Well, don't force it if it's not there. There is nothing more annoying than having sex as you simply go through the motions. I also see the potential for it to get really...as you said, routine. Almost down to the T...how he will touch you, how you'll touch him, what clothes come off, etc.

When I work, I get stressed out and literally have no interest in sex. Now I have the summer off and ready to go at it as soon as he gets home, but now HE'S stressed. We are having sex more often, but there is no way we could keep up an every day thing.

I wish you luck...but I'll say it again, don't force it if it's not there.

Eh..I remember my boyfriend and I would have sex everyday that i came home(but for 8 months of our relationship we were long distance) so things were pretty hott for a while, we've been together about 2 years now and have sex maybe 4-5 times a week I'd say, but idk about doing the daily thing...to me that does seem like sort of a routine...my boyfriend works late nights especially on the weekends so sometimes after a hard night we're both just ready to cuddle up, watch some tv and go to bed....but I agree with the previous poster...I wouldn't want to force it and sometimes i or he just isn't in the mood

plus...what do you do during..."that time of the month"...???? my boyfriend is very very weird about NOT touching me during "that time" to the point to where he WILL NOT want to have sex DAYS before and DAYS after! Its ridiculous!Somehow he knows my birth control schedule(maybe bc i used to mention when I needed a new pack and when I did that he would swear off sex for a week and a half at least grrrr!) but i've STOPPED mentioning that bc I'm tired of him saying "no" like 3-4 days before it comes bc it never comes early/late anymore since i'm on the pill!

Worrywart, ever try sex in the shower? Seems like a fun compromise.

Did the book give any hints on what to do when you're both stressed or to help make sure it doesn't become routine? Those are the only two problems I could think of.

we have, before aunt flo or during? bc during he will NOOOOT do anything with me lol...he really wont let me do much for him either..he'd rather lay off for a few days and please himself...it used to bother me so much though because if he sees me take my pills, he knows what the white ones mean and if he sees them approaching he won't do anything..at all! its ridiculous! When I NEVER get my period until the 4th placebo...so that used to mean like a week and a half of no love for me haha...until i got all secretive about when I take my pills he never knows now so HA...lol

they have books for difference positions for every day of the year thats interesting..yesterday was "tarzan meets jane" ..i couldn't help but take a sneak peak while at the book store haha

I'm a really big wench, and that would piss me off if my boyfriend refused to touch me during that time. Not that I would really do anything (bloating, cramping, feeling sick) during that time, but it does make me feel better if he says he doesn't matter.

oh it matters to him haha...i used to get SO SO frustrated bc i'd get in the mood and try to initiate things and he'd be like "nooo your 'thingy' is coming in a few days"...omg...i've been on the pill for a year...it comes at the EXACT same time...i dont really like to do things during that time either so..it doesn't bother me during just right before and after bc he's so weird about it lol...thats why i take my pills secretively now...so he doesn't know when its coming anymore..problem solved

Well...like I said, I'm a health forum. If he said that to me...I'd throw a fit about how offensive to my body he\'s being.

We'd probably end up showering together and having that fun.

Glad you fixed your problem though.

We did allow for a few days (illness, cramps, etc) where we can take a break. We do have sex during my period, though, usually. As long as my cramps aren't too bad.

Thing is, Maddie, that I didn't actually read the book, just heard about it on the View and on a radio show. They didn't get into the actual issues. The part that interested me, though, is that they said they behaved differently towards each other during the day, more like they were dating again.

However, they were an older couple and weren't dealing with working full time and going to grad school full time as well.

We've been together for 6 years now, married for 2. We're just looking for ways to keep it up and make sure our relationship is still the most important thing while we are dealing with going through real life. Plus, we both really like sex and would like more!

Update- it's been going well so far, still fun and exciting. I wouldn't say we have really changed toward eachother, but we've also been dealing with the holidays, away for a friend's wedding, etc. so we've been having a lot of fun (and sex) in general.

i haven't gotten lucky in....gee 4 days and I've TRIED idk what it is with him lately..he just doesn't want any action...i swear I'm getting quite frustrated...its not necessarily the sex itself but the intimacy that I start to miss alot, even if its only been a few days...oy...maybe I'll try again tonight..though its hard since I've been shot down so many times already..i start to think whats the point!

Glad it's going well for you Georgia!

thanks

hope things improve, worrywart!

happy to hear you are doing well too. I suggest massage. Hubby and I havent had as much sex since I have been pregnant. Mostly because I cannot take my estrogen cream so it can be painful at times. But we are attending birth classes once a week and we do relaxations/massage each time. At home we have experimented with massage lotions and oils to practice our relaxation for labor.

Well it has become a very fun thing for us. We do our relaxation excersise and we both get to feeling really relaxed and in tune with eachother and I swear that it leads up to such amazing sex! And I love his hands anywhere on me so while Im "relaxing" hes turning me on! By the time our 20 mins of relaxation is up I am sooo ready for him that I dont have any pain!

This may be a great way to have sex each day along with something extra. It really takes away the stress and tension from the day and ultimately makes sex more enjoyable I think. You could try massage a couple times a week to add some variety to the every day sex thing???

You should try little game type things, like tell him to meet you at a hotel at a certain time and don't tell him why. Just tell him to meet you there at whatever time and hang up! Show up after he does wearing a long coat with either nothing underneath or sexy lingerie. Or leave little notes around the house so when he walks in the he has to read all these little clues to find you waiting for him in a room! You need to keep sex fun and playful or else it probably will feel to routine. Try new fresh things everytime, like different postitions, different times of the day, places, even try different themes and costumes, or your car lol, go to the drive in movies that will make you feel like your dating!

That sounds wonderful! I agree, I love when he touches me... just anywhere at all, I just love the feeling of touch.

Great idea

---> will try this week! I have the summer off (work doesn't start until september and neither do classes) so I have plenty of time to get this together.

Anyone else with me?

haha...well things have gotten better for me..things still going well georgia?

husband is still enjoying this i take it

oh sure... just a little break while we were both sick lol

what"s your sexual fantasy, Try it!