It depends how much of YOUR self worth is on that and how much YOU want to let it be about that.

What i dont get is why does people who are bad at sex think they are a bad man? Being a man isnt all about sex and the sooner men reaise this the better they will feel

I totally agree. when my now husband and I first got together he wasn't the most sexually experienced and I wasn't always satisfied in the bedroom, however, he was an amazing man, did and still does everything for me. Someone I know truely cares about the way I feel and my happiness, even though at first I wasn't happy sexually his love for me was more than enough, after some pointers and a little practice in the bedroom he was soon up to par, and now everything is even better than great! Know that sex is never the solution or answer, who you are as a person is the answer.