In 2006, when I was 29 years old, I had anterior/posterior vaginal repair due to a prolapse in my bladder. Prior to surgery I was experiencing problems with leakage and problems during intercourse due to vaginal looseness. I couldn't take a bath because when I did the water would enter into my vagina and come pouring out as soon as I would stand up. During intercourse, air would enter into my vagina and make intercourse uncomfortable. My husband addressed the issue with me as he wasn't able to feel anything during intercourse. That is when I sought the help from my doctor who referred me to a surgeon for anterior/posterior vaginal repair. When I was described what this surgery entailed, I was lead to believe that once I had this surgery my problems would be solved. I would no longer leak and I was told that I would be brought back to my pre-child birth vaginal state. The doctor even joked that I would feel like virgin again. Well, needless to say, that has not been the case for me. I still leak, though not as bad; and I still have looseness. However, within a year after having the surgery I went to specialist after specialist to find out why I was still having these problems and all of them told me that I appear to be normal. Well it's not normal to me. I know what my body felt like down there better than any doctor and it is not normal. My husband and I barely have sex because as he described it, its like having sex in a bowl. There is no tightness for him. Upon penetration there is some tightness but once he gets past that it is very loose. I have tried to figure out what it is that he is feeling by "checking" myself and he is right. It is as if the vaginal muscle collapses as soon as there is pressure and becomes a black hole. You can almost feel the suction as the wall retracts backwards and there is nothing there. I guess I would describe it as there is some tightness around the base but after that there is nothing. Just a deep cavern of air. I have tried sexual physical therapy, vaginal weights, kegel exercises (that I can't do), different positions; nothing seems to work. I've been to a plastic surgeon to see if they could "fix" me but they have all told me nothing is wrong. It's all in my head. It's all in my husband's head. But I feel they are wrong. I know my body and what it was like before I had these problems. This is not my imagination.
Has anyone else had these problems after having this surgery? Is there anything that anyone can suggest to help? I'm at my whits end trying to fix this. I am only 31 years old. I used to have a wonderful and active sex life. Now I'm embarrassed to even initiate sex and when we do have sex I'm embarrassed because the entire time I am wondering if he's feeling anything. I often times cry afterwards. I can't take it anymore. Help!!
hi helpme. i probably am not going to be much help to you, but i will try.
prior to me losing my virginity, i had a b/f and he and i had a great sex life. the interesting thing is that none of that involved the use of my vagina.
we did all sorts of things, played, 69, masturbated each other and ourselves while the other watched, etc. we used toys and we had one hell of a lot of fun.
my point to you is that if you're not having a fun time, it doesn't matter whether or not your vagina is working, you're still not going to have fun. what you have to do is to find a way to be happy with what you've got.
there are women who have lost either one or both breasts. i know this can be devastating to the woman. i'm sure losing the function of the vagina is similar in many ways and different in many other ways, but just because you don't have the use of a breast for example, doesn't mean that your sexuality should go away.
you have a mouth, a hand, a clitoris, and i'm guessing you have a butt too. you have the ability to have an orgasm and your husband does too. what's keeping you from it? use what parts of your body you have an have fun with them. use your body to love your husband. a vagina shouldn't prevent you from having fun.
i'm not minimizing the medical issue here. i believe that you have a legitimate medical issue and that you need to continue going to doctors until you find one competent enough to figure out what your problem is. however in the meantime, use your body and make it work for you and your husband under the premise of you two having FUN!
Ive just read your message and ,my god, my symptoms are identical to yours. Its horrid and disstressing. I feel the same.
You havnt mentioned if your prolapse was caused by childbirth ?
I am 36years old, at 19 i had a horrific first birth, i was told by my doctor to complete my family as i also have ulcerated colitus which caused me to become homebound throughout my pregnancy and 3months after. At 22 I gave birth to my second child which was very traumatic, at 23 i was sterilized.
I had a check up with my doctor after my first birth and he took one look at my vagina and he said "my god it looks like you have been butchered". Its not something you want to here at a tender age of 19.
My vagina never recovered, my symtoms were the same as yours, my confidence in the sex department was very low. To this day i have never had an orgasm. While having sex i am always concerrned with what my partner is feeling as i feel very little. I have had three relationships in my life my first husband for 9 years, a fling for 18months, and second marriage for 9 years. I am now separated.
Believe me i am a very good actress in the bedroom department lol , and at 36 i know all the tricks to please a man, and have not had any complaints. When your vagina does not perform as it should its always on your mind during sex, it is for me anyway.
I am now waiting to have an anterior and posterior repair with a possible hysterectomy, this should be within the next 3 months. I was hoping for good results and a tighter vagina. It will be very interesting to here if anyone else has had good or bad results after prolapse repair.
If you dont mind me asking, What is your next step ?
Honestly I do not know what the next step is. I've been every where that I could think of to find help to fix this problem and everyone that I have seen has said there is nothing wrong. That is until recently. I just had my third child two months ago. I had a c-section because I didn't want to push a baby out and possibly due more damage to the pelvic floor. I saw a different obgyn and explained to him my problems. After having the baby and going to my 8 week check up, I explained to him what I was experiencing. He did a pevlic exam and said that he did agree with me. He stated that the vaginal canal is not a normal shape. He said that it curves to the right instead of going straight back towards the cervix. Said he had to actually go searching for my cervix while doing the exam. He also stated that vaginal walls are supposed to collapse and mine don't. He says that they just remain open which can cause air to get in there and things to "swoosh" around. I felt relieved that I wasn't just imagining things. However, he said he's never treated anything like this before and would have to consult with his colleges to see if anyone had any solutions, either surgical or non-surgical. I'm waiting to hear back from him.
All I have to say about the surgery is research your surgeon before you have it done. See if they can do it with lasers instead of a scapel. Understand that even after surgery you are going to have to do pelvic floor training (something they didn't tell me about). Also know that whenever nerves are cut into it takes them a long time to regenerate. I went into having this surgery thinking it was going to be a magical fix and I would be like a virgin again. It didn't happen that way for me but that doesn't t mean that it won't for you. Many other women have had this surgery done with much sucess. I just wasn't one of them.
I am having the same exact problem I just had vaginal repair surgery anterior/posterior and uterus taken out. do you know if everyone who had this surgery experienced the same as you, because now I am worried, the doctor told me the same thing.
i had ant and post surgery 2 weeks ago. I too complained about not feeling anything during sex (tight in when he first goes in but then really loose after the first inch) and my fiancee is well above average in "size". I started feeling inadequate the more he would refuse me when I initiated sex. he hinted on what the prob was and I felt worse(mentally) but then I saw my surgical gynecologist and here I am today. I am sore and slow to think and move but I cant wait to be sexually active again. I will follow up with this blog in 4 weeks to express my experience.
NOT WORTH BEING CARED 4 AS NO WORKING VAGINA???!!!
You guys make me cry. And scared actually. I now have been trough half the internet for echo, but i cannot find a solution. Only uneasied, not helped woman. How can this all be such a taboo thing in our times? Or is it, that we are not worth of any interest anymore as we don't 'function'? This is NOT a beauty issue! It is about being ALIVE! Although my issue is not the one of an enlarged vagina after birth. I can't explain.
If anybody knows THE SURGEON WHO can help, please tell. It must be a person with real passion for the medical+humain. NO MONEYMAKER! Thanks for reading...
I agree with Brigitta, it's surprising how so many women are not taken seriously even in this day and age. I don't have the same situation as all of you, but I have had damage done to my vagina as well and I've been looking for ways to get it fixed... It's a horrible thing to face. Just empathizing. I'll be watching this space, I'd definitely like to see how things develop, hopefully for the best.
I have just had the operation 3 days ago and now recovering, i felt nothing during sex and had to help myself to go to the toilet. 32 yrs ago i had a horrendous birth, 3 degree cut from back to front and forceps,. This would not happen today. I treated the helping go to the toilet thing as normal and i had to put up with it and it was the sexual function, well lack of it that i went to the doctors in the first place. I am very worried about doing any damage to the surgery and now i am taking it seriously since reading up on it all.
That always sucks to hear ladies, but there is hope. keep doing thoes kelges exercises they do work! what has happened is the sex you've had over time and or childbirth has displaced the muscles in the cervix cavity. as the a fore mentioned surgery may tighten the external orifices it doesn't touch the inner. you need to build and learn to control the pelvic muscles, that is your real key.
also, don't be so quick to put the blame on yourselves entirely... Hubby is needs to make happy time fun for you too, thats the most important part.
I know a great surgeon in southern california who is fellowship trained in Female Pelvic Medicine and Reconstructive Surgery (FPRMS) this is the type of surgeon you should go to if you want the best results. Gynecologist are not board accredited in FPMRS and are not the best surgeons to fix cystocele, rectocele, uterine prolapse, and urinary incontinence which can be complex.
im 24 and had a prolapsed womb due to childbirth. ive had the surgery a year ago and everythings been fine. ive had sex for the first time since the operation 2 weeks ago and everytime after i bleed. has anyone else had this problem, its worring me. x
I''ve just had this surgery done last week (posterior vaginal repair) so I am still recovering. It''s been difficult. I had the same problem during intercourse, it''s not as satisfying as it was before I had my child. Only in certain positions would I feel the most pleasure form intercourse. I had a 9 1/2 lb baby 9 yrs ago ( I am a tiny 110 lb girl) and I tore & didn''t heal properly. Apparently I had scar tissue from where I didn''t heal properly but none of my gynecologists EVER told me this. So for the past 9 years I was wondering what the heck was wrong with me! It wasn''t until recently that i gained the courage to go to another GYN and address the issue & ask about getting surgery done. I am kinda scared now after reading that some surgeries haven''t fixed the problem. After going thru all of this i would hope it would work! I will post my experience after recovery!
I''ve just had this surgery done last week (posterior vaginal repair) so I am still recovering. It''s been difficult. I had the same problem during intercourse, only in certain positions would I feel it. I had a 9 1/2 lb baby 9 yrs ago ( I am a tiny 110 lb girl) and I tore & didn''t heal properly. Apparently I had scar tissue from where I didn''t heal properly but none of my gynecologists EVER told me this. So for the past 9 years I was wondering what the heck was wrong with me! It wasn''t until recently that i gained the courage to go to another GYN and address the issue & ask about getting surgery done. I am kinda scared now after reading that some surgeries haven''t fixed the problem. After going thru all of this i would hope it would work!
I had severe dysplaysia, leep cone, and two miscarries before the age of 18. At twenty one I found I was pregnant after lots of doctors telling me that would probably never happen. My son weiged six lbs six onc. I tore and was cut seiously said small perineium. About three months after his birth I felt a large lump inside me. Mind you I am twenty three now, I went to doc I have a uterine prolapse, cytocyle, and rectocyle. Said my front and back wall have pretty well collpased. I am schedules for hysterectomy and pinups of other organs in july of 2011. I feel the air inside me now, my husband and I just do what we have to make it good ad we do. He understands that this is the way it is and he still loves me. I have all these problems frm a tiny baby and was told I would never have that child. I am blessed with the one child I do have and I have the most loving husband to understand that everything can't be perfect. You just have to take what ya got and make what you can of it.
l had a anterior and postierior and perinal repair 6 weeks ago , l am really worried l dont know if its fixed my problems or not , l am terrified to have sex with my partner just in case l am let down , l hope it feels tighter , l could understand how other people feel , thats all l thought about as well during sex , if it was ok ,if he felt me , cause l never felt a thing sometimes even leaked urine during sex it was a nightmare, so hopfully when we do try it will be sucessfull , l will let you know ...
I also had the a & p repair with a total hysterectomy almost 8 weeks ago. The 1st time my husband had intercourse with me it was very painful due to my opening being made too small now. After that, we tried one more time but my husband lost erection stating he was too worried about hurting me. Worried about what this has done to our sex life after all my hopes of this only improving it.