Guys generally are discouraged from post in the Women's Sexual Health forum...just to give you a heads up, you may not get many replies.

Being very open with my partner has helped our sex life A LOT. We have always talked everything through, and sex is no different.

Recently, we've started doing "night sex." We used to have to plan sex before...which was not exciting and boring to say the least. In the evening, without say anything, the other partner just starts kissing the neck and really going for it. Sex has been TONS better because of that. It's spontaneous, and it's SUPER hot. It seems so simple...but we didn't really have this figured out before.

Also, oral has been the best thing ever! For almost all of our relationship, we've been doing oral. Because of this, we can experiment and really have fun. Most nights...that's what we do.

We don't have a really daring or out there sex life...we jsut talk about what makes each other feel good and focus on that. That's what makes it so good.

So you mean you planned sex before actually takin action.?...Wonder how that works..It just happens...well actually in my life, I usually know when it is going to happen...But anyway...night sex?..Hmm...Sounds like you enjoy it;).......plus I think you are soo right..What could be better than being open with your partner and telling each other everything!...Although in my case I go through a slight tiny problem...When I'm with my boyfriend, there times when I just want do soo much more and feel soo much alive!...I just don't find the best "moves" neither words to let him know!..I know how to get him very horny(whats another appropriate word for it)...But I would like for him to get twice as more and give me pleasure as never before........I know, things should just come out of you and your partner, but a little advice or help wouldn't hurt me...Oh by the way, were not living together, I think thats why Im asking all this....

Guys can post here, as long as the question pertains to women.

It's only the men's chat and women's chat sections that are restricted by gender.

Planned sex? YES!! Read up my post in women's chat for a discussion about that lol...

I think the best thing you can do to make your sex life better is to change things. Anything! Change the location you normally have sex, change what you're wearing (get some sexy lingerie) change how you feel, smell (massage/lube that is scented or warming or tingly) change the lighting... anything!

My partner and I also got this game "A Hot Affair" that gave us many more ideas and inspiration. I'd suggest it... like, a thousand thumbs up.