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Q: Self-Conscientious and depressed....
asked by: Klynn on March 2nd, 2008
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Recently I have become more and more self-conscientious. I always hear my guy friends (and even my own boyfriend) talk about hot celebrities. I do not look anything like these stereotypical women and I cry every night because I feel fat and believe that I do not have large enough breasts to be a real woman. I don't know what to do, please help with some advice.
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marvel
replied on March 2nd, 2008
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Do not base your self worth on celebrities (who are, more often than not, fake). I would suggest talking to your boyfriend about how you are feeling. If he is making you feel this way, he deserves to know. If he doesn't do anything about how he is making you feel, he is not worth your time.

I wish you the best... if you ever want to chat, feel free to Private Message me!
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sonia_x
replied on April 2nd, 2008
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you are beautiful!
trust me...Why would u want to be anything but yourself?

Most celebrities are air brushed and covered in make up from head to foot...im very surprised that they still actually look human!

Dont be upset about what your guy mates and your boyfriend says...most guys are like that...Most fantasise about celebs but that is all it is...a fantasy

I can tell you love your boyfriend alot, Let me ask this question

if you really was fat and ugly, would your boyfriend be with you?

The answer is...he loves you. He must find you attractive and curvy otherwise he wouldnt be with you. Most guys fantasise about skinny models but in the real world, it is the curvy women they prefer with personalities..not stuck up famous people with child like figures. If it really is upsetting you so...speak to him about it. he probably doesnt realise how it is affecting you and your confidence.

dont worry about your figure and embrace your womanly curves!! yes

=]

i hope ive helped x x
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antigone
replied on April 2nd, 2008
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Men can be very insensitive with the things they say and how they behave around women. Our society puts a great deal of stress on women to measure up to this ideal image of a woman. The image the media and Hollywood project is false - like smoke and mirrors. There are all kinds of tricks used by celebrities to enhance, alter and change how they look. When you see pictures of these women in everyday clothing, hair pulled back, most of them look like you and me - regular women. There is nothing wrong with that. Natural beauty really exudes from the inside outwards.

Your boyfriend may not be aware of how that makes you feel. My husband was insensitive early in our relationship. I told him how it made me feel inadequate. That was all it took. He didn't do the "guy thing" around me. Guys may look at women and comment and that may be their nature, however, they do not need to do it in the presence of their girlfriends. Let him know this is not ok with you and you would like him to abstain from doing that when he is with you. If he cares about you and how you feel this will not be a problem for him.

Go to the mirror as you get yourself ready in the morning. Tell yourself, outloud,
"I am beautiful, I am sexy, I am wonderful, I am ME". You will be surprised in just a few days how that will change how YOU feel but others will see you in that way. It does work. Just keep saying it over and over. The transformation from within will occur and others will see it on the outside. You are a women and virtue of your female form, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Believe it and the world will see it.
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notsaying
replied on October 5th, 2009
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i had the same problem..Ive been with my b,f nearly 3 yrs and about a yr ago i noticed when we was out or on holiday he would keep looking at women..over stepping the line..he wud'nt just notice them he would keep looking why i wud stand there and see him..even when id talked to him he wud be looking over my sholder..he would keep looking untill he got the womens attention and still then he wud'nt stop.i cud'nt work out if it was cos he used to have low self esteam and was seeing if women find him attractive..id lock myself away and cry.be moody alot,our sex life got worse and i cud hardly touch him..my self esteam got very low and felt my boobs and body was'nt gd euff for him..it got to a stage i was thinking about leaving him..so i thought it was time to tell him. i told him do you wont to know why ive been so grumpy for about a yr now..i then told him he was stepping over the line and i didnt wont him to walk with his head down but to not cross the line..it was like he was cheating with his eyes and he and the women would be sending mesgs via eye contact..i told him he stops it or im walking..he didnt realy have a gd reason to why he did do this but he said sorry and would stop..put ur foot down and tell ur b,f it makes u not feel worth much and if he loves you he wont do it why ur present and rub it in..hope this helps, x
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