Hey there sorry to hear what you are going through beleive me I know exactly how you feel. I had these same pains for a couple of weeks and I figured it was cause my cervix was so low and he was hitting it. A doc never told me this but I could feel the cervix myself! Well after about 2 weeks that went away and now we can have sex. But I have to be very careful at the position. Usually we start off one way and end up finishing in another. Doggy style is the worst for me and missionary is the best. But it really depends, cause my body changes. So my advice would be to try all kinds of different positions to see which one feels the best for you. Also if your hubby is long..hehe..then you may have to ask him to not go in all the way. I have had to do this with my hubby. All in all you need to experiment.

I also have vulvar vestibulitis...painful sex. I cannot take my estrogen cream cause I am pregnant. SO sometimes I am so raw from only one sex session that we have to wait a week for me to heal. MY hubby has gotten very frstrated and I too have forced myself to have sex with him. But he almost always knows when I am in pain and tells me to stop. SO I know how frustrating this must be for you. But its also not fair for your hubby to blame this on you. Maybe he can got to the doctor with you and hear from the doctors mouth that this is just a part of pregnancy.

Well best wishes

Have him read up on pregnancy and all it's pains. Don't have sex if you don't want to. Your emotions can effect the baby, and if you're not happy the baby knows it. You husband should be more understanding. Tell him that this is a temporary thing and that you are not trying to trick him. (In fact the sex drive in pregnant women often increase again at about 24 weeks)

Men have a strange feeling that they absolutly have to do something about thier urges. I have never understood this, but my husband and I have had long talks about it and that's what he says. Still I tell him to find some other way to deal with it because I have a strange urge to not be in pain.

Good luck!