well im 14 now and me and my girlfriend have been daiteing for about 8 or 9 months, and we realy like each outher, and she came over yesterday, and we were talking about things like blowjobs handjobs, finguring and stuff like that, not sex, but outher things. she said she would , and i want to, but i just need some advise, how to go about it?
How to go about it? If you really want to start getting into sexual activities I'd strong you recommend you to read "Relationship books" (Psychology I would suggest) Read about protections and STDs. etc.
Sex part, is very very simple, outcomes are not.
I would suggest to wait a little while. And didn't you just posted that you were 13 LOL.
i agree w/the previous poster..the earlier you start messing around the more likely you are to start engaging in full on sex...and at 14 you're really not ready for it..plus if you wait for that special girl its just that much better...
Me and my boyfriend have been together for over four years now and started dating as freshman. We had been together for about the same time yall have now when we first started doing stuff. But it wasn't until about the begining of sophmore year that we did mess around. Yall both need to truly think if yall are ready. And it is true that you can say that you won't have sex but in the heat of the moment your minds do crazy things. You will both have to be strong and stop before things go to far. My boyfriend and I were able to wait a year after starting sexual activities to actually have sex but it was hard to wait just that long. Make sure that yall are extra carefull and that yall are both fully ready!! Once yall start messing around it will change things. Goodluck with everything and i hope yall make the right decision!
scary your first time but i wouldnt do it right now. i would wait one or two years and i would want to feel the erge to do it now but if you wait now every time you wait when the moment really is there it will be the best.
As a father and now a grandfather my clear truthful advice is to wait. Although it feels really good the emotional effects like guilt and the responsibility are heavy. You probably are listening to the hormones right now. Spend some time alone and really think this over. I can tell you are a smart kid.
Hand jobs you can enjoy by yourself. Listen to your heart not your hormones.You have a great life ahead of you.
first, if she says she is on the pill, wear a condom anyway.
second, look up the g spot orgasm and learn how to stimulate it. (pm me if you want me to tell you how)
third, if your going to do this, make sure you both truly care about eachother. if you dont you will regret it when i started this we went on to just do exactly what your talking about, except i got her a little too horny and we had full on sex and i now wish that i hadnt because i can never give the gift of virginity away again
fourth, make sure you both really want this, and remember that you are trying to satisfy her... not yourself.
i think it ok to do stuff like you say but wait on the sex but if it comes down to that i know how fast stuff happens like one time i went over to my gf house to watch a movie in a matter of 20 min our clothes were off
I'm not gonna tell you to wait. You're 14, you have a willing girl, you're a force of nature man, Its going to happen. I'm also not going to instruct you how to have sex. For one it's a huge liability for me to be advising a young teen, for another the information that would be relevant is likely the same stuff you got in sex ed. I will tell you some things I learned at 15.
Protection is important, with virgins, regardless of what she thinks. The only thing I could imagine more destructive to a teenager than an unwanted pregnancy would be a flesh eating virus. Be deadly serious about protecting yourself and this girl from consequences.
"I'm ready" doesn't mean the same thing for girls as it does for boys. You were born ready for sex, girls need to process the idea of sex in a lot of stages. Go slowly, watch her for uncertainty or mixed signals, make sure if she's having second thoughts anywhere along the way that you stop for her until she's ready to go.
You would be shocked at how much information about sex you can find in your local public library. Graphic anatomical information and detailed information about technique and methodology. Books are awesome.
See Ive always felt highly mature for my age, and I always thought boys in my grade were just too childish for me, and that I needed something more. I went out for an 8th grader, nothing happened. After him I felt ready for more..more then just a kiss..I dated another 8th grader towards the end of 6th grade. After about 3 months we began engaging in sexual activity. We had talked about sex, but I felt as if I was too young and AT LEAST wanted to wait until my 13th birthday. (I know still awfully young) We made it to 6 months and there was about 2 weeks until my birthday, but we ended up having sex. We have been together since then, and hes now almost 17 and Im 15. Even though were still together after over 2 years..people critisise me. They all say I was too young. Yes I was very young, but as I said I always felt very mature, and It felt right at that time, and obviously I didnt make a mistake because Im still with him. Can I get yoour take on this? What do you think about it?
well its your choice. if you felt ready then you didint make a mistake as long as he was safe. thats my oppinion. and this post was a loooong time ago. lol im with a diffrent girl now. but we did end up haveing sex. her parents found out though cus i guess she was hurting after? idk went too deep :p opps. lol