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Ever since I was in 4th grade, i've had SEVERE anxiety, I couldnt go outside without feeling nervous, and getting panic attacks,
i used to be a top grade student but all my grades went downhill cause i couldnt go to school,
and when i was in 5th grade i got sick from anxiety, after i ate junk food, so i feared junk food, and stopped eating it, and i ended up stopping eating in total without realising it, so i had to be sent to the hospital to recover for 4 months.
By 6th grade ive developed OCD and i cant sleep without knowing small things like my feet are covered and its stupid really.

Right now i'm in 9th grade, homeschooled. And 14 years old. I had to leave school cause its so severe, i had to run out of the class room cause i felt like i was going to vomit, i get tunnel vision i feel dreamlike sensations, my head gets buzzy, i get sweaty, i have irregular breathing and everything.

I've read topics on this website, and most of you are older than me, yet i'm going through the same thing,
I just want to know how to deal with it. Im 14, and currently i cant do things i love. I LOVE art, and acting, and designing clothes, and air cadets, but i cant do any of it and go out to classes without panic attacks.
I feel so ... abnormal and stupid. Everyone my age gets to go out and have fun, yet i stay and panic 24/7

Also i dont know if it has to do with childhood trauma?
I was sexually harrassed by my brother and my parents were abusive for many years, they also sent me away to a group home when i was in 3rd grade cause my ' best friend ' drugged me, and it threw me completly off balance.
I used to have a problem with anorexia, and self harming aswell.

Sorry for long paragraph just trying to explain;; I feel hopeless, its caused a sleeping disorder, and i have to take pills to sleep, and pills to eat, and pills to stop anxiety, and deppression pills.

Nobody my age does that.......
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replied February 20th, 2010
try "CBT" cognitive behavior therapy

its for "all kinds of anxiety in general" and specially for "social phobia anxiety"

its amazing and willl help you alot
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replied December 23rd, 2012
im fourteen and i have the same problems im a girl thogh i researched and nothing helps..
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replied February 23rd, 2010
think positive!
Hi, im 16 and going through exactly the same thing.
Its so upsetting and frightful, but you are not alone.
Nobody seems to understand and the sickness/panic attacks are what make things impossible to get through.
Just take each day as it comes and try not to worry, try getting a healthy diet and sort out sleep patterns.
Meditation helps me a lot and reading to.
Just relax and slowly start to go out to places and see friends.
If like me its caused you to lose friends then try and discuss with your friends if that doesn't work just remember there is always someone!

I know how you feel, just please try and smile!
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replied February 23rd, 2010
hi nadia

what you talk about is called exposure its a face your fears concept

but it never work

i had social phobia anxiety for 13 years im 27 now i tried what you mentiond here for years but it never work

until i finally find the best cure and maybe the only one its called "CBT" try it your self and you will see how it will change your life
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replied March 1st, 2010
Hope
I'm on the site researching some information for a presentation to the staff for a local school, when I saw this string.

I had anxiety attacks 25 years ago while a pilot in the military. The Panic attacks were debilitating to say the least. I started really fearing these attacks and would think of endless "what if" scenarios. My heart raced, when I had these attacks, I felt dizzy, like I was tumbling end over end, and I felt unreal. I felt like I lost my "normal" life.

I had no idea where to turn for help (this was before the internet!). There was no consistent message on what these attacks were let alone a definitive treatment. Fortunately, I stumbled on Dr. Claire Weekes, "Peace from Nervous Suffering". She was a medical doctor in Australia who suffered from an anxiety disorder and was able to treat herself through it. She devoted a large part of her life to the cure of this disorder and she helped me immensely. One day, I hope to hug her in the hereafter!

Panic Disorder and Anxiety attacks are completely curable. No question about it. There is a biological component to it that is independent from the triggering event whatever that was! To cure these attacks, you do not need to uncover past issues. The cure does lie in psychological awareness but physiological imperatives that help keep you and I alive and helped our ancestors do the same. I am not a doctor but I now this disorder as well as I know anything in my life. If you google the web, you'll see endless sites devoted to the cure of anxiety disorders, mostly by lay people who've experienced it.

Now here's the kicker. It's 100% curable and you will get through this. You won't fear a reoccurrence. It's been 25 years and I have not had a reoccurrence and could care less if I did.

When you get through this, and you will, your life will be sweeter than you can possibly imagine right now. The OCD will go (it's comorbid or coincident to anxiety issues) and you will lose the feeling of unreality and with that normalcy will come back to you. But having made it through this, your normalcy will be other people's cloud 9. It's been 25 years for me, with one reoccurrence a few years later, which I dealt with fairly easily and I'm still smelling the roses, having felt like I received a new lease on life!

Remember, that anxiety attacks are caused by your fear of the anxiety itself! You start fearing the Panic Attacks and you start to limit where you go, what you eat, what you do, and etc. The reality is that you've taught yourself to fear these attacks as our ancestors learned to fear real threats (lions, tigers, bears and etc. You're constantly activating your body's "fight or flight" response.

Your body is not malfunctioning but working like a top. You've trained it to fear these attacks and it's complying. You've trained yourself to put Panic attacks right there with the tigers and bears. So when you start to worry and fear another attack, your body is right there with you pumping adrenaline into your blood to help you better cope with this threat.

Problem is there's no tiger!

You've now got all of these chemicals floating around your body with nowhere to go. So they apply themselves to helping to make any Panic attack worse and to making your stomach turn, your head feel dizzy, tunnel vision, and a racing heart. Compounding this is how long this has been going on for you and the fact that your body is in a state of constant vigilance.

Now the good part; finally! These attacks cannot hurt you! Not no how not no way! They are awful to experience but they cannot hurt you and they cannot go on forever. Your body has defenses that will always stop a Panic attack from being overly long. Operative piece; the attacks cannot hurt you!

The cure lies in not fighting these attacks but accepting them. Allow these horrible attacks to come and just "float" through them. Make this pain your friend. Go to places that you know will cause an attack. Ask your body to produce one. You're brave for having suffered so long with this. You can do this!

What you will be doing is retraining your brain to remove Panic Attacks from the tiger and bear list. The only way to do this is to not fear these things. Sounds impossible but you can do this. With repetition you are going to start getting these attacks less and less frequently and they will start to lose their sting. Eventually, over time, you will break the cycle and once you do your body will finally "stand down" and start to relax.

Remember, no more fighting these attacks! Let them come and when they do, float through them and let them pass the way they always have and always will.

As an aside and as mentioned, there are many excellent programs on the web that teach the general concepts I was mentioning above in a far better manner.

Make sure you are talking to trusted adults and health care professionals about your feelings and your condition.

Good luck and do not give up hope.

You are already on your path to recovery!
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replied November 8th, 2010
i'm 14 and i'm going exactlly through that exactly. tomorrow i'm going to the docters and am getting pills for my panic disorder, but not only do i have panic disorder i have seperation anxiety. i've had panic attacks ever since i was in 3rd grade. it's hard but go to a threrapist and get the right medication and you should be fine. i hopw i will. the weird thing is that all of these websites says it mostly happens to girls but i'm a dude and it is so hard to live life like this so hang in there everyone and get some help that's all you can do.
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replied February 20th, 2012
My Anxiety
I'm 14 and i have very bad anxiety. I don't get it all the time though. I don't know if it is normal for me to have anxiety at this age. I'm scared and I don't know what to do. My step dad won't take me to a doctor. So I live with these anxiety attacks. I get sweaty, stomach pains, dizzy. A bunch of other symptoms too. I get them when I'm around someone I like. I get very bad ones when I'm about to get in trouble. I also get them when I'm eating. I don't know why I get them. It could be because I've had multiple childhood trauma's, but like I said my step dad won't take me to a doctor. I need help getting rid of them without going to a doctor if that's even possible. My step dad refuses to believe me. He says it's just a phase. Please Help!
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replied February 25th, 2013
I know how all of that !**@! feels, I'm 14 and in 9th grade too and it's a living hell..:'/
But I have to go to a high school though because I kind of always manage to find a way to hide it from my parents, especially my dad. I just get so worried about how they would react and how everyone in my family would see me or even worse my friends.. I really only have one real friend who might not care and not think of me differently, but even when I kind of throw hints at him that I have anxiety and depression my anxiety kicks in just from thinking about it and I end up sounding so stupid and just weirdly describe my symptoms without ever actually getting to the point and being straight forward or direct with him. So in the end he just tries telling me its probably nothing or its mood swings or I'll get over it and useless crap because he has no idea what the funk I'm trying to explain since I'm so awful at communicating my feelings around people with my anxiety/depression kicking in when I don't want it to...
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