The advise is he is 2 old and he is a sicko...got it? You wanted advise but your too sprung to take it.Instead you get defensive and have a fit...that shows your age,dude..like it or not,we are NOT going to tell you what you want to hear just because your upset with our advise...read them all..NO ONE thinks its a good idea...except your "boyfrind"...or "manfrind".
It started with you being 13 and he in his 20's...dude! Wake up!He IS SICK and it IS WRONG and ILLEGAL! What did you expect us to do?Hold your hand and say love him anyway,he really loves you for you and age doesn't matter? Well,forget it.Age doesn't matter..not one bit...as long as you are both of legal age...if you were 22 and he was 50 I would say fine,do what you want but you aren't and you are still a minor...
Trevor,you aren't even old enough to drive a car or go in the military or vote or go to a bar or live in your own place or go to an R rated movie alone........your a kid still.Living at home with your mom and dad....what would they say? Would they say great,lets have him over for dinner,its fantastic that you have him and he has you??? Do they know? I didn't think so.I bet you haven't even told them that you are gay yet,have you? Probably not because your still a kid,Trevor...and there isn't anything wrong with being a kid.Be incredibly happy about that and find someone your age..or maybe up to 17 but NOT a grown man.Your so young and infatuated by all this that you don't see the big picture.He is sick and perverted and if you cant understand that then wait till your about17 and he has moved on to the next 13 year old.Then how are you going to feel? It isn't right on his part...you must comprehend that sooner or later...no one was picking on you or belittling you.We were trying to advise you and the fact that you cant understand that and are getting mad and saying just forget it shows that you are still way to immature and young to being do this with a grown man.You don't even know you are being used because it feels good to you.I get that.Sex feels good. I pray you 2 are using protection cuz this guy is more than likely having sex with other guys of unknown ages..! If he gives you HIV/AIDS or hepatitis or some other incurable STD then your going to really have a lot to deal with..this will seem like a walk in the park!
Think about it ... sorry if I was harsh but I have been there myself and I remember what i went threw.I was 14 and he was 23...he used me for a while,dumped me without so much as a bat of the eye and moved on to my friend who was 14 as well...the man was an adult and we were in high school...if you must have a boyfriend to feel complete then find someone closer to your age who isn't breaking the law every time he has sex with you.The laws are there for a reason and you cant even understand that because your in the middle of the firestorm..
Trevor,please,at least think about what everyone here has said.No one was trying to make you feel bad but we are mostly all grown men and women here and we know from life experience that this type of relationship never lasts and is unhealthy for the victim both physically and mentally..good luck,buddy..
I hope you understand.
Peace and Love..and Pride,
Homer

well said Homer!

I'm sorry for taking so long to reply but my parents wouldn't say anything they're dead.

Homer, Very well put. Getting it right out there.

Trevor, I strongly advise you to read the words Homer is typing. This isn't healthy, at all.

I really wish you would understand this.

You don't understand he's all I have.

He is not all you have. You have us and we are trying to get you to remove the blinders that you are wearing and to open your eyes fully and look around and see what we see / hear from you about this person who apparently has you so dependent on him and only him...does the word isolation mean anything? What about control?

I'd suggest that you find a trust-worthy adult; like a teacher, police officer, pastor and tell them what has happened and how you now feel.

Remember: He is NOT all you have as I am sure you are not all that he has...regardless of what he may have told you.

You can't begin to fix what you don't acknowledge....

You can lead a horse to water but you cant make him drink...we have all told you and you want to say he is all you have and so i guess that is that...you will look back at this one day and realize that we were trying to help you but you were too into this to listen.. even YOU yourself titled this thread "sex with an adult" so you know its wrong..just have safe sex at least or you'll pay for the rest of your young life...

The only thing I have to say is, you do not understand what is going on. I'm going to harsh and blunt here for a second... take off the damned rose-colored glasses. Look around you. You ARE being played. The signs are there. YOU are underage, he is into his adult years. HE is USING YOU. HE IS USING YOU

I went to school with a well-known pedophile teacher, who was doing this same thing for *40* YEARS. This guy that you are "seeing" is exhibiting those same characteristics that I saw back then, and quite honestly, makes me nauseous. He never touched me, and I would have not allowed it, as I graduated HS at 17. This man preyed on those that were 15-16.

I beg of you to take a step back, and observe what is really going on. You will see that what he is doing is really illegal, and I will bet anything that the moment any adults that are close to you knows what is going on, that this guy will be brought to justice. And I am certainly hoping so. I am just hoping that you wake up and realize this before it's too late.

If anything would happen to him I would have no where to live.

Trevor346,

He has made you dependent on him. It is all part of his manipulation.

OK, where would you live if he suddendly died?

You need to be independent. You would be able to find a place...even if it was a temporary shelter. Do you work? If so, save enough until you could get a place of your own or a friend.

If you want to get away you will find a way. Stop making excuses and get out of this...you can do it.