting my c..k between her tits, cumming on face
slapping her butt and calling her "my little sl.t", doing it i public places (man's washroom, car)
While shopping telling me "You are so hot I could f..k you right now"
I know it's also man's job to make his woman feel hot! Hope this helps

nice.. a little dirty but nice.
Its good to know I have done some of those things already. I would like to try the heels and fish nets though....I dont know if i would go for the "s..t" thing though....

but to each his own...thanks for the reply
hope to hear more...

Sweet question Rosie, but I have to admit that I'm curious as well.

Wendy

heres a new one i have realized...

CONFIDENCE

men love it when a woman is confident in bed and out of bed. My hubby told me this weekend that he loves to see my smile. That my smile when I am happy and sure of myself is sexier than anything else.

True that!!!

Second that!!

Wendy

Oral....I'd love to either get or give. Had both back 25 years or so ago with a girl friend. My wife of 17 years has done oral on me once. She said she didn't know what to do, but I thought she did a nice job and complimented her on it. I've asked every year or so and still am 1 for 20! I've offered to go down and actually got a tast of her when we were first dating....I am telling the truth here, she had the sweetest tast to her! Won't let me below the navel now.

Also like a nice hand job. Never had a "Pro" do one for me, maybe some day, but would feel like cheating. The wife does a nice job...especially in the shower. One of my favorite activites is a nice stroking in a warm shower.

why wont she allow oral? I would hate to miss out that long.

I would also like to know why she is not into oral...has she ever mentioned why? Does she feel it is unhigenic or something?? I personally would never miss out on a chance to do oral on a guy.

Wendy

Just says your mouth doesn't belong down there. I try to tell her that once she's experienced it, she won't want me to stop. As for doing oral on me, I tell her I won't cum in her mouth, and even offer to wear a condom. No luck, Oh well. The other parts of our sex life is good, just would like the whole package.

This man is speaking the truth...Women here have no idea of the amount of women that will not give a man oral sex...It is not a case of maybe, it is No...Maybe a few have before marriage to accomplish their mission in life, but later on that is it...It is not something that they will even consider bargining for...This has killed many marriages and sex itself, is a reason for many divorces...And may I add that the women don't care...Unless a woman is kept sexually stimulated she does not want it...But, how can she be kept sexually stimulated if she does not want it from the start?....That is our double edge sword...

What I say is a fact of life...Has been and probably always will be...Many just plain don't like sex...

Caroline

yeah I dont blame you..sorry its like that. I really really enjoy my hubby and i's oral sex relationship.

Why does she say your mouth doesnt belong down there? God says its ok to masterbate in order to save yourself for marriage. Why wouldnt oral sex be a part of masterbation


didnt mean to bring up God, it just sounds like she may have been made to feel bad about these sexual acts at some time in her life and most times its based on fearing God

I really do love my wife. Lots of emotion invested and would never dream of leaving her over something like this. Just would be nice to have as I said "the whole package".

caroline...i agree. There is also another area to be considered..women who are sexually abused. That was my case.

My sister was beat badly when she was caught masterbating at the age of 6. She didnt know any better. But all of us (6 kid) were forced to watch her punishment. From this I have the fear of masterbation.

I was sexually abused, through oral sex only, as a child
From this I refused and didnt even consider oral sex with any sexual partner before my husband. Why because I didnt love them enough to give my whole self to.

I was brought up with these warped ideas and morals...why? ALl the poor women and men out there. Its too bad.I made the choice to be a healthy sexual woman before I married and moved in with Daniel. I knew I wasnt a whole woman and I knew I wanted to give him everything.

its just sad

I'd appreciate any ideas you might have on this if you wnat to PM me.

well usually woman and men who havent been abused or havent had a warped sexual person as a parent have healthy sexual relationships. its a fact. The ones that are toughts certain things are dirty as a child grow up as fearful adults. These children who are mislead either are afraid of sex or become sexual addicts or promiscuious. Not ALL people go through this just most.

Is there anything like this in your wifes past? There has to be someone in her life that told her mouths dont belong there. Someone she trusted or someone that scared her into beleiving this. I hope im not wrong. But like I said most people that dont go through something like this have healthy sex lifes and feel good about sex in general

maybe you could try and get to the root of her troubles w/oral sex. was she a virgin when you married? Im guessing you are from an older age group since you have been married 17 yrs...im 22. COuld be the way she was raised, this day an age its a free for all. When I was a teenager it was too

For many of these women, this message in life is taught to them by their Mother...If they see a hot and loving union between two people, they will duplicate it...If they see a lack of hot love they will grow the same way...I am sure abuse is the case in some cases, but most is the lack of knowledge and passion...When you are in love and passion rules, it is a natural way of life...And may I add...It is a way to keep a man, a man...Show him how precious he is and he reacts the same way...And you wonder why so many men have early in life sexual dysfunction??...This is the number one cause...Lack of stimulation from his partner....

Just my thoughts...
Caroline

Actually I was #2...she's in her mid 40's, a 7 year difference in age. Could be her upbringing. Again, this isn't anything that's putting a big wedge between us, just miss doing it.