Sorry but since I am the lady, it is his job to make sure I am satisfied first and foremost!
No elaboration needed LOL

I wear the pants in this relationship dammit and get me a beer

I could go any way-

Focus on myself, because, well, if I don't, it might not happen.

Focus on my partner because if we both focus on eachother, we'll have a great experience.

It's a tie, a little give and a little take.

I could say any!

For me it's a tie. I want him to have a mind blowing experience but I want to as well. My husband is really wonderful and makes sure I am satisfied. It makes the whole experience better when both people are focused on pleasing each other.

It's always my desire to have my lady have multiplleo orgasms before I have mine. She tells me when she 's ready for me to cum. It's very pleasurable for me to know she has had a great ride. I will use oral, finger, or what every turns her to the highest emotion of pure sexual desire.
Love it.
Boy does she go...
She also loves for me to go down on her afterwords. She calls this recycling the pleasure.

I focus on my pleasure because it's so easy NOT to have an orgasm (I'm a woman, btw! so you girls know what I mean). He will always have an orgasm if we have sex but I won't unless I or we try (usually it's if I try, since he jokes about giving up on giving women orgasms, joking but serious too). Are there any women who have orgasms spontaneously without even trying??? I'd love to be one of them! But I'm not sure they exist, really! :0

His, without a doubt.

During sex...there is pleasure for me, but it's not any type of pleasure that would make me orgasm. I mean, I enjoy it and it feels good but nothing beyond that.

If I focus on my, I get really frustrated. I mean, frustrated to the point where I just stop everything. For a while, he put a lot of pressure on me to have an orgasm(lovingly, not demanding), and every time I didn't...I got so upset I would cry. For some reason, if I don't orgasm during times I think I should...I get really upset.

So- to avoid my getting upset, it's all about him. How to make him feel good but also make it last longer.

Right....I agree with you....But why do they demand a woman to have an orgasm?..What does it do for the guy?..or is it just certain ppl?

Ok..Now that I remember let me ask this...Sometimes while I'm having sex with my bf, I feel so but soo wet down there inside me...Somwtimes its even uncomftorable,,,feels weird....is it me?...or him???

his pleasure