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bbfeet9

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Sex Drive Totally Dead
Posted: 03-06-08 08:42am

I am 51 years od. Went throught meno 4 years ago. It was early. All the women in the fam experienced early meno as well.
Anyway...I used to have a powerful sex drive. Sex was always great. Since going through this change, i have no desire at all. Can't take hormone replacement therapy due to thrombosis, and smoking.
In the event that i do have sex, my orgasms are very very faint, almost non exsistant. Nothing turns me on anymore. Looking at other men, creating a fantasy, masterbation, movies...nothing works!!! My poor hubby hasn't had a good roll in the hay in "seems like forever"
I notice that he frequents the internet porn sites. I can't even get mad as it's MY fault.
We don't seem to be "emotionally" connected either. I really think he is slowly pulling away from me a little at a time. Maybe i should fake being interested. When we do connect, i lay there thinking of a million and one reasons why i don't want to lay there. I was so uninterested the last time that i actually counted the claps of thunder and flashes of lightening going on. Not from us (stormy day) I can't remember when i felt thunder and lightening during love making. I would so love to feel the earth move. (what is that) Embarassed
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antigone

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Posted: 03-06-08 09:31am

Have you talked to your gyn about this? If there are no solutions there you try googling sexologist and go to some sites and read. There are supplements that do help with some of the menopause issues. Jarrow Formulas have several formulas that are designed to help women. I took one, midlife ease, for itching. I knew the trigger was hormonal as I had this same itching when I was pregnant. Within about 14 days the itching was so much better! I could where a long sleeve shirt where as prior to this I couldn't have anything touch my skin as it would trigger this itching. It was like someone was pricking my arm from the inside with a needle and then I would itch. This would go on for hours. Nothing relieved the itch. After a month it was gone completely. Many of these supplements use phytoestrogens. They are plant extracts that have naturally occurring compounds that are bioavailable to the body. Jarrow Formulas have a nutritionist available to talk to if you need some guidance. This is one of many companies that have products available. Sexologists may offer some other sage advice. This is a very common problem for us girls. Let us know what you find out. I am sure others can use some tips on this. Hope this helps.
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Btec

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Posted: 03-06-08 09:55am

My wife - 53 - has struggled with much of the same thing. What helped her most severe meno symptoms was some stuff called Hot Flash - found it in a natural food store (they can't keep it in stock!). She doesn't want to consider hormonal therapy because of a family history of cancer - this was a good natural alternative.
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