Hello,

I'm actually posting this discussion for my wife. My wife (31) and I (32) have been together for a little over 10 years. When we first met, our lives were pretty much carefree (ie not a lot of responsibility) but we had a somewhat clear path on where we wanted to go with our lives together. My wife has had migraines (roughly once a month?) since she was 13-14. At that time she was prescribed birth control to medicate the migraines. This seemed to help marginally. These migraines were severe enough to induce vomiting, sensitivity to light, and put her in bed for hours. Sometime in 2001 her mother was in a car accident and passed away. She was diagnosed with PTSD for short time but was later "released" from seeing her psychologist. For the past several years (and I can't pin point the exact time) she's shown a multitude of symptoms including: irritability, feeling tired/exhausted, stressed, anxiety. To me it seems like she's lost her sense to have fun or enjoy life. Her exact words are "I just feel like I'm constantly stressed out and tired. Like stuff never ends. It's always something". In regards to her sexual dysfunction...she's experienced a decreased libido and it actually physically pains her when we do have sex. It's been two weeks now since she's come off of birth control since we both read that sexual dysfunction can be caused from being on birth control for an extended period. When we first met, we had a very healthy sexual lifestyle for several years, here for the past several years it’s turned into more of a chore (for her). We've also switched to a natural type condom (to help with her pain), but that doesn't help much. We recently saw a neurologist who has prescribed topamax for her migraines, and it seems to be helping quite a bit.

She went to see her physician yesterday and she prescribed Wellbutrin. I thought I'd reach out to what online communities I could find so seek out some help. She's/We've been living with this "cloud" over us for years now, and I'd like to find an explanation/solution. To back up to her feelings of stress though...I firmly believe that they're perceived and not real. What I mean is that we don't have any "real" stress in our lives. She has a good secure job, we're financially secure, own our own home and are both relatively healthy. We've fallen out of touch with some of our friends lately, as they live 25-45 minutes away, and we're typically homebodies anyways. She doesn't have much structure/support in regards to her immediate family (mother/deceased, father/deadbeat, brother/deadbeat). But my family has been somewhat supportive (they've added to the stress here recently).
Any thoughts and/or feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Chris