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homerx

replied on January 14th, 2009

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To quote George Micheal.........................................

Sex is natural,sex is good,not everybody does it,but everybody should.
As long as you are not lying or hurting anyone then by all means,go forth and have fun..just play safe and be honest with yourself and your partner(s).

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killbill

replied on January 15th, 2009

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i get pretty tired of hearing about it constantly to be honest.

i think society is obsessed with sex.

i don't really care that much what others are doing as long as they don't interfere with me or mine.

it's just so plastered on every surface you see and talked about incessantly.

i think sex is something you crave but love is something you need to survive.

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homerx

replied on January 15th, 2009

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killbill wrote:

i get pretty tired of hearing about it constantly to be honest.

i think society is obsessed with sex.

i don't really care that much what others are doing as long as they don't interfere with me or mine.

it's just so plastered on every surface you see and talked about incessantly.

i think sex is something you crave but love is something you need to survive.

I agree...sex is over rated and people get obsessed with it..

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diamondsz

replied on January 15th, 2009

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I think its under-rated in relationships but its a hype among the new generation or the single folks...

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J3nnyuk

replied on January 16th, 2009

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diamondsz wrote:

I think its under-rated in relationships but its a hype among the new generation or the single folks...

Yeah i agree totally single people tend to talk about it all the time but when your in a relationship you don't talk about i much, me personally LOVE it! and love talking about it to my partner, i think more people should do this! Jenny Wink

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JavaMissus

replied on January 31st, 2009

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J3nnyuk wrote:

diamondsz wrote:

I think its under-rated in relationships but its a hype among the new generation or the single folks...

Yeah i agree totally single people tend to talk about it all the time but when your in a relationship you don't talk about i much, me personally LOVE it! and love talking about it to my partner, i think more people should do this! Jenny Wink

I agree that it is far under-rated in relationships where they need it to survive and make it work...I believe it is far over-rated with many young and members of the new generation who not only create this thrill, but wear it out before they are truly able to embrace what they have found....I believe that real sexual passion does not come unless two people are insanely mad about each other....It then creates the animal in man that is necessary for sex to be all that it should be....When you are young, you do what is written that you are supposed to do....When you are older and experienced, you create your passion...Each act is a new awakening and it gets better with age...

So many people marry/partner for the wrong reason...IMO, sex should be at the top of the list next to loving the person...

Caroline

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diamondsz

replied on February 4th, 2009

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CarolineEF wrote:

J3nnyuk wrote:

diamondsz wrote:

I think its under-rated in relationships but its a hype among the new generation or the single folks...

Yeah i agree totally single people tend to talk about it all the time but when your in a relationship you don't talk about i much, me personally LOVE it! and love talking about it to my partner, i think more people should do this! Jenny Wink

I agree that it is far under-rated in relationships where they need it to survive and make it work...I believe it is far over-rated with many young and members of the new generation who not only create this thrill, but wear it out before they are truly able to embrace what they have found....I believe that real sexual passion does not come unless two people are insanely mad about each other....It then creates the animal in man that is necessary for sex to be all that it should be....When you are young, you do what is written that you are supposed to do....When you are older and experienced, you create your passion...Each act is a new awakening and it gets better with age...

So many people marry/partner for the wrong reason...IMO, sex should be at the top of the list next to loving the person...

Caroline

Caroline I have to disagree, I can have passion and sex in the same line, passion is a love for sex and it is moreso about loving yourself than loving the one you are with. I don't mean that in a cocky way, more so in a confidence, being able to know what makes you go and then applying similar knowledge to your partner which can also come down to communication. Age doesn't define better sex nor does expierence what defines it is a willing to open your mind, love it and to be willing to understand!

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killbill

replied on February 4th, 2009

Experienced User

i don't understand people who say sex is the most important thing in a relationship. maybe yours, but you can't speak for every relationship. what about people who can't have sex? are they not worthy of having a loving partner or being married? what if you marry someone that you are really compatible with sexually and then something happens to one of you and you can't have sex anymore? what if one of you is sick or handicapped somehow? or what if one of you changes hormonally and doesn't feel like being sexual anymore? there has to be so much more in a relationship than sex in order for it to be a true committment and to last, and, if that is the case, then sex isn't the most important thing in all relationships.

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JavaMissus

replied on February 4th, 2009

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diamondsz wrote:

CarolineEF wrote:

I agree that it is far under-rated in relationships where they need it to survive and make it work...I believe it is far over-rated with many young and members of the new generation who not only create this thrill, but wear it out before they are truly able to embrace what they have found....I believe that real sexual passion does not come unless two people are insanely mad about each other....It then creates the animal in man that is necessary for sex to be all that it should be....When you are young, you do what is written that you are supposed to do....When you are older and experienced, you create your passion...Each act is a new awakening and it gets better with age...

So many people marry/partner for the wrong reason...IMO, sex should be at the top of the list next to loving the person...

Caroline

Caroline I have to disagree, I can have passion and sex in the same line, passion is a love for sex and it is moreso about loving yourself than loving the one you are with. I don't mean that in a cocky way, more so in a confidence, being able to know what makes you go and then applying similar knowledge to your partner which can also come down to communication. Age doesn't define better sex nor does expierence what defines it is a willing to open your mind, love it and to be willing to understand![/quote]
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I could not be who I am without my partner.....He brings out the animal in me....He allows me to be free....He fingers me and eats me and finds my soul.....Unlike you, I do believe that age can and does in many ways define better sex.....I have given up trying to understand myself long ago....I just accept that I am wild as the wind and can make love at the drop of a hat.....When you are in the state of perpetual heat for another soul like I am, you never need lubrication....His smile or touch does this to you.....This started a good four years ago.....I consider myself the happiest and luckiest woman in the world.....My passion is my love for my partner....He brings out the caged part of me that every woman strives for and I pray that I may stay this way until the day I die.....

Caroline

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diamondsz

replied on February 4th, 2009

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killbill wrote:

i don't understand people who say sex is the most important thing in a relationship. maybe yours, but you can't speak for every relationship. what about people who can't have sex? are they not worthy of having a loving partner or being married? what if you marry someone that you are really compatible with sexually and then something happens to one of you and you can't have sex anymore? what if one of you is sick or handicapped somehow? or what if one of you changes hormonally and doesn't feel like being sexual anymore? there has to be so much more in a relationship than sex in order for it to be a true committment and to last, and, if that is the case, then sex isn't the most important thing in all relationships.

Sex is half the relationship....

A quote
"A relationship is like baking a cake, you need the right amounts of eggs, flour, yeast, sugar and other ingredients to make it work."

Do you think that a relationship with one person who has a high sex drive and a low sex drive will work?? Do you think that one or both do not have feelings of resentment?

To love someone indicates a lust, desire, longing and intimacy for another person, in regards to a relationship, since the word love can be applied to different things (Merriam webster.)

I know for myself, that if I got into a relationship where I lacked sex it wouldn't last long, you don't have to be in a relationship but you should enjoy their company, now unless people agreed to a sexless life than so be it, they are entitled to it, considering both consented to it!

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diamondsz

replied on February 4th, 2009

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CarolineEF wrote:

[.....Unlike you, I do believe that age can and does in many ways define better sex.....I have given up trying to understand myself long ago....I just accept that I am wild as the wind and can make love at the drop of a hat.....die.....

Caroline

Caroline age doesn't define how good your sex is, for some it can make it better but at 25 I think my sex life is great, I can be an animal If I choose to and extremely creative but my age doesn't define it. It almost seems that you trying to implement that only older people "have incredible sex or passionate sex" I can say otherwise!

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killbill

replied on February 5th, 2009

Experienced User

you guys are talking about romance. love is different from that. are you committing to the person or to what they can do for you physically? i'm talking about love as an action that you choose every day not saying 'what can you do for me?' and if they can't give you sex you just walk away from them. i guess if that is what people's idea of intimacy and committment is that explains why most relationships don't last.

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JavaMissus

replied on February 5th, 2009

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I imply nothing......I can only speak of who I am as a sexual being and who we are as a matching set....I am all the years of a woman loving a man......Yet, only now finding this new place in my life do I realize the joy of breaking a barrier that I never knew existed.....I have let my soul free....Released all the she devil inside me....In doing this, I have let this new part of me loose that is wild as the wind....She knows no boundaries....She would rather be bedded down than anything else in the world........

Never in our married life have we used sex toys, videos or anything but ourselves....Sex acts are not planned...They just happen.......When he looks at me, he stirs me to my very soul.....This is even after all these years....Sexually, I do not know the word, no.....This special part of our life is also our favorite part of our life.....And I have no idea of how I got here....

Take care,
Caroline

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diamondsz

replied on February 5th, 2009

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killbill wrote:

you guys are talking about romance. love is different from that. are you committing to the person or to what they can do for you physically? i'm talking about love as an action that you choose every day not saying 'what can you do for me?' and if they can't give you sex you just walk away from them. i guess if that is what people's idea of intimacy and committment is that explains why most relationships don't last.

Would you go out with someone who had a nasty personality? Would you put up with it?

Personality and sex are the factor of a relationship, they break down into other parts but if for example we used another aspect of the relationship like lack of trust would you stay with that person?

If I am with someone and after a few talks things havent gotten better, I would leave, I think sex is a very important part of a relationship as I do with communication and trust!

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killbill

replied on February 5th, 2009

Experienced User

i'm saying i don't love someone based on what they can give me. i love them because of who they are, their character and spirit. those are not things that change. when life gets hard those things just become stronger. if someone gets sick, those things help them through. when i was sick in the hospital and my husband cared for me and helped me through the hardest challenge i've ever had to go through so far in my life, sex was the least important thing in the world but we are still together and i will never forget how strong and solid he was during that time. to me, that is what love does, it is a bond that is so much more than physical.

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diamondsz

replied on February 6th, 2009

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Yes but I think being sick would be more than an acceptable reason...

What I am talking about is for example...

I start a relationship off with someone and our sex life is great but than decreases to nothing and there is no outside factors, in that case I would but it would depend on the sitiuation.

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