Have you talked to your gyn about this? If there are no solutions there you try googling sexologist and go to some sites and read. There are supplements that do help with some of the menopause issues. Jarrow Formulas have several formulas that are designed to help women. I took one, midlife ease, for itching. I knew the trigger was hormonal as I had this same itching when I was pregnant. Within about 14 days the itching was so much better! I could where a long sleeve shirt where as prior to this I couldn't have anything touch my skin as it would trigger this itching. It was like someone was pricking my arm from the inside with a needle and then I would itch. This would go on for hours. Nothing relieved the itch. After a month it was gone completely. Many of these supplements use phytoestrogens. They are plant extracts that have naturally occurring compounds that are bioavailable to the body. Jarrow Formulas have a nutritionist available to talk to if you need some guidance. This is one of many companies that have products available. Sexologists may offer some other sage advice. This is a very common problem for us girls. Let us know what you find out. I am sure others can use some tips on this. Hope this helps.

My wife - 53 - has struggled with much of the same thing. What helped her most severe meno symptoms was some stuff called Hot Flash - found it in a natural food store (they can't keep it in stock!). She doesn't want to consider hormonal therapy because of a family history of cancer - this was a good natural alternative.