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Sexual Arousal - Am I the Only One?

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Hey everyone, so I have a couple of questions.

I get turned on by pretty much everything or anyone, and I dont know if this should be a concern or not. I know that for sure I am a heterosexual woman. I mean, I am very comfortable with my sexuality, and I am a very sexual person. I get insanely hot for men in real life, absolutely love them, they are the ones that I fall in love with and they are the ones who steal my heart. I get turned on by sexual things they say or any kind of sexual gesture they make that implies sex in any way; and they are the ones who i flirt with and date etc. I get turned on by thoughts of threesomes with them, thoughts of their bodies, and thoughts of having sex with them alone. With men, I experience not only genital arousal but psychological arousal, meaning when i am aroused by them, I imagine myself and want to be there with them doing sexual things and making love.

On the other hand, I do become gentially aroused by things like large breasts on a girl, or girl on girl stuff. I dont like the thought of lesbian sex or kissing a women, it turns me off completely..its just way too much information, makes me cringe a bit. I am not attracted in person to women on the street, or any girls i know, and I dont get those sexual urges around girls like I get so strongly around men. I just dont want that intimacy with a woman that I want & need from a man.

With my girl arousal my mind is not really there- the sensation is completely different. I dont get that great hot and bothered feeling like I do with my men..Its almost like I feel a little uncomfortable, like the feeling is not in line with my inner self and who I am, its like a feeling that I know dosent fit. It dosent match my heart- so it does not feel anywhere as good. With men it feels much more natural around them, whereas if I were to be genitally aroused by a woman I would have to seek it out somehow. I never had any interest in having any sexual or emotional relationship with women- the thought just does not strike me as appealing in any manner.

I have been this way basically since I was sexually aware- A bit after actually, as my first curiosities about sex were boys, obviously.

I read that this is common for women, based on a study that majority (although not all) of women can become genitally aroused by anything really- and I feel that applies for me.

Are there any women out there who feel the same? What does this mean?
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replied June 6th, 2010
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K80, It means that you are a normal warm blooded heterosexual woman.

Why would you worry about this? You know what you like and what you want. A woman's body is a wonderful, erotic and sexual thing, your own included. It is normal to find that arousing. Finding something arousing does not mean you want to engage in sex with her.

So stop beating yourself up about it and search for some deeper meaning. There is none.

Take care.
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