sex after a hysterectomy different for men?

Hi tinyt and welcome to ehealth: I would have to say that it may be better for the man...I say this because I had a Tilted Cervix...Because of this problem, sexual intercourse, was never a straight in shot...It could hurt...We found after my Hysterectomy that making love was better than ever....And may I add, gets better every day...Take care...

Caroline

I am a woman that has not has sex in 12 yrs and I'll tell you why.
I had mine when I was 37, in 1987. I was married and had been for yrs. The only difference I noticed was, I was no longer having pain, and of course the cancer was gone. I do still have my ovaries.
After 20 yrs of marriage I divorced and began dating. I dated 4 men in that time. I'm not promiscuous, but I wasn't shy with who I dated. A little more than 12 yrs ago I dated a man for a couple yrs and one night he told me, in a fit of anger, but said it just the same....Having sex with me was like a bottomless pit. I was humiliated into silence. That was the end of him and the end of sex for me. For years I didn't have any sexual urges but I have had strong ones for the past year. I'm embarrassed and can't get past what he said to me. Can you help? Is there anything I can do, because I'm lonely and I do want to date and have a sex life again.
Thanks!!

I'm sorry. I had a hysterectomy.
Also, I have been told that the uterus is a ''bottom out'' type thing for the man and this is what gives him that final help to pleasure. I'm so lost about this.

Hi pankd4yrs...When I had my Hysterectomy, my OB-GYN told me that my Uterus was tilted and now sex would not be a problem...Before this time my husband was hitting the end of it and it hurt...Since that time sex has been awesome..I have never looked back...

My best advice to you is to go for it...Forget about what you were told...If you don't talk about it I doubt any men would notice...If they did so what....Maybe if their sexual equipment was larger then it would make up for the shortcoming....Believe me, I would not be put down....

You are lost about this because you choose to be lost...Get out there girl and have some fun...To me and with some age in back of me, sex is the most awesome and rewarding experiences of our life...Kind of makes the world go round....

Good luck and I hope all goes well...Take care...

Caroline