Aunt WeeWee
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sex or no ?
Posted: 04-25-08 13:42pm
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ok, imma make this short as possiable. I
go to prom in about a month & Im taking a
guy friend. We have been good friends for
about 2 yrs & we are no more then friends.
Well today we were talking about prom
night & he was talking about having sex
after prom. I was so shocked cause i
didn't even have that in mind! Idk what
to tell him. I told him i didnt know. It
kinda creeps me out, cause like i said we
are just friends. He even said that he had
bought some "freaky Stuff" like handcuffs
& he bought me loangrie. (not sure how to
spell) My mind is just blown!
What would you girls do in my situation?
What would you tell him?
Thanks in advance!
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Rosie H
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Posted: 04-25-08 14:00pm
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Well he just sounds like he got sucked
into the idea of sex on prom night and
since you are the girl...well you get the
picture.
Honestly I would just tell him that all
you are is his friend and only his friend
and just cause its prom does not mean you
will fall into bed with him. And if sex is
what hes looking for then he better go
with someone else.
Just be honest and tell him exactly how
you feel.
Last edited by Rosie H on 04-25-08 14:01pm; edited 1 time in total
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Maddie34
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Posted: 04-25-08 14:01pm
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Uh, if I didn't want to have sex or do
anything with him then I wouldn't. Just
because you're going to prom with someone
doesn't make you obligated to have sex
with them.
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Marianne0558
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Posted: 04-25-08 14:22pm
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Obviously he thinks of you as more than a
friend. Don't lead him on, tell him
straight up it's not happening.
Sex is not obligatory because he bought
you a corsage and escorted you to a dance.
Otherwise, that would be called
prostitution.  j/k
Be honest with him. If he is really the
good friend you think he is, he will
understand.
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Posted: 04-25-08 15:23pm
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I'd definitely just straight up tell him
how you feel. If you don't want to have
sex, tell him that. If you just want to
stay friends, tell him that. He may be a
little embarrassed but its better than
having to face it when he whips the
handcuffs out after the last dance. Good
luck!
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Aunt WeeWee
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Posted: 04-28-08 13:38pm
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Thanks for all the replys! Yesterday on
the phone he brought it up again & i
told him that just because we were going
to prom together dosnt mean we have to
have sex prom night. I told him the
thought hadnt even came to my mind until
he brought it up & since we were jus
friends i realli didnt feel comfortable.
He sounded a lil dissapointed but he said
he understood, but then he asked me to
atleast think about it.......
Awys Thanks for all your guys help!
<3 christina
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Rosie H
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Posted: 04-28-08 15:49pm
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sounds like he just wants some....since
hes already a friend maybe he thinks it
will be easier for him....i dont really
know. I experienced some of the same
pressures in high school too....hes just
young.
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Posted: 04-28-08 16:02pm
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Yeah I think so too...besides, having sex
can ruin some really good "just friends"
relationships!
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Uhh yeah...
Posted: 05-07-08 23:50pm
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That's actually crazy. weird he'd think
that you wanted to so much that he went
out and bought stuff for it. I am going to
assume you confused him in some way. (as a
guy i get confused with girls because they
tend to not say what they want... "i hate
you" means you are such a good boyfriend,
"i hate sex" means give it to me NOW, "i
want sex means" i want to get attention or
feel sexy? "you look cute" means never
wear that again) why cant things just be
simple?
yeah sex should be saved for someone you
truely love, not just a friend. someone
you can picture yourself being with for
the rest of you life (just an opinion).
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Posted: 05-07-08 23:56pm
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hehe, thanks for the input
PlacidIntricacy, but this is a women's
chat. You're posts may get reported.
Feel free to post as much as you want in
women's sexual health forum 
And I just realized you're new, welcome to
the forum!
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PlacidIntricacy
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yeah.
Posted: 05-08-08 14:50pm
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Thank you, and i am sorry... but yea, i am
new!
it's okay, i just wanted to give my input.
ill stay out of here for a little bit
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Posted: 05-08-08 14:59pm
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SOMETIMES IT DOESN'T HURT TO HAVE A GUYS
POINT OF VIEW AS LONG AS IT IS IN GOOD
TASTE.
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PenguinsRus
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Re: yeah.
Posted: 05-08-08 17:11pm
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| PlacidIntricacy
wrote: | Thank you, and i am sorry...
but yea, i am new!
it's okay, i just wanted to give my input.
ill stay out of here for a little bit |
Maddie is right; there is no male posting
aloud in the women's general chat.
However, you can post in all of the other
womens forums if you want to (sexual
health, vaginal health, breasts, etc).
Thank you for your input either way
though, and welcome to ehealth.
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Aunt WeeWee
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Re: Uhh yeah...
Posted: 05-09-08 13:38pm
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| PlacidIntricacy
wrote: | That's actually crazy. weird
he'd think that you wanted to so much that
he went out and bought stuff for it. I am
going to assume you confused him in some
way. (as a guy i get confused with girls
because they tend to not say what they
want... "i hate you" means you are such a
good boyfriend, "i hate sex" means give it
to me NOW, "i want sex means" i want to
get attention or feel sexy? "you look
cute" means never wear that again) why
cant things just be simple?
yeah sex should be saved for someone you
truely love, not just a friend. someone
you can picture yourself being with for
the rest of you life (just an
opinion). |
I totally agree with you, sex should be
with someone you truely love! If I did
confuse him, i dont know how. He knows
were just friends. Actually last year, we
tried being more then friends, but it only
lasted about 2 wks, cause it was just too
weird and we both decided to just stick
with being friends. we never did anything
thou. Some people say that he acts like
he has stronger feelings for me then just
friends. I just dont see him as more then
a friend. I actually have a boyfriend
too. Aywys, thanks for tha reply!
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Aunt WeeWee
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Re: yeah.
Posted: 05-09-08 13:39pm
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| PlacidIntricacy
wrote: | Thank you, and i am sorry...
but yea, i am new!
it's okay, i just wanted to give my input.
ill stay out of here for a little bit |
By the way, i didnt mind you replying on a
womans chat, but it is for women. Thanks
thou! Welcome to ehealth!
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PlacidIntricacy
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Ahh
Posted: 05-09-08 22:03pm
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yeah, you're welcome. and thank you all
for being so nice and responding to
anything i said.
and to respond to what you said Aunt
WeeWee you have a
boyfriend. you definatly should go to prom
with him! i wouldnt go with anyone but my
girlfriend even if she couldn't go. prom
just doesn't seem right without the right
guy (or girl).
just a thought based on my prom
experiences
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Aunt WeeWee
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Re: Ahh
Posted: 05-12-08 10:13am
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| PlacidIntricacy
wrote: | yeah, you're welcome. and
thank you all for being so nice and
responding to anything i said.
and to respond to what you said Aunt
WeeWee you have a
boyfriend. you definatly should go to prom
with him! i wouldnt go with anyone but my
girlfriend even if she couldn't go. prom
just doesn't seem right without the right
guy (or girl).
just a thought based on my prom
experiences |
Well see the thing is, I told my friend
that I would take him to prom, before I
got with my bf, so i really couldn't go
and tell him he cant go. I would feel too
terriable about it.. Plus my bf is not a
prom person and he's a junior and dosnt
want to go to prom til his senior year.
Thanks again!
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Posted: 05-16-08 23:14pm
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maybe i'm late on this subject but unless
you're dating the guy and serious i
wouldn't..which honestly how common is it
for high school relationships to go past
high school...giving it up on prom night
is so cliche and causes way more stress
than it should..i'm SO glad I had a good
guy friend with no expectations afterwards
and i'm definitely glad i waited until i
was in love, don't be pressured into
anything especially if you're just friends
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